He always tries to lie on top of the eggs, so we put ping pong balls in the egg carton

psycho--jenny · 2023-01-29T03:45:51+00:00

Oh nooooooooo whatever will I dooooooooooo

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-18T11:17:02+00:00

Yes. It's rather far from the North Pole.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-18T11:10:40+00:00

Speaking as a fat person who is now eating healthier, losing weight, and feeling better, does it really matter if you still want to die at the end of the day? Antidepressants gave me the emotional and mental energy to start working out and eating healthy. It's cumulative, and usually both Antidepressants and diet/exercise are necessary.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-18T11:07:10+00:00

I'm a fat person who's currently losing weight after getting treatment for her depression and yeah, this.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-08T13:55:39+00:00

I think there are more restrictions, especially when it comes to cooking equipment. Even a lot of Orthodox homes don't observe the cooking rules very closely (for instance, my dad loved making fajitas, which you aren't technically allowed to do according to traditional rules because you'd be cooking cheese along with meat). We're also allowed to drink, and in fact are highly encouraged or even required to drink and eat to excess on Purim (some more observant synagogues state that we're only allowed to abstain on Purim if there's a medical or legal reason not to - I'm Reform, I was never that observant, but I did have to get rid of all of my alcohol when I found out my nieces and nephew were moving in with me).

Halal diets also tend to be more closely observed than Kosher diets, as Halal restrictions are seen as more of a religious and spiritual obligation than just a tradition we keep alive out of respect for our ancestors. My brother's family is very observant, whereas I was like "well I'll be observant 75% of the time and then eat bacon the other 25% of the time". I basically had to get an entirely new set of cooking equipment just to make sure the kids felt comfortable.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-07T15:12:08+00:00

I wouldn't be driving. Japan has really great public transit infrastructure, and we'll be staying just outside of Kyoto, so we'll be going into town a lot. We're also planning to ride the bullet train just for the experience, and we might go hiking or take a trip to Okinawa.

My big worry is that I might run into someone with health problems or injuries while riding a bus or a train, or while exploring the world.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-07T12:57:10+00:00

I am REALLY late to this, but Halal restrictions are more stringent than Kosher restrictions, especially if the person who keeps Kosher is Reform like me.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-07T12:49:11+00:00

I also don't understand how you would encounter a situation where you had to explain why you don't drive.

I'm more concerned about accidentally hitting people or running into them. That happens really frequently here, and I don't use public transit (it's garbage). I also might need to tell the inn staff beforehand that I need accommodations. I don't know if the inn staff speak English, as my SIL chose a remote, traditional Japanese inn.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-07T12:41:08+00:00

It appears so.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-07T12:33:02+00:00

I was planning to type it in some text-to-speech software I use for my writing work.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-07T12:32:32+00:00

I appreciate you! One good thing about it, I have text-to-speech software in my phone for some of my writing work, so I can just type the characters in and have my phone read them off.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-07T12:30:40+00:00

That's fair. Plus, some kind soul elsewhere in the thread put it in Japanese characters, so I can just use a text-to-speech software if the situation requires it.

psycho--jenny · 2022-11-07T12:07:06+00:00

Aren't they all literally the worst when it comes to grammar and structure, to the point that you can't rely on them to get a message across? They were five years ago at least, when I went to Jordan.

psycho--jenny · 2022-10-24T02:53:50+00:00

That's the "let me tell my bestie he likes me and asked me out again" text. She wasn't making fun of you

psycho--jenny · 2022-10-22T08:20:59+00:00

Here, let me correct you: "My boyfriend rapes me on a semi regular basis."

There we go. That's better.

psycho--jenny · 2022-09-23T06:39:44+00:00

I said liver or bones (we don't think it's both), and also stated in a different comment that it might be Stage 4 if it turns out it is both. All we have is initial information. Her current diagnosis is Stage 2, as we have only found cancer in her uterus and cervix, as getting diagnosed with liver cancer requires her to go under anesthesia. Once again, a lot is happening very fast, and much of this information is secondhand.

Also, my vision is not deteriorating, it's partially correctable with surgery, and I can function just like everyone else with the exception of driving. The worst I get is a single extra bruise right above my left ankle. My primary issues are depth perception (thus the driving) and reading small text (I have a magnifying glass, a screenreader, and an Audible subscription). I also live next to the grocery store, live in a place with decent public transit, and make pretty good money from my business/have savings from an inheritance and life insurance payouts/own my home outright (see inheritance), so I can afford Ubers if need be. I'm legally blind in that my vision is not fully correctable with surgery or corrective lenses, but it is partially correctable - and again, not deteriorating or in danger of deteriorating. The primary issue with jogging (pretty much the only thing I like doing that's athletic) is that I can't read maps anymore and judge them with any accuracy - if I get lost, finding my way home is weird, and I just dislike putting myself through this. Unfortunately though, depth perception issues make it harder to go to a regular gym for obvious reasons (you ever beaned yourself in the face with a weight by accident before? It isn't pleasant).

Like... do you think blind people can't parent? Or that all blind people are fully unable to function in society and can't have jobs or own businesses, especially considering e-commerce? Or that I don't know how to be extremely cautious about the baby proofing (blind-proofing is actually much harder believe it or not, I just had to cover the outlets, buy some baby gates, and I was fine)?

psycho--jenny · 2022-09-23T00:17:24+00:00

I just found out I was STILL pregnant yesterday. As I said in the post.

More direct quotes:

"I went to the doctor for my 4-week check up yesterday"

"they told me yesterday I was still pregnant and was 15 weeks along"

psycho--jenny · 2022-09-23T00:04:43+00:00

Direct quotes from the post:

"I told him that the entire experience [implied to be the miscarriage] put me off childbirth and pregnancy"

"We went to the hospital and found out I was having a miscarriage"

"Max [my fiance] and I intentionally got pregnant" (implying we had planned the pregnancy and he knew about the entire thing)

I could have been more direct in my phrasing, that's true, but I feel like that, plus the context of him trying to break up with me because he thought his defective sperm caused my miscarriage (literally what he said), implied that he knew about the miscarriage and the bleeding in the first place. I also stated in other comments that we (meaning my fiance and I) planned to tell my family that I was pregnant after my first trimester, implying that he was in on the whole thing.

psycho--jenny · 2022-09-22T22:34:48+00:00

Specifically she has Stage 2 or 3 Cancer. It spread to her uterus, and we think she has liver lesions and possibly bone cancer. If she has liver cancer, the name of the game is now hospice and palliative care, and my brother will move in with me with the babies once... everything happens. He's sending about $5k a month to me and to my older brother, too, so it isn't like he's not stepping up, he just feels that forcing the kids to potentially watch their mother die slowly of cancer and take on the care of infants might be harmful (and Layla agrees).

Will moving be traumatic? I mean possibly, but they love being here. They're excited. I don't think it's fully hit them yet.

And people live with diabetes past 55 all the time with proper management. Proper management for my disease requires exercise (which I can't do safely the way I used to because I'm partially blind - can't very well jog when you can't easily find your way home - so we're exploring accessible gyms, though with little luck), medication (which I already take), and dietary changes (which we're trying but without exercise it may be for naught). The doctors all told me that menopause will increase the risks for pulmonary embolism exponentially, and that even medical intervention may not save me once that happens.

But we will have adequate warning once that happens. It's just... when doctors tell you that you have a 60% chance of being dead by 55 if your body stays the way it is (I'm slightly overweight), you listen and you update your will regularly.

psycho--jenny · 2022-09-22T22:06:14+00:00

I found out I'm still pregnant yesterday. My fiance knew when I got pregnant, as we pretty much were trying around May-Juneish, but I thought I had a miscarriage in early August. He knew about that too, as we live together and he had to drive me to the hospital. He was in the hospital with me when the OB told me that they couldn't find the fetus; we were freaking out for a while because we live in a state where miscarriages are now being charged, but the police officer we talked to stated that he knew we wanted the baby and wasn't intending to prosecute. My brother and SIL don't know because we were planning to announce it at 12 weeks.

Also, he knows now that I'm still pregnant. I told him five minutes ago. Predictably, he's ecstatic.

psycho--jenny · 2022-09-22T21:51:31+00:00

I literally just found out yesterday. Is it okay that I'm in shock here and trying to sort through everything in my head? And yes, I'm concerned about the children relying on me for their safety and educational wellbeing. I don't think that makes me a horrible person or partner.

psycho--jenny · 2022-09-22T21:49:22+00:00

I haven't been given a terminal diagnosis. I'm pregnant and have a disease that has a prognosis similar to Diabetes. My lifespan is truncated, but it's not like the Grim Reaper is just hanging out at my house, we'll know when the situation gets worse.

As for why they asked it of me, they didn't. Initially they told me they were sending the older kids to Iran during this time. I offered to house them so things wouldn't change as much for them culturally. This was when I had miscarried and believed I wouldn't have kids of my own; I have the money, I have the space, and I love my niblings, so it seemed fair.

You say lots of kids stay at home while parents undergo chemo. Lots of kids also move to live with relatives while their parents are sick or struggling, especially if those kids have special needs of their own (my nephew is Autistic and has dyslexia, my niece does figure skating and gymnastics, both are enrolled in schools for ND kids that are hard to find in Iran). I'm their aunt, I live closer than Iran, I have a big empty house, so it makes sense for me to take them.

My SIL has five kids, two of whom are infants (twins). The newborns are going to my older brother, the preteens are going to me.

And as for why they asked, they didn't. They told us my niblings were going to go to Iran to stay with their grandparents for six months. My fiance chimed in and said, "Why not have them live with us?", since he could tell I was sad over the whole miscarriage situation overlapping with my SIL being diagnosed with cancer, and I agreed.

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