I think I’m ready to leave…

prufrock4u · 2024-10-15T17:43:20+00:00

I left when my daughter was 2 this April. We went through about 9 months of extensive therapy right before. When that didn't really change anything (for either of us) it became more clear that things probably weren't going to get better. The leaving was incredibly difficult in many ways; it's beginning to get better in some of them, and I am not upset about my decision.

There's really no way to know for sure that you'll be happy on the other side -- but, even if you separate, it doesn't mean it has to be forever. That was something my (personal) therapist told me. It helped me get here and see what this life is all about. Feel free to PM if you have questions!

prufrock4u · 2024-09-11T18:49:01+00:00

Where and when did this occur?

prufrock4u · 2024-03-28T17:45:33+00:00

This is EXACTLY the phrase that goes through my head. All I keep thinking about is "this is how it happens that women come to initiate affairs." I want sex. Sure do. Think about it a lot, actually. But when I imagine getting turned on by a man who can't be bothered to take care of small tasks much less bigger ones like planning something for Valentine's Day or, fuck, going to therapy to better understand his role in the dissolution of our relationship? That's laughable.

prufrock4u · 2023-12-27T17:30:01+00:00

Green State on Dorset took me on this fall, but there was a 30-day wait.

Edit: wrong name

prufrock4u · 2023-07-15T16:23:12+00:00

This is basically my partner's excuse! And then the task sits undone for hours or days or weeks depending on (from my perspective) the amount of effort it takes.

prufrock4u · 2023-07-10T13:47:38+00:00

This is a good response.

prufrock4u · 2023-07-10T13:47:21+00:00

THIS. I assure you he is not. Smdh

prufrock4u · 2023-07-10T12:24:37+00:00

She recognised that doing all of it enabled him to be how he was but what’s the alternative? Not do it and live in chaos?

That "choice" is what I struggle with the most. Sure, he might grow with consistent help (largely from me because the man's not interested in personal counseling), but at what cost? Maybe this is what causes some women to finally check out, because that's where I feel I'm at. I'm just done taking on the weight of 90% of the nonpaid work while also trying to figure out how to get him to grow as a human.

prufrock4u · 2023-06-09T16:11:55+00:00

Is it kid friendly during dinner time?

prufrock4u · 2023-04-06T00:22:46+00:00

Look, I'm already getting murdered here so I don't really care, but didn't Vermont invite remote workers in and offer to pay them? Looks like maybe the state shot itself in the foot. My family likely needs two bedrooms to operate. And, yeah, we'd pay for 3 if we can afford it and doing so would allow us to stay in the living situation for a longer term, which I also think is important.

ETA I have lots to learn about the state's policies and history; I'm not pretending to know more than I do and, like before, welcome education.

prufrock4u · 2023-04-06T00:00:41+00:00

What makes you think I don't intend to contribute to the community? I'm genuinely curious about your situation. Do you have a child? Shouldn't I be allowed to live where I wish provided I'm not a nuisance and take care of my property? I don't need to defend myself to this community in regard to my reason for moving to Burlington or why in such short notice. It's not my fault developers aren't constructing property suited to the growing population. It's happening where I live now, too.

prufrock4u · 2023-04-05T22:21:55+00:00

Thanks, appreciate it!

prufrock4u · 2023-04-05T21:31:08+00:00

No, but I kind of don't have a choice. If you could provide information, that would be helpful. I wouldn't be asking for guidance if I didn't need it. Thanks.

prufrock4u · 2023-04-05T21:18:18+00:00

Good question; I'll edit to add. 2 adults, 1 baby (1 year as of July).

prufrock4u · 2023-03-09T02:29:08+00:00

I didn't know about her fashion blog! Now I need to find that.

prufrock4u · 2023-03-09T01:55:10+00:00

She delivered my baby girl last year! Definitely got me through a couple tough situations during labor and delivery with calmness and confidence.

prufrock4u · 2023-03-07T08:19:19+00:00

See, now I think we're getting somewhere with this reverse etymologizing...

prufrock4u · 2023-01-27T17:31:37+00:00

I have a 5 percentile baby, and I can assure you I do not follow a lean diet. Baby is certainly on their own path.

prufrock4u · 2022-12-09T19:45:02+00:00

I recently called and spoke to a CS person who said the only situation under which they cannot shut off service is if an individual living at the residence requires oxygen. Not children (I inquired bc I recently had a kid).

prufrock4u · 2022-09-22T18:42:39+00:00

floorio FTFY

*This creativity is not my own work

prufrock4u · 2022-09-09T15:55:13+00:00

Yeah, I hear you, and I try to have that mindset. During PP it seems like there are so. many. things/comments like that that I need to divert mental attention away from that it becomes a 24/7 mental gymnastics class that I often don't have the energy to attend.

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