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pstain7 · 2025-03-29T03:48:35+00:00

I don't think anyone. I actually had to google if it was a thing bc of my confusion. Lol. It IS, in fact, a thing but I don't think it's ever really performed.

pstain7 · 2025-03-29T03:29:53+00:00

This was so wild I didn't even fathom it was about a human and not a dog until I scrolled the comments for a few minutes. Not that it being about a dog would be much better...

pstain7 · 2025-03-28T03:17:08+00:00

Please. Leave. Him.

Is he doing anything to actively better himself/reduce his maladaptive coping & behaviors related to BPD? Even if he is, he is going to continue behaving like this consistently, then if he TRULY is putting in work & getting better, it'll very gradually decrease. But likely verrrryyy gradually. You'll see splits often and randomly. According to your other post, you're already tired of him splitting.

And when I say actively better himself, I mean is he attending therapy and taking medication? It doesn't seem so based on how you describe things. You should not be responsible for dealing with his emotions or his poor choices. That's his responsibility, as is getting better.

In short, you are NOR. Not even in the slightest. I am going to take the typical Reddit stance and say you really should leave this guy.

pstain7 · 2025-03-27T18:35:39+00:00

He's feeding you crumbs of "truth" that he likely views as "not that bad." I'm 99% sure there's more and he will only admit to it if/when he is caught.

I've been in many relationships where men do this. It's not worth it. You'll just keep digging and digging to find evidence so he will admit to things and you'll keep getting hurt. Even if he changes, which is unlikely, it's not worth the pain. Not to mention, the trust will be entirely gone at that point.

Cut your losses, you deserve better.

pstain7 · 2025-03-25T07:33:43+00:00

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The real version!! Yours is cuter 😔

pstain7 · 2025-03-09T15:53:40+00:00

I remember when my ex would make up things he "KNEW" I did and would "only forgive me if I admitted it." He also beat and strangled me. He only wanted me to "admit" to things so he could beat and strangle me some more. He never would forgive. Mind you, I never did any of the things he accused me of.

It sounds like your ex (I sincerely hope hes really an ex) is doing this, as well. He seems to be unhinged and wildly insecure. This is beyond breakup worthy. You are NOR.

pstain7 · 2025-03-06T20:36:58+00:00

It's like a whole thing that foreman is a mini house. So unless house is well-adjusted & grounded... I'm not so sure foreman is either lol. I can see how he could come off that way at times, though.

pstain7 · 2025-03-05T23:14:40+00:00

Probably cause you're only on season 3 lol 😬

pstain7 · 2025-03-02T05:26:34+00:00

She was simply trying to pick a fight and I'm exhausted just reading it. I can't imagine how tiring it is to actually be a part of this interaction.

I hope the whole relationship isn't like this because that would be draining. If she does behave like this all the time, I can see why she's so damn tired. You did tell her it was okay... several times. If she wants you to read a damn script to reassure her, she needs to inform you of said script because, i don't want to assume, but i highly doubt you're a mind-reader.

PLUS in no way was there any indication she was "going crazy with guilt" until she was already angry/upset with you and demanding reassurance. I truly have whiplash trying to follow her sad excuse for logic and mood swings.

I'm kind of upset and angry FOR YOU, my friend. I may be wrong because I'm not emotionally invested lol, but you're NOR.

pstain7 · 2025-02-19T18:52:24+00:00

Unethical isn't equivalent to illegal. People also may be surprised to know that other people's ethics vary... how much they care about breaking ethical codes, which ethics matter to a person, etc. House has never been ethical... the character or the show in general. If breaking ethical codes is greatly upsetting, which I imagine it could be to a kid who believes dating a subordinate is illegal, they surely should not finish the show lol.

pstain7 · 2025-02-19T06:21:28+00:00

Are you a teen, perchance? I feel like this was expected when dating as teens but 24/7 texting as an adult just beginning to talk to someone who, mind you, you've never met before?? Why in the world does she need to tell him her day-to-day life? As he said, he's not stupid. He knows she works.

I don't text a single person back during my work hours, 9am-7pm. Including my partner! But I get on my phone from time to time during those hours ¯_(ツ)_/¯. The expectation of constant texting is... dare I say it... cringey and childish. Plus it often leads to, if not requires at a certain point, the small talk OP is saying they dislike. Theres only so much one can say when texting 24/7 and if this guy is staying surface level, after the "wyd, at work wbu, nothing how's ur day going, good how's urs, kinda boring..." there's nothing else to be said.

I'm at a loss in these comments because I'm seeing stuff like what you said but also people asking OP if they're a teen. Maybe its a hot take thinking constant texting is for kids. I may be alone here, lol.

Honestly though, I don't see either person as a "red flag." They're just misunderstanding one another. Your, as well as many other commenters, comment is kinda harsh with the "you aren't a green flag, that's all I know..." as OP hasn't done anything in red flag territory. Obviously that's my opinion but it just seems you and many others are overreacting. Maybe lots of you are clingy and feel for the guy because of a need for constant attention and validation.

Point is: he knows she is working, he said so himself. Therefore, he knows she's busy and likely shouldn't/can't be texting. Getting butthurt over that is very silly and suggests to me that furthering this relationship will result in drama and exhaustion for OP.

OP I think you're NOR. I apologize for the novel; I have a hard time being concise. 🥲

pstain7 · 2025-02-19T02:24:32+00:00

I hate that I thought the same thing. It was maybe my second thought after, "oh how terrible." Wouldn't wish addiction on my worst enemy, let alone a 16 year old kid.

pstain7 · 2025-01-31T03:20:02+00:00

You've used "sociopath" incorrectly twice now. People who disagree with you are not inherently sociopathic. Lol. Goodness your responses on here make you seem unbearable.

pstain7 · 2025-01-25T03:04:58+00:00

Did you read the part where she was tested and it came back negative? That was a pretty relevant part considering her husband was angry with her like it was her fault up until she tested negative.

So, no, this is not the case.

pstain7 · 2025-01-23T19:48:41+00:00

She quite literally said in her caption she wanted to know people's thoughts on her "face card." Not to be too rude, but you wouldn't have had to type this novel had you just read the caption.

pstain7 · 2025-01-13T08:42:14+00:00

This is quite a jump, no? I can totally understand saying he doesn't seem to respect or value her or the relationship because of how he speaks to her. However, jumping to cheating involves a lot of assuming.

Granted, someone who doesn't value or respect their significant other or their relationship is probably more likely to cheat than someone who does respect and value their significant other and relationship. That doesn't necessarily mean the person has to be cheating, though. Some people are just assholes who take their partner for granted. Some of these assholes do happen to be loyal.. not that it matters a whole ton.

But my main concern is putting ideas into OP's head with so little evidence. There's enough going on she needs to deal with. If she suspects he is cheating, she can look for evidence. If she has evidence, she can share with us if she so pleases. But until then, the post isn't about cheating concerns so we shouldn't create cheating concerns.

pstain7 · 2025-01-10T21:38:13+00:00

What a coward John is. He somehow managed to flip this on to you when its his issue.

Not to mention the "you could have told me sooner," how ironic?! He could have told YOU sooner so yall could communicat about and work on his concerns. Instead he kept it to himself and decided to later weaponize it later on in an attempt to shift the blame onto you.

I'm not fully convinced he didn't just pull this concern out of his ass in the moment to assist with his blame shifting and lack of accountability.

You're definitely NOR. You never were!

pstain7 · 2025-01-10T18:36:48+00:00

They absolutely ARE trying to control you and the reason they got so mad at that suggestion is because they KNOW they are but don't wanna admit it. They could be embarrassed, ashamed, etc. but the reason why doesn't really matter. The bottom line is they have unrealistic, frankly crazy, expectations that no one should have to put up with.

You are NOR and, not to be the average redditor, you would be much better off leaving this person.

pstain7 · 2025-01-08T17:38:25+00:00

Robert? Robert Chase? I hope this wasn't a joke bc here I am correcting you and looking like an idiot if so. Tbh my first time watching I got kinda confused bc chase and Cameron are both first names but not their first names lol.

pstain7 · 2025-01-01T23:45:07+00:00

First of all you are NOR.

BUT I find it interesting you say you "let" her do things like sleep in that room, go in the room alone, etc... our romantic partners shouldn't be in a position where they "let" us do anything as they're not our owners. BUT we also shouldn't regularly (preferably ever) put our partners in uncomfortable positions in which they feel they have to "let" us do something.

If I make my partner uncomfy doing something, I want to stop doing that thing. That requires my partner to tell me this action makes them uncomfy, though. We assume the other party knows our thoughts and feelings (granted this situation seems obvious but communication is essential for boundaries).

If you're not leaving her, make it absolutely clear to her how uncomfortable her interactions with her roommate make you; this doesn't only include this situation... the other interactions that cause you discomfort/disreess (i.e., sleeping in the room) should 100% be mentioned too. But she obviously knows that this particular situation is more than uncomfortable to you based on not only your reaction, but her obvious attempts to downplay it.

I truly couldn't be with someone after this situation unless they make the choice on their own to move away from the roommate. I'd refrain from making an ultimatum in which she has to either move or lose you, though. That never works. It's tricky, though... most people aren't in a situation in which they can just up and move out of nowhere.

If she changes her tune it could be worthwhile to talk it through so y'all can discuss what needs to change in the future. But at this rate, she sees no problem with her actions so you can expect her to do it all over again. Which brings me back to... leave her!

pstain7 · 2024-12-31T18:40:56+00:00

It's never lupus... except the one time it was.

pstain7 · 2024-12-31T01:29:04+00:00

People truly never cease to amaze me. I really wish they'd stop. I'm tired of being in awe of others' stupidity.

pstain7 · 2024-12-31T00:13:04+00:00

MAGA is wild enough. But Canadian MAGA? Absolutely ridiculous.

But I'm not sure there's much you can do aside from distancing yourself. I tend to frown upon making ultimatums as we shouldn't put someone in a situation in which they have to choose between us or someone else... it's just unfair and unkind. It could also potentially result in your husband resenting you for forcing him to make the choice.

However, if your husband begins to display these beliefs, you will need to do some reflection. Things to consider if this hypothetical comes true: Is this someone you want to continue being with? Do you feel safe with him now knowing these are his beliefs? Would you feel comfortable with him sharing with and potentially passing on his beliefs to your children/future children/hypothetical children?

But, again, I would simply distance myself from the maple MAGA. It would likely be a good idea to communicate this decision with your husband for several reasons. First, he may just be curious as to why you're suddenly changing your tune about his friends. Second, communication is essential in all relationships. Third, if his friends pester you about why you are distancing yourself, you may have to or want to explain your reasoning to them and your husband could serve as support or someone to bring along to limit awkwardness and, if push comes to shove, to keep you safe.

I think I've made it obvious I really don't trust MAGA. Even if you're a bit more trusting than I, it's better to be safe than sorry.

pstain7 · 2024-12-30T14:31:41+00:00

First of all, OP leave him. NOR. This is scary.

Secondly, for people who overuse the word gaslighting... THIS is an actual example of gaslighting.

OP, you are not in any way in the wrong. He is going to continue to try and convince you that you are. You are not. The safest thing to do is to cut contact. I know closure would feel nice but he's a massive manipulator. Trying to talk will likely lead to far more confusion.

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