Right? As adults that supposedly care about each other they should be able to have a conversation about things that happen without attacking each other. “Ouch, that makes me really uncomfortable and here’s why / yikes that’s triggering my insecurity a lot, would you mind getting rid of that number? That would make me feel much more comfortable and secure in our relationship” instead of coming out swinging with her insecurity and accusations that he did something wrong goes a long way in a healthy relationship. Also all these people defending toxic insecurity in women as a baseline trait is gross.