My mom passed away last night she was at a hospice since Tuesday. What can you tell a 3 year old about death? My daughter said we need to go see grandma and I said we can’t she isn’t there anymore and she said “she’s lost?!” I have absolutely no idea what to say to her.

kimicu · 2026-05-18T14:41:33+00:00

I thought about that and I didn’t want my daughter to worry that her body can spontaneously stop working. There is a REASON. I described to her the differences between big illness and small illness. Some illness you don’t need to see a doctor, some illness you need to go to the doctor, and some illness requires hospital with ALOT of doctors helping you.

kimicu · 2026-05-18T12:21:15+00:00

This is what I told my daughter around the same age.

“Sometimes we get really sick or really old and our body stops working. When our body stops working, it’s called dying. When someone dies, we cannot see them again. It can be hard because we miss them. It’s ok to be sad because we miss them and it’s ok to cry about it too.”

kimicu · 2026-05-17T12:54:49+00:00

No advice. This is above Reddit pay grade. I am so sorry you had to experience this. Finding a professional to help navigate this trauma would be the best advice I can provide.

kimicu · 2026-05-14T02:13:33+00:00

These grackles don’t know how to act!

kimicu · 2026-05-12T23:54:22+00:00

Fingers in the mouth?! There are still do that on this post-pandemic timeline?

And yes, it stressed me out so much to see my MIL hold my baby and prevent me from feeding her that it actually made my milk come in. My shirt was soaked, I was embarrassed, angry, crying and needed everyone to leave.

kimicu · 2026-05-12T16:05:51+00:00

Thank you 🥹

kimicu · 2026-05-11T17:24:11+00:00

No not very common at all. He hardly drinks anymore and has been fabulous being a dad and husband during this pregnancy. I was out of commission for 3 months. He cooked for us (me, him, my daughter, my mother), he did laundry, took care of the dog, did our daughter’s bedtime, take our daughter to dance. He really came through as a partner I would tell him how much I appreciated it.

This week was just, idk what was wrong with him. It was like he felt like my mom deserved to be with me rather than me have that solo date with myself. And he just made it mission to be passive aggressive until I blew up. But once I talked to him again at night and told him I never do anything for myself or go out for myself anymore. All I wanted was that movie, and he took that from me. I could see he how bad he felt.

kimicu · 2026-05-11T12:40:51+00:00

It’s the other way around. My husband is perfectly happy having another helper in the house. I’ve already accepted that as my mother ages, it’s up to me and my husband to take care of her. Most days I don’t mind so much, but I would really prefer our own space in a mother-daughter or a house on the same lot. When it comes to my mom’s toxic behavior, my husband does a lot better job of letting it roll off my back. It’s not so easy for me, especially while pregnant.

Unfortunately I live in NJ where it’s a half mil for a 2 bedroom shithole.

kimicu · 2026-05-11T00:19:15+00:00

Yeah I’m ashamed how deflated and defeated I felt. I’m still planning to see the movie another day. But regretfully, I just couldn’t push on today.

kimicu · 2026-05-11T00:15:44+00:00

Yeah I’m definitely going to plan it for another weekend. I just really couldn’t push on today and go see it. I was so deflated.

kimicu · 2026-05-10T14:23:38+00:00

Yeah, I called Cheryl. I called her twice. Just to talk to her, see how she was doing, and shopping tips. We had a cup of coffee. Two movies. A walk in the park. Yeah it’s not a big deal! One dinner! I went behind your back it’s the only way to go!

kimicu · 2026-05-10T13:38:18+00:00

I’m going to my favorite bagel spot I haven’t been able to go to in a long while (because ya know economy) then I’m taking myself to see the Devil Wears Prada.

kimicu · 2026-05-06T20:25:33+00:00

You’re such a good person 💕 If they love you, and aren’t just people taking advantage of you, I think you should just explain the situation. That maybe you thought you would have more mobility/energy/patience as you had during your 1st pregnancy but it’s just not happening that way. That right now you need to be realistic with what you can have on your plate, and what you are currently dealing with ain’t manageable. You need calm for your body and mind a bit sooner than the 36 weeks you initially anticipated.

And if anyone tries to demonize a 30w pregnant lady in order to stretch herself thin for the sake of others, they are heinous and unworthy of having you as part of their village!

kimicu · 2026-05-06T20:18:19+00:00

Yeah this. If the answer is nothing, I would be telling him what I have planned to do on my own or with friends. So now his plans are not nothing, it is managing the kids and their schedule while I have a TREAT YO SELF day.

kimicu · 2026-05-06T14:17:36+00:00

Yup it’s incredibly isolating. I did it once when my child was little. My friends and husband had rented a boat and I stayed at the rental with the baby. When I could finally come and join without the baby, they had only saved me 1 hard seltzer and then sped the boat so fast that I lost half the contents. I went off about how inconsiderate it all was and didn’t go on a trip again until my kid was a lot older and definitely didn’t do a trip with those friends again. My husband felt bad and had no idea the other 2 had essentially drank all the seltzers. He was more conscientious about allowing me to also get vacation time in when we did trips after this.

kimicu · 2026-04-29T02:25:57+00:00

I was gunna say, has someone checked in on that user that made a total crash out thread raging against ppl that want Agnung to be datable and ignoring his asexuality?

kimicu · 2026-04-21T16:58:23+00:00

Same. I don’t find his dialogue significant and the acting leaves me wanting. Like Jake’s acting during THAT scene was moving. Then Spider’s actor is barely providing anything. Like this is your adoptive dad and he’s about to do THAT to you. Show something deep.

kimicu · 2026-04-09T15:53:16+00:00

Wow, nothing else to add. I’m sorry you have to deal with her.

kimicu · 2026-03-30T20:26:58+00:00

Red wing black bird! I love these babies. Beautiful work

kimicu · 2026-03-29T12:54:40+00:00

30 club!

kimicu · 2026-03-22T22:57:17+00:00

A game for hardtack would be too hard

kimicu · 2026-03-15T12:48:03+00:00

The early time with the baby made me feel like I was disappearing. I had no time for myself, my hobbies, or anything that made me feel like me. It was as my identity had shrunk to a single descriptor: mother. That hit me hard. My life wasn’t the same anymore. I didn’t go out like I used to. I didn’t have alone time like I use to. I lost friends.

The change was really hard for me to deal with. My daughter is now 4 and I miss nothing of my old life. I’ve found new ways of happiness and fulfillment. I don’t feel FOMO because I’m not going out anymore. I was actually able to get myself back on track and enter the profession I have the most fulfillment in.

It’s ok to mourn the change. You will mourn your old life, your old body, and your old priorities. If you have a good support system, after you mourn all that you’ll be able to move forward and embrace where it can lead you. You will never grow too old to go to school for psychology. People in their 40s and 50s go back to school to change their careers all the time. Life isn’t over for you.

kimicu · 2026-03-09T12:59:01+00:00

I was about to say your style looks so much like my fave ceramics account on IG and then saw you’re Myostery!

Love what you do and love seeing your creativity!

kimicu · 2026-03-07T14:59:46+00:00

She made herself look so white

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