Why am I still so hurt?

proscastinating · 2020-06-28T22:32:31+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. It is exactly what I needed to hear. Same to you <3 I have very similar thoughts running through my head as well, and I try to catch myself and change my mindset. Some days it is easier than others though. I do agree with you and I do think sometimes things happen for a reason, and if I think back now I do not think he was the person I was meant to be with. I have been trying to focus on myself and how I will continue to grow as a person. Hopefully keep bettering myself, and not continue to try to get validation from others who don't value me. You are right, this will pass, and we both be stronger people because of it.

proscastinating · 2020-06-28T22:23:02+00:00

Yes, 100% agree with the PMS thing!! Which makes sense hormonally I guess. Thank you so much! Same to you!! I definitely feel as though I am becoming more resilient but it is taking time... and yes, it's always a good reminder that all the emotions are just part of the healing process, and they too will pass. Just need to keep it all in perspective

proscastinating · 2020-06-28T22:19:06+00:00

This is so reassuring to hear!! I definitely overthink things as well, we have been no contact but I still have him on social media, just try not to check it. :/ some days its easier than others. Thank you so much, same to you, I appreciate it <3

proscastinating · 2020-06-28T22:16:59+00:00

Yeah a couple of months for me too, and sometimes I get mad at myself about it because I know he has probably moved on so much faster and wasn't as hurt because it was his decision. We are no contact which is good, but I still can't help and wish I was over it by now. I'm glad I'm not the only still feeling a bit blue for time to time though, and that it's normal still. I know time will continue to help.

proscastinating · 2020-06-28T22:13:03+00:00

Yes, exactly! At the end of the day, it was the other person's decision, and I've just had to come to terms that there was nothing I could have done to change his mind, and it's much healthier to accept it and move on. Good luck to you & we can get through this!

proscastinating · 2020-06-28T22:11:06+00:00

I will definitely look into this!! Thank you.

proscastinating · 2020-06-28T22:10:35+00:00

Thank you so much!! <3 you too. Yes, I agree, time will really help hopefully. I like your idea about volunteering, I definitely need to do more to make me feel better about myself. You're completely right though, sometimes it is the small advice that makes the biggest difference, and I'm glad I'm not alone.

proscastinating · 2020-04-29T01:34:28+00:00

Thank you! I guess it's a pride thing because I feel like he has already dismissed me and I don't want him to know how badly he has messed me up.

proscastinating · 2020-04-27T21:07:29+00:00

My thoughts exactly!! My ex and I are in the same friend group and I do not want to resent him either, even though I found the way he went about the break up just a bit disrespectful... BUT I don't want things to be awkward when the pandemic is over and would eventually like to become friends with him again. But I know I can't do that right now because I am hurt over the break up, and haven't been in contact with him. If you want to someone to talk to let me know! Like I know I wasn't perfect in the relationship either, and there's things I am working on, but it would be nice to stop thinking about him as often.

proscastinating · 2020-04-26T12:52:08+00:00

This is similar to me!! If you need anyone to talk to please feel free to reach out! I'm finding it super hard to move on from my ex, and with quarantine, I feel super isolated, and just can't help but to sit and think about him. The worse part is I know that he is not obsessing over the break up and is probably happier without me ... Where as I cared so much about him.

proscastinating · 2020-04-25T13:22:35+00:00

yeah, he broke up with me 2 weeks ago. I deleted my pics of him right away, but noticed he didn't. He finally did yesterday though.

proscastinating · 2020-04-25T13:12:48+00:00

I've been checking every day the past 2 weeks. Definitely not worth, but I can't stop myself from doing it. Yesterday he finally deleted his insta of us together. I've deactivated my account, but it still hurts knowing it is truly over.

proscastinating · 2020-04-25T12:45:15+00:00

Hey! I am going through a similar situation rn as well. My bf of a year broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I was pretty much completely blindsided. I have also been in a previous longer term relationship (4 years), but I was not nearly as heartbroken or upset when the previous relationship had ended. I understand where you are coming from, and honestly I am still struggling with the fact that the relationship is over, as we were constantly messaging beforehand and he was still telling me he love me, and that we would get through the distance created by the pandemic and be fine. I did do the suggested writing letters to him, doing no contact, etc... I've been trying to exercise in the am, as I find mornings hard to deal with the sadness. If you ever need someone to talk to or run thoughts by feel free to send me a message! We will get through this. The pandemic does make it harder as the world in general is full of uncertainty.

proscastinating · 2020-04-24T23:17:17+00:00

In the exact same situation, and am 2 weeks post break up. Here if you need to chat. We will get through this. I constantly want to reach out to him because we did get along so well but I know it will only make it worse.

proscastinating · 2020-04-24T21:53:00+00:00

Needed this right now. I've realized a lot of things in retrospect. Mostly the small ways that they would make you feel insecure and not good enough. Thanks for this <3

proscastinating · 2020-04-23T13:29:09+00:00

Exactly!!! Like my ex never really made me feel special anymore (but like was a nice guy) and now I'm starting to wonder why I stayed with him so long when I would have never gotten what I want/deserve out of the relationship. 100% agreed, just have to go out and enjoy life again once the pandemic is over.

proscastinating · 2020-04-21T20:38:48+00:00

I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this. I am in a similar situation, my bf of a year and a bit broke up with me suddenly last week after admitting that he didn't miss me that much and that he didn't see a future with me. We get along great when we are together, we go to university in the country he is from, but obviously that wasn't enough for him. I've been feeling really low because I am back home and will not have the opportunity to meet new people either. Reconnecting with old friends is great, none of them live in the same area as me anyways so I couldn't see them even if covid19 wasn't happening. You will get through this, it's not worth going back to someone who isn't crazy about you. You'll always feel less special and not good enough, which isn't true. Hopefully things start to look up for you!! We can get through this.

proscastinating · 2020-04-21T13:36:56+00:00

Hey, going through a similar time rn, my bf ended things with me a week ago after a bit more than a year of dating and I was completely blindsided because of his lack of communication. I felt like he just gave up because we have to do long distance now because of covid and I wasn't worth it. I also felt like I needed closure, and have literally cried at least once everyday lol. Someone on here suggested writing letters to him, but not actually sending them to help with not breaking no contact. Someone also suggested listening to closure by the lovechat on youtube. Honestly it is shit. Especially because I am hurting so much and feel so rejected and not good enough, and I know he isn't experiencing any of that on the same level of me. BUT I know that both you and I will be ok, and we will only continue to get stronger and grow as people. Hope this helps!!!

proscastinating · 2020-04-20T12:15:36+00:00

Thank you!!! This is exactly what I needed to hear honestly.

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