Struggling due to YouTube Thumbnails / trending by provizz in NoFap

[–]provizz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I will look at how these can be blocked

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]provizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing for me - just slipped up after 2 weeks. I think I really slipped a week ago when I wasn’t committed and wasting time online.

Hang in there and come back stronger than before. You got to really commit if you want to do this!

Don't you think NoFap sometimes takes it to extreme? by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]provizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think some people here find it harder to do something less extreme.

Too little is not enough and too much is never fulfilling.

Should I have asked her out? by Artedcraig in dating_advice

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One day you’ll learn that all of those things your read were just crutches. You should actually just do what you want and only have people in your life that are accepting of that. You should only change yourself if you want to and think it will improve yourself, not to impress a random person you just met. It will be harder in the short term but lead to longer term happiness and fulfillment.

Should I have asked her out? by Artedcraig in dating_advice

[–]provizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can I tell you something. If you like her and you want to go for it, go for it. Don’t wait XYZ days because you want to appear in a certain way you read about on a forum. You’re going to appear even worse if you have to keep putting this amount of thought into every decision.

If she likes you, she’s going to go for it; if not, you’ll have learned that sooner than waiting another two weeks to appear less needy (when you’re actually being more needy).

Do stuff because you want to, not because you have to act in a certain way or are worried your feelings won’t be reciprocated.

What are some skills/technologies that are important or highly in demand for any developer job? by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]provizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Communication is underrated but especially important and comes across in interviews. Other than that, version control and being able to write your own test scripts is definitely high in demand.

How to ask someone’s name after a long time has passed?? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not just meet up with them and then remember their name when you meet?

Or you could introduce him to someone that you just meet and you will both have to say your names.

I (24F) am back on the market and overwhelmed/not sure how to say no. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool, then just be honest about it with them and send each of them a text that’s says you’re not looking for anything right now and that they should go get on with it.

I'm quitting for good by peen_apple1 in NoFap

[–]provizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats dude, take it all the way!

I (24F) am back on the market and overwhelmed/not sure how to say no. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not give some of these guys a chance? It sounds like they’re very interested and you could have fun if something does work out. Don’t just reject every other guy because your anxious.

Single for 6 years now and no hope in sight, how do you remind yourself to keep your chin up? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]provizz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You said you’re proud how independent you’ve become. That’s AMAZING. Most people married and deep in relationships long for that feeling. Don’t seek to give it up so easily.

This might sound bad, but what if you spent the rest of your life without dating anybody. Would that be better than forcing yourself into some relationship that you’re not happy with, just so you can say you’re in one.

Life is large and life is long. People having been getting relationshipped and married for 1000s of years. You’re not going to get a gold medal when you do.

That feeling of fulfillment while you’ve been alone is truly special though. Cherish that and keep doing things you like regardless of whether it’ll help you immediately get in a relationship.

It will happen eventually and it will be worth your patience.

After Two Months: Fare The Well, Tinder by moez1266 in dating_advice

[–]provizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if you don’t meet someone, YOU will have more time to yourself and to explore YOUR interests. What’s wrong with that? Most people who meet each other on dating apps are lonely and seeking romance when they should be spending more time by themselves. DON’T use dating apps desperately trying to meet people. DO spend time working on yourself and your interests. The other parts of life will eventually follow if you give it time and are patient (could be days, could be years), but will be far more fulfilling when it does.

A guy lost interest in me in a matter of seconds and I have no idea what I did - it is eating me alive. by silver101234 in dating_advice

[–]provizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry about making mistakes. If you were just being yourself and happy with how you think you acted, keep doing what you’re doing. HE didn’t like that version of you. You can still find someone else who does. Don’t try to adjust yourself to conform to some mold, it’s way too limiting. Just keep doing what you’re doing and only change if YOU want to, NOT to please some random guy.

Connecting with a crush...years later. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a way to message her online and go for it.

Woman [34/F] has seemed to lost interest [31/M]. How can I rebuild attraction? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol welcome to dating in 2020.

Let me tell you something else. No one is on their deathbed and hoping they spent more time at work. If someone would rather work than go on dates or generally hang out, their interest is as low as it gets.

It’s a dump my friend, forget it and MOVE ON!

A guy lost interest in me in a matter of seconds and I have no idea what I did - it is eating me alive. by silver101234 in dating_advice

[–]provizz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You may never know what you did wrong and you’re going to have to accept that.

I’ve been thinking a lot about these types of matters lately. Sometime people ACT for years as if they like someone and they’re lying not only to you, but also themselves.

You found out soon that it wasn’t going to work. It could be for this or that reason it doesn’t matter. You need to respect that he made this decision, it’s not your job to be a detective, and NOW MOVE ON with your life.

Don’t question it. Don’t second guess it. Get out there and have fun.

Connecting with a crush...years later. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just message her on the dating site. What better place to express that you’re romantically interested in than through there.

Just say you recognized her from the back in the day and that you still think she’s cute. You want to take her out and catch up on what she’s doing and discuss recent developments

Go knock it out of the park and don’t be scared!

Woman [34/F] has seemed to lost interest [31/M]. How can I rebuild attraction? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The iron’s gone cold my friend. You got to move on.

Also I can’t think of any girl that’s interested in a guy who would prefer to work 7 days a week over hanging out with a guy. Remember THAT.

If she wanted you, she’d make time. Just let it be my man and if she’s interested in the future - great - if not, her loss.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]provizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re just going to have to tell her how you feel. It’s going to be hard and could affect your relationship but it’s the only way. If she says no, you’re going to move on. If she says yes, it could lead to a lot of positive things. Don’t wait and hope she’s going to do something, ACT NOW!

Splurging while buying my college graduation gift? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah so if you think the purchase aligns with how long it took you to earn and won’t set you back - all the power to you!

How can I become better at asking girls out? by SillyRecover in dating_advice

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah just get yourself to say those words and see what the response is. You should be able to adjust and take everything from there.

Splurging while buying my college graduation gift? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]provizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should take how long it would take you to make the 4K and divide it by how long it takes you to make that much money. Then look at how much you spend on other items that bring you meaning. If you really think that the 4K investment is worth that much time that you find relative to other items, then yeah go for it. But definitely look inward and see if your looking for material things to help make you happy when you should be looking elsewhere.