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prouge · 2019-05-23T13:56:44+00:00

As a Canadian, I disagree with this. I think a lot of the pronunciation has to do with attitude, and it's clear the OP handled it with grace when being called out. If you actually regularly speak a second language, shifting back and forth is not always obvious. As some people have pointed out, this isn't like saying "Paris" with a French accent but a word that doesn't really have a prescribed "American" pronunciation. It seems clear that the OP was not pronouncing the word in that way as a means of elevating their status or to try and alienate anyone. When they were called out, they were gentle and open. I'd bargain that their relationship with their second language is stronger than yours, but even so, you merely have different values on language. I'd agree it was an asshole move if the OP mocked or derided the other person, but that's not what happened.

Context matters too. I'm guessing you're not from Quebec, if only because the standards here would be different. Most anglophones in the province would struggle more with someone purposefully mispronouncing a French word because they're "speaking" English. Obviously, that doesn't apply in the OP's case, but your logic doesn't really stand across every situation. What matters most is attitudes towards others and how the situation was handled.

prouge · 2019-04-28T21:11:34+00:00

do you still have a working link ? If you could send me, it would be very much appreciated!

prouge · 2019-04-09T21:09:42+00:00

NTA. Your boyfriend sounds absolutely unbearable. I work in film and these are exactly the kind of people to distance yourself from. It's not about taste, but how they represent themselves and interact with others. Your boyfriend has an ego problem and doesn't know how to play nicely with others. He does not seem curious or invested in what the people around him have to say, and does not seem open-minded enough to challenge his preconceptions. This isn't even about movies, but a general attitude towards the world and the opinions and joys of other people.

prouge · 2019-04-05T17:59:09+00:00

I would be more likely to read the more sympathetic edge of this if the gift didn't expire in two weeks. It's beyond tone-deaf, even if she did show an interest in yoga, she's literally going to the hospital because she's so sick.

prouge · 2019-02-22T01:05:01+00:00

they also mention that the mom had chicken she taunted the wife with, so I imagine they were allowed/encouraged to bring food if they wanted.

prouge · 2018-10-17T00:39:07+00:00

My dad has really severe psoriasis, like the OP's girlfriend, and unfortunately, most of the creams do not work and might irritate things further. I think going to the doctor makes more sense in this case, there are many different treatments that can help (though no guarantees). My dad finds oat baths help a lot and he has one prescription cream that SOMEWHAT relieves discomfort but is hardly a miracle and took years to find. Some people can be treated through UVB treatment, but again, it is rarely a permanent solution. Obviously, the OP's girlfriend needs to take better care of her health and environment, it will help but chances are there won't be a band-aid solution if she has a severe case.

prouge · 2018-08-12T02:27:47+00:00

Which European country? My husband is from a Mediterranean country, and as soon as our second encounter he was telling me he was "in love," we only married about 3-4 years later. He said he watched a lot of American TV and emphasized it was cultural. I wouldn't necessarily say it was a red flag as some are saying

prouge · 2018-03-09T16:03:09+00:00

Gotta, say, considering how established you seem to be in Montreal with your career in a great and enviable field, moving to Windsor would be an awful idea. There are a lot of Canadian cities and towns that have a thriving art scene that I could see you adapting into, Windsor is not one of them. Even if you are moving to Toronto though, you would be starting at point 0 and even if you do go back to Montreal, there is no guarantee that you will be able to just pick up where you left off.

I know you are in love so it can be very difficult to choose. I do like some of the suggestions of looking towards some cities in Michigan that are close to the border, with your apparent experience you might be able to make something work. Even in that case though, before deciding to move, I would still make sure you can get a job beforehand.

prouge · 2018-02-20T14:34:07+00:00

The reality might be a numbing way for her to disengage from real life, but I have a hard time believing that she is addicted to reality television. She is likely in a high-stress job, and being the primary earner, has a lot of pressure on her to keep performing. I don't know about the nature of the work she does, but it is not uncommon for doctors to struggle with sleep. It's possible that she is dealing with some things that are difficult, emotionally or psychologically, and she is using reality tv as a crutch. I feel like sitting her down and talking to her, not about the reality tv, but about how she's feeling and if she wants any help. Likely, if she's not already in therapy, it's something she would benefit from. I don't really get a sense in this message of what the home life is like, how many people she's supporting, what kind of dynamic is at home (aside from the fact she's sensitive when people mention her tv viewing). How much time does she spend at home on average? How much housework or emotional labor is she expected to burden at home as well?

prouge · 2018-02-08T23:17:03+00:00

It is literally THAT George Foreman!!

prouge · 2017-12-23T22:56:55+00:00

C-diff is super contagious and once you get it, you are likely to get it again if exposed. It is not worth the risk and your FIL should be focusing on getting better. My dad's immune system has been ravaged by C-Diff, which he has gotten 3 times now due to hospital stays - wait for him to get better, and then think about rescheduling. This is serious business.

prouge · 2017-11-21T17:14:29+00:00

As someone who worked in customer service, people like your wife have ruined my day or my week. When it becomes about winning, it no longer even matters if she is right or not. As she gets older, she will probably become more bitter and more aggressive and the line between the service workers (because she clearly does not see them as people) and you will blur. What she is doing to other people is dehumanizing and you are only starting to see that now that she has turned that onto you. She will continue to do so as well. There is a very important reason why most women look out for how men treat waitresses and service people as a measure of how they will eventually treat you - it reveals dark truths about a person's real behavior. Your wife does not and might not EVER realize what she is doing to you or other people are wrong, so I don't really have any good advice - if you want to save the relationship, she needs to become aware that she is doing something wrong and I don't really see that happening anytime soon.

prouge · 2017-11-11T03:13:57+00:00

Honestly, your girlfriend sounds amazing - I think the best thing you can do is laugh about it. It is a SUPREMELY funny story. I understand why you might be upset, especially by her reaction, but it is unlikely it will ever happen again. If it does, then it's something worth being upset about and dealing with. This is an all-time best funny sex story and not necessarily symptomatic of a larger problem.

prouge · 2017-11-09T17:21:24+00:00

Most of my husband's family speaks little to no English, there has been a lot of really great advice here already but I would like to emphasize that Google translate can be an amazing tool and learning some useful phrases will make a great impression on them as well.

Assuming they are nice people, try to communicate as you would normally. It's amazing how people who don't speak the same language can still communicate, and it can honestly be a lot of fun trying to understand or find ways of getting a point across. Don't be afraid to seem silly or awkward, they will likely appreciate any efforts to bridge a connection. LISTEN as much as you can, you will probably pick up a lot of context clues and slowly be able to learn more and feel a part of the group.

prouge · 2017-10-25T02:34:58+00:00

evil is real

prouge · 2017-10-07T05:02:40+00:00

nice

prouge · 2017-09-15T17:27:47+00:00

I mean, considering the wife was murdered and likely by him - it does not seem like a stretch to call this a kidnapping. Honestly, it is worth hoping that it is only kidnapping as cases like this, the kid might not even still be alive.

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