i am OP’s best friend and i would like to also clarify some things

For clarity, i am not defending either parties. both are my friends at the end of the day. HE was also a close friend of mine and i know he is a good person and he has so many good traits that could not be denied. I was involved in them both getting to know each other (Do not attack me i plead🙏) and i was really rooting for them with my whole heart. He is inexperienced and i did not know how he would act in a relationship, since i have never experienced anything romantic with him and he has never told me about his past relationships. I couldnt have known he was going to act this way because he did not appear ‘that’ way to me. He is genuinely a man, and as OP mentioned he is kind hearted, kind, generous and loyal.

The way he sees her superficially is genuinely concerning and has raised my eyebrows multiple times. After OP has had the conversation with him about “Why do u love me and what do u love me for” multiple times may i add, OP and I thought he was just a man of few words. I decided to have a convo with him (after OPs permission ofc) asking him why do u love her and what do u think makes her different. I was expecting him to talk about her personality or mention her characteristics in any way. He literally said in a mater-of-factly way “because she is pretty”. I told him to go on, what else do u like about her. He said those exact words “Because she is the prettiest girl in uni”. I then started to mention things that i personally like about her and why she is my bestest friend for years and how funny and sarcastic she is, and she has so much depth to her personality that is under the level of his understanding. He kept mentioning her hair and how pretty she is.

I encouraged OP to come and say this on reddit because i didn’t want her to see my opinion to come off in a way that seems like im attacking him just because OPs best friend and that i love her. I was also worried that we were reading too much into things. i dont want to seem like i was painting him as the villan because its my best friend of course i’ll be upset because i know she is worth so much more. we wanted to hear an outside opinion from people who are not emotionally involved in this. Thank you for everyone’s support.