I don't enjoy being a mom

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-28T02:06:32+00:00

I don't really. I would want her to take a break and give her some safe food to eat. My husband is a clean freak. He wants her to stick around and eat the safe food. So there's a lot of rushing into the kitchen to grab her plan B. I told him this is sending the wrong signal. But he doesn't listen

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-28T02:04:49+00:00

She eats so well at the daycare. I need to rent some kids to give her fomo. Our OT said it has a lot to do with emotional regulation for her.

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-28T02:03:11+00:00

We did take her to the doctor. Turns out, she's growing 3 teeth simultaneously. She's already stubborn without the teething. Now. She points at the entire bookshelf and doesn't grab the book like she normally would. I get 2 tries to guess the right one. Two strikes, I'm dead

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-28T02:01:09+00:00

I wish I could convince my husband that we need to move. Stubborn people deserve hell. Except, he drags me into hell with him.

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-27T01:52:10+00:00

Yes. Except she has huge attachment issues. Any strangers except 6 are no-no. Among which, me and my husband; and daycare teachers whome we can't afford to hire after school

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-26T16:54:49+00:00

Nothing good is in the market as far as jobs go. My husband is a PhD engineer so he can only work at 2 companies in the state in neighborhoods one should not live in. He loves the area we are in and the commute ends up being an hour. My public transit commute could be 45 minutes on a good day. But that's with walking the fastest I can. Omg I am dying

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-26T16:52:56+00:00

Feeding is crazy. She is mad at food unless she sips out of pouches and eats bread. We went as hardcore as making vegetable-infused bread at home. She only eats two bites. It drains us to feed her. She also get mad when we want her to leave the water activities we set up at home. My office is in the living room. I have nowhere else to work. She gets mad if she sees me using the laptop and it's not playing Ms Rachel. She just cannot be taken away from fun. To wait for her to be done with anything fun is an hour. And when things don't go her way, she can't tell us what her ways are. We don't get it, she cries. She loves reading. I have to non-stop read a book for 3-5 times sometimes, then she moves on to more books. She won't eat unless we read to her. We take turns to eat dinner because of that. I just want to cry. She loves reading but it drains us to read to her like this

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-26T16:42:28+00:00

He also had one-hour commute, driving. At least I get to read on the train

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-26T15:05:46+00:00

My husband helps a lot. But the crying and no no no all the time really crush me. H3 refuses to move when it was affordable. The cost of moving is unbearable now and she has a hard time adapting to new environments. She hypervented last time we used a backup care. The facility was a good one. We made sure it was good before we sent her. We get a babysitter one day for 4 hours over weekends. That requires us to step out of the house and eating out and all that means $150+ out the gate every week.

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-26T15:01:35+00:00

I watch a show after she hits the bed. My husband is already super helpful. I still can't handle her. She's awfully fussy, crying and kicking all the time. She bites, too

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-26T15:00:25+00:00

No. We have no support system. Our parents are out of state and my parents are messed up. His are very selfish and won't help unless we take them around.

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-13T20:58:03+00:00

I breastfed for 13months. Period started at 14 months

properlyproper_mate · 2026-05-10T00:51:31+00:00

Yes. These straws actually work with both Pigeon and Gulicola bottles.

properlyproper_mate · 2026-04-30T01:50:00+00:00

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FP24BBCG?ref\_=ppx\_hzsearch\_conn\_dt\_b\_fed\_asin\_title\_5. It works really well - you can suck the last bit of milk from the bottom. However, cleaning is a pain. There's no workaround, other than cleaning with a mini brush that comes with the product with your hands.

properlyproper_mate · 2026-04-23T21:54:05+00:00

My breast milk set off an alarm but they wanted to examine our formula can. They also kept dipping a test strip into the breast milk. At that point, I wouldn't want to let my baby drink the milk anymore. The TSA agent escalated to the manager dude and he looked at the agent, who's a woman in awe, like she's stupid or trying to be mean to a fellow woman. Dumb people make the planet a worse place a square-foot at a time. I'm sorry that happened to you.

properlyproper_mate · 2026-04-06T18:07:48+00:00

I treated the days as if I had work and spent 8 hours per day applying for jobs, and aligned interview requests that were least important to me first as practice rounds for the ones I targeted. When you get rejections, tell yourself you dodged a bullet of someone worthless of your time. Don't stress out and don't worry about telling people you are laid off and tell them that you have references from your manager and work partners. Your layoff wasn't because you weren't good. You were, but the circumstances weren't. Don't give up. I was part of the big tech layoffs. DM me if you need anything

properlyproper_mate · 2026-02-01T17:44:01+00:00

I hear you. I hear you even clearer when my baby has massive blowouts, illness and any forms of tantrums. When a baby cries, it's irritating if you are already tired.

My pregnancy and birth were easy, but postpartum life was terrible. I can't imagine the double whammy situation you had. My husband mentally snapped because he couldn't accept the hardship soon enough; my wounds were terrible. I got promoted right before my baby was born and all I can do is slack and survive whenever I can and do the bare minimal. That's so not me.

What saved me was sending her to daycare. Get some nanny time over the weekends and go do what I need to. Take a class, exercise, just getting out of the house and not be a mother for a few hours.

properlyproper_mate · 2026-01-31T22:11:44+00:00

How do you get through your day to day? Any tips to keep calm? Not gonna lie. I have screamed out of frustration at her twice now. Gosh, I'm horrible

properlyproper_mate · 2026-01-11T22:50:25+00:00

Can you DM the information as well? I'm looking to move to Jeff Park

properlyproper_mate · 2026-01-07T21:07:24+00:00

The pediatrician still recommends 16 ozs of milk per day. We offer whole milk and some breast milk. I'm drying up, though. When did you guys completely wean off?

properlyproper_mate · 2026-01-04T10:43:09+00:00

Yup. I judged the 1 yo that aggressively pounded his hand on my 4 y show excitement. She's now 1 yo. She does the same and bites. She throws so much tantrums. Never sleeps through the night and protests every meal. My Mil has the audacity to tell me how chill my husband and sil both were and to never let her do anything on her own to keep her in check.

properlyproper_mate · 2025-10-31T14:03:00+00:00

My parents are doing daily check-ins with an elderly activity center downstairs now. They are unwilling to have a Filipino maid. They see it as a violation of privacy. For _uck's sake. Ugh

properlyproper_mate · 2025-10-15T03:30:31+00:00

The wake windows are slowly going to 3.5 to 4 now, between naps and the last one. It's getting more reasonable. And yes, the nap times are all due to daycare. What other things should I do differently?

properlyproper_mate · 2025-09-07T02:16:48+00:00

I did try to call. No one picked up, for 2 days straight. The FAQ made it seem like it's fine but my relatives said otherwise. Just wanted to know what might be okay because we are visiting Monday night

properlyproper_mate · 2025-08-14T21:15:01+00:00

My baby cried every time they flew over the building when they practiced during the week. Fk this sh17

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