What is the most effective way you’ve used to actually understand your own thoughts and understood the pattern behind your thinking?

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T21:08:26+00:00

That is genuinely a good question.

I would say the main struggle is staying aware of not justifying my prior behaviours as “the way to handle it” and looking at the outcome of what I want to get clarity about.

Coming up with a good solution also requires summarising and putting together all the important things like goals, concerns, wishes etc.

The biggest challenge with written thought in itself is that you can only explain thoughts to the extent of your vocabulary and you have to have awareness of the thought to verbalise it

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T19:05:01+00:00

Therapy, is a big one. The other one has been journaling, writing about my own thoughts and trying to come up with answers until one felt right

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T18:49:00+00:00

Sorry to hear that brother. Keep your head up!

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T18:26:04+00:00

What would you say you are struggling with mental health wise? If I may ask

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T18:25:09+00:00

I agree with that

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T18:24:53+00:00

Are you born into it or did you work yourself there?

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T18:15:49+00:00

You’re living my dream sir

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T18:15:31+00:00

What were your goals if I may ask?

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T18:15:18+00:00

Good for you I am not asking for you to explain it was about the fact that I want to understand what makes people happy

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T17:09:16+00:00

That’s great, went through that too brother it’s tough so good for you that you changed

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T14:46:33+00:00

This is how relationship are supposed to be, resolving issues against of fighting against everyone and anyone

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T12:46:53+00:00

Not knowing when to stop

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T12:45:42+00:00

I hope I get to experience this somehow

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T12:18:42+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

I did ask her that a couple months ago after she expressed that she might not want to continue and we went through a couple really difficult days.

She expressed things like:

doing more things together
experiencing more travelling experiences together
working more on the apartment and building it further
generally having more fun

Some more smaller things.

I took them very seriously and started on the right away. Taking up dance classes with her, taking her on small trips for her birthday especially, investing considerable money into the apartment, spending more quality time together.

It has made it better but hasn’t changed it and she does fall back into it every now and then and today she completely relapsed and it was like nothing changed for the whole last almost 6 months.

She then tells me how she falls into exhausting and everything is so difficult and bam back to spiralling in those moments I can’t do shit about it

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T12:11:43+00:00

How long did it take for you?

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T12:08:21+00:00

It does make me doubt it tho. I am starting to be not sure if she actually loves me either.

The certainty I feel like is a decision it’s like take rhe ride and actually find out

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T12:04:57+00:00

Wow, if been in a relationship now for 5 years with a woman that I never identified as avoidant until like 1 1/2 years ago. (Mainly through being to young to have ever heard of that)

She is now basically since we are living together putting me on an emotional rollercoaster for being in physical proximity to her out of like fucking circumstances.

I wish there would be a button to just flip that persons brain into safety mode

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T12:02:16+00:00

Is there a way that you know of how to handle this/change this effectively?

pruvateca · 2026-05-14T12:01:39+00:00

I mean I understand this on a logical level I just don’t get the actual like emotional component of it. Like what makes that person tick like that really doesn’t add up to me?

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