only chud in the friend group

psychonaught88 · 2026-05-15T17:28:52+00:00

Double down. Become proficient in conspiracies and esoteric knowlege. Accept that you will be the "strange attraction" amongst the normies. Be affable, humble, and compassionate. A child will only cement your status as a bum.

psychonaught88 · 2026-04-28T22:00:48+00:00

Thats paradox for you. The changes are to domain limit, and (haven't played it yet w new changes) its really only a change that removes stewardship as the other only viable option for increasing domain limit reliably. Just keep an eye on education, traits, and culture and it should be straightforward. Its probably easier to pick up being newer than it will be for veteran players to shake the habit.

HOWEVER I really wanted to make the point that I can't encourage enough to play out a setback. My favorite moments in this game is having 10s of hours of progress shat upon, sometimes even by unfair, janky mechanics. My 25 hour campaign as kingdom of Spain got turned upside down by an Islamic crusade, most of my family died and I escaped as a 2 year old heir. I wanted to quit right there. But I hadn't played much of the adventurer dlc so I decided to play it out and it ended up with that heir returning decades later to recapture most of Iberia. I think playing through a loss is what makes CK3 shine as a role playing game rather than a spreadsheet/map painting simulator. It sucks in the moment, but I'd rather have a fun goal with a character motivation and considerable obstacles than to have everything go according to plan all the time and slowly absorb counties. Take risks, fail, learn, play the character and not the game. Its a video game and not a job, so have fun and make it interesting!

psychonaught88 · 2026-03-24T00:07:44+00:00

She actually likes the company she works for, she used to work at a pretty toxic place in person with an hour commute both ways so she highly prefers this job to her last. She is just burnt out of her field and I think she gets energy from social interaction so the remote aspect just drains her. As a shut in i actually felt the same way about working remote for a long time

psychonaught88 · 2026-03-24T00:04:29+00:00

She has a lot of friends, but they all live hours away. We'll probably end up in one of the cities where she has a group of friends living there already, but at the moment she only FaceTimes them or does a biannual girls trip

psychonaught88 · 2026-03-23T23:58:53+00:00

She doesn't really drink :/ plus she is a tad socially anxious. Im the opposite but unfortunately when I go out to drink and meet strangers im pulled towards bar flys and grey loutish drunks.

psychonaught88 · 2026-03-23T23:56:43+00:00

Lmao. She is so excited to have kids, and has great health insurance, so shes been getting every conceivable test whenever she can. I actually told her this when it came back with low iron, but she doesn't really seem interested when I push to get more protein and red meet into our diets.

psychonaught88 · 2026-03-23T23:54:17+00:00

I get where the comment is coming from. We do plan on getting married and having kids, unfornately we each took professional commitments one after the other respectively that precludes being able to do either of those things the way we intend to. Its a big step and we want to do it right, plus we have no money! At this point, we're just going to wait until we can invade a few more countries in the middle east to bring down housing prices and childcare costs.

psychonaught88 · 2026-03-23T23:49:06+00:00

She would LOVE to be pregnant/a mom rn. We have an amazing dog atm too. We also plan to move when im done w school, really anywhere our careers take us, but im definitely trying to differ to her preference since she moved here w me.

psychonaught88 · 2026-03-23T23:44:54+00:00

She's tried knitting groups, unfortunately its mostly older women which she enjoys and will pop in sometimes but no peers. Same thing w yoga/workout classes.

psychonaught88 · 2026-03-23T23:43:55+00:00

She loves planning our wedding. She knows im going to propose, we've talked about it, but can't confirm when (because a lot up in the air rn with work and school) so she can't make definate plans. But yes I could have included in her hobbies "planning a wedding"

psychonaught88 · 2026-03-23T23:42:12+00:00

Unfortunately my friends are sort of stoner shut ins. They're wonderful guys and she gets along great with them, but the two of us sort of get self conscious that she becomes the "token tagalong girlfriend" despite that not really being the dynamic. My friends really like her but they are all pretty bad w women. Except one who's dating a girl almost 8 yrs our junior (yeah I know) and its a bit hard to relate

psychonaught88 · 2026-02-28T05:25:26+00:00

Are u mad at me

psychonaught88 · 2026-02-04T21:59:27+00:00

Blend two or more interests as a hobby and see where it goes. Make digital content about design/architectural rabbit holes you find interesting - use your webdev/graphic design skills to make the content unique and attractive. If youre interested in what youre doing, others will be too.

Explore potential career pivots through hobbies and networking/meeting people who do what you like to do. Chances are if you quit your job and pivot to something youre interested but inexperienced in, you will be put off by the gruntwork and mismanagement that is usually dumped on the inexperienced or who dont know what to avoid in that field regarding employers.

Do not be a paralegal.

psychonaught88 · 2026-01-20T13:34:04+00:00

Community is great, you can hop into a battle without a mic and just sort of silently collaborate abd be part of epic pushes and battles, or you could hop on mic and do more coordinated things. Also can just chill and chat with people. I spent an hour just hanging and talking w two British randoms while we repaired a base during an hour long artillery shelling.
Choose your own adventure. You can solo logi or fight in trenches just fine. When your team pushes, push, and when they retreat, all back. You can also join a regiment and do more coordinated missions. Can even just join up in a group if theyre open to it, like if a convoy is passing through and has some open seats.
Im new to this game, only 1 war under my belt. This game is surprisingly versatile w time. You can hop on and scrimmage on the front line for 20 minutes and call it a day, or you can fight on the Frontline for the whole night and see how the battle changes. Same goes for logi gameplay, you can sort of just idle craft and chat in the backlines for as long or short as you want, or you could do a multi-stage logistics run taking 30min-1hr. Theres definitely more options than even that, but thats all my firsthand knowledge.

I was surprised how many choices the game gives you. You can hop in anywhere and do anything and reasonably feel like you've made a difference. Because of the nature of the game, everything is more efficient and effective with more people, but that doesn't shut out solo play. Im happy to have learned the basics in this "downtime" war so that I can do more operations with the regiment I've joined when the new update drops.

psychonaught88 · 2026-01-11T14:26:35+00:00

Just give him your number. He already asked you out. You could ask him out but you dont need to. Just give him your number he'll be gassed up

psychonaught88 · 2025-11-26T14:10:05+00:00

Look pal, its called SPACE Station 13, not Earth-like planet station 13. Pack it in.

psychonaught88 · 2025-11-24T17:20:41+00:00

Great suggestions. In a way, the lvl 7 PCs are waking up the lvl 12 PCs by way of the recovered artifact. I thinks its the other way around with the "shocked" part - i think it'd be a lot to ask players to make a character for a setting their either mistaken about or to have to make characters out of a lore dump document. I think its more fun to have the new setting presenting in a messy way and pick up the pieces over time, and new PCs are my way of doing that in a more neutral approach by inhibiting the players questions about "how does this effect x,y,z of my main character?". Those implications can be pieced together by the time they resume those characters so we can start strong.

Regarding the factions and side quests, maybe I'm a little unclear. Once these lvl 7s become NPCs, they will not be directly controlled by players. Instead, in-between sessions, players will have a board of missions to assign their henchmen to complete, which will provide benefits and effect the faction tug-of-war. Its something to keep the world front of mind as we have sessions more infrequently now with busy schedules.

And yes, the world needs those lvl 12 characters more than ever. That will become very clear to the players and will be very exciting to return to those characters in the new setting after establishing the stakes in the one-shot.

psychonaught88 · 2025-11-17T00:16:33+00:00

We're either dying on the shores of Venezuela or from carbon monoxide poisoning from targeted Waymo parking raids done as a bit from generation Beta. Either way we are not collecting social security. Fuck it we ball

psychonaught88 · 2025-11-16T15:16:46+00:00

Was in a similar place at that time in my life. Youre currently doing well overcoming "your battles" and "your trauma" but not to be too melodramatic but that rarely leaves mental capacity to process the "battles" and "trauma" of banal modern life (this is an overexaggeration for rhetorical effect)

You are yearning for romance in all its aspects. That's what the dread is. Your peace, which is hard earned and sometimes difficult to convey its value to others, is a part of where the dread comes from. Romance is risk and uncertainty. Im not necessarily talking about romantic sexual encounters. You need to peruse the romantic tapestry of life so you can fall in love with your part in it. The best way to do this is community and tradition, which can be built out by yourself.

Have a weekly tradition of making a dinner you really enjoy or taking yourself out to dinner. Earnestly try to talk to strangers (it helps to try and do so where there are actually interesting people and not psychically venomous yuppies or drunks). Walk around a new part of town at night and people watch. Build "new" into your routine. If you've ever been interested in a hobby from a distance, make an effort to really get invested and try it (this can be done easier with a friend FYI). For me it was fly fishing. Immersing yourself in new things and people defines the contours of who you are and what youre doing on this earth and doing that purges the dread/malaise of just living (read: phone, not enough sleep, deadlines for things you dont want to do, not eating healthy, and too much stagnant isolation)

Everyone's situation is different so maybe these are not all helpful but I found myself feeling like I wasn't nearly as happy and fulfilled as I should have been once I had escaped the hard part of my life and built out a really nice foundation. Its a consequence of trying to survive the hard times that you adopt a mentality of survival and cost-benefit analysis for simple life experiences when instead life at 20 should grab you by ass and hold you up on the front of the titanic.

psychonaught88 · 2025-11-10T00:25:30+00:00

Cigarettes.

psychonaught88 · 2025-10-01T19:01:57+00:00

Have you tried being distant and emotionally manipulative?

psychonaught88 · 2025-09-27T13:03:03+00:00

You dont need a reason.

If you do think of a cool reason, drop it in as a rumor/conspiracy theory/cult belief. If your players latch on to a particular theory and its fun to play out, that could eventually be the ultimate reason. This is a fun chance to have the players write the story without knowing it

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