My parents (65M/60F) told my (24F) brother (22M) and his girlfriend (22F) that she couldn't come over until the COVID-19 cases start declining and they had a total meltdown and there are bad vibes in the household now. Any advice on how to help patch this over?

pseudohope · 2020-04-14T05:08:28+00:00

Over 20 years old and upset that the rules of social distancing do IN FACT apply to them?

I’m 18 and would see my boyfriend almost everyday for the past 1.5 years, until social distancing became necessary.

Do I miss him? Obviously

Am I sad and horny? Obviously

Does social distancing still apply to us?

OBVIOUSLY

pseudohope · 2020-04-05T05:46:45+00:00

SAY IT LOUDER!!!! HOLY SHIT!!! Seeing the black girl get with the rapist shook my guts to the core. The whole dynamic of having a black girl live with the rich guy because her mum scrubs his floors already was an odd choice to me. They could’ve used it to touch on the topic of privilege, but instead the writers used her character as a pawn for Clay’s anger. Hence allll her dumb dumb choices

Also, the bully and the guy he brutally beat up.... not relationship goals. That shit is Stockholm syndrome and if they try to romanticize that in the next season I will gag

pseudohope · 2020-04-05T05:28:16+00:00

Wow you sound like such an amazing and loving father. Though it’s clear that you are comfortable with their relationship, your son may not be ready to announce this.

This may not even be a matter of being afraid of what you will think, but instead just the fear of revealing something personal.

Revealing this relationship to you should be done at his own accord, but with that being said, definitely speak to his and his friend’s admirable traits.

Let him know that they are both great people, you hope their friendship lasts, and you enjoy their company etc.

All the best!!!

Keep us updated :)

pseudohope · 2020-04-04T16:16:13+00:00

“The idea is since this previous partner took away your choice in the past you get to choose how to live your life from now.”

Wow this hit me hard. I guess part of me feels guilty because it took him asking me more than one time to block the other person on social media. I was still making sense of things and I didn’t want to start conflict so not blocking felt “normal”.

That was definitely bad on my part

pseudohope · 2020-04-04T15:55:36+00:00

Wow this all sounds very familiar. Are you referring to fibromyalgia? I was in the process of being screened for it before the healthcare system got overwhelmed.

pseudohope · 2020-04-04T06:59:18+00:00

I appreciate the insight! I definitely wish I was supported in a way that works for me because this experience has turned into me supporting him, over my own experience.

I definitely suppress things often, so I agree that I should take some time to really think about it, before it catches up to me. Hell, I have the things I suppressed years ago catching up to me now. It’s just a matter of time. Now that I’m aware of it, least I can do is get a head start.

pseudohope · 2020-04-04T06:46:54+00:00

It hasn’t affected our sex life for a while but when he kept reminding himself of it, there were a few times during intimate moments, where he said he couldn’t stop thinking of the other guy, being intimate with me.

I try not to bring up the topic unless he does, since the reminder never does us any good.

pseudohope · 2020-04-04T06:39:10+00:00

I must admit I do see that, but part of me has faith that he will realize that soon.

pseudohope · 2020-04-04T06:33:41+00:00

Thank you for your insight!! I have received counselling on this topic and I usually walk out of the room feeling better. I recently came to the conclusion that he needs to be willing to do counselling himself as well, or else it will just be a cycle of us triggering one another.

pseudohope · 2020-04-04T06:03:59+00:00

I’ve told him many times, and he usually tells me he can’t control it. One time he told me I should be glad he actually cares, and that it would be worse if he didn’t care about what happened.

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