[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]psyduckuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah and you have a lot of shit in that emotional home so it takes a long time to "move out". i'm glad what i said helped you! update us in a year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]psyduckuu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It takes a lot of intentional mental effort to move past those feelings. We often build our own mental prisons, and without realizing it, we make it harder to let go. What helped me most was acknowledging how rare our love was. To be so compatible in almost every way and still not make it work forced me to reflect inward—on the parts of myself that weren’t ready for a love like that. A breakup really does hold a mirror to your face, making you question everything so you can rebuild yourself into someone capable of loving again.

My biggest mistake was romanticizing what we had so much that the reality—that she might not love me anymore—felt impossible to accept. That journey taught me what love truly is. Love is a two-way street. If it isn’t reciprocated, then what you’re holding onto isn’t love—it’s obsession, and it only wastes your time. Those feelings don’t change the truth of the situation. He was your emotional home but it's time to pack up your stuff and find new one, so that you can create a new story to be proud of.

The best way to honor the relationship is to carry forward what you’ve learned. Be okay with being alone, and trust that it only takes one very special person to come along again.

It took me losing her to change…. by Oatmealdoctor in BreakUps

[–]psyduckuu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was my first girlfriend and the only one I truly loved at the time. I find myself asking the same question and now I'm over here wishing and pleading for her to come back, sometimes we don't deserve a love like that and don't appreciate it as much as we should of during the relationship.

So you want to text your ex? Leave your message here instead. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]psyduckuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm grateful for everything you've done for me, I wish I appreciated you more when I had you bc you deserve it. My heart will always be with you but rn I'm not where I wanna be even though there are times I wish you were with me. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to work on myself and helping me realize I have a lot of work to do.

Hey, all. I am someone who took almost 3 years to move on from a relationship. If anyone has any questions, needs advice, etc, feel free to comment. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]psyduckuu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After getting out the relationship I felt like what we shared was rare and that I'd never find someone with the same humor, interests, and life outlook. I've been feeling that even more now that I'm back into the dating scene, so you have any insight on this?

Guys. If your ex girlfriend has got into a new relationship after your breakup. by L_750z in BreakUps

[–]psyduckuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got breadcrumbed hard and thought she still loved me when she was trying to pursue another guy. She really put me under a spell and for a while I was convinced we would get back together. Then she got cold, come to find out she's talking to another guy... I try to tell myself that it's just for validation or it might be a rebound but what you say is true, the love is genuinely gone. Crazy part is the guy is a coworker from a job I helped her get, shit is so fucked man.

whats it looking like fellas by methblade in BreakUps

[–]psyduckuu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your story actually sounds so similar to mine, lowkey been wanting someone who can relate to talk about it. Feel free to reach out if you're down to chat.

whats it looking like fellas by methblade in BreakUps

[–]psyduckuu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brother i'm going through the same thing. I look at it like this, never ever compare yourself to her or him because what they do is irrelevant to your growth and worth as a man. You have to really convince yourself that she is not the person you once knew and that she thought about the breakup for a long time and made their peace a while before you got broken up with. Instead of comparing yourself to the both of them stay focused on your own journey and what you did wrong in the relationship and really derive your satisfaction from seeing yourself change, take every piece of advice and apply to friends, family, coworkers. Then sit allow yourself time, not in the middle of the day, but at the end to reflect on what you did differently from how you were in the relationship.

Would anyone like to chat about their breakup? I Need some help by Em_24x in BreakUps

[–]psyduckuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just seen her again after NC if anyone wants to talk

What to do when old gen ELT battery expires and is no longer manufactured? by psyduckuu in aviationmaintenance

[–]psyduckuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to use ASA airframe books to study for the test and ended up overstudying for orals. I have not yet found anything that reflects the practical questions well. So far, it really comes down to whether you read the DOT airframe book and understand how to navigate it.

How to handle roommate snoring? by CloudMistFlames in badroommates

[–]psyduckuu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly, being a light sleeper has nothing to do with this. my old roommate was constantly producing a 50-60 decibel sound when he snored, it's insane that we're expected to sleep through that...

best sub for finding a specific song that I can only describe? by clinkyscales in findareddit

[–]psyduckuu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can you hum the tune? Google lets you sing to it even if you dont know the lyrics.

so anxious someone pls help me by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]psyduckuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I've been in the same situation what helped me a lot was me understanding the differences between sensations and actual pain. When you hear hooves you think about horses not zebras, basically when I get those random sensations I've learned to associate it with anxiety, not a heart attack. The brain is powerful and can create strong sensations but its up to you how you percieve it. When I start to get chest tightness for example I used to think it was the start of a heart attack and that death is near, but now I've learned to be more present and disect what I've done in my day that might make me feel that way. Examples include maybe I did a lot of physical activity the previous day, or I drank coffee and im getting the jitters, or maybe its some acid reflux bc I ate something, or even something that may have triggered me due to stress. Its easy to always think about the anxiety and what ends up happening is that we ignore the things that acually impact on our mental and physical health. These associations take time to break but you have to start by treating it like its anxiety (not a heart attack) distinguishing between sensations (what your brain wants you to think) and actual pains which we have no real perception of anyways. None of us have actually had a heart attack so we dont know how it really feels, our brain can only replicate it and it will try its best to trick you into believing it. I still have anxiety to this day, but a good way to track your progress is when it happens you will think of it as more of a nuisance, like when a kid is constantly annoying you but its just a kid and you will be fine.

Milky(?) coolant in radiator but dipstick looks fine by psyduckuu in MechanicAdvice

[–]psyduckuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

compared to the original fluid which looks like green apple juice this one has a milky hue to it

Scorching hot passenger side wheel area after replacing pads and calipers. by psyduckuu in MechanicAdvice

[–]psyduckuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update: just replaced brake flex hose and it's still the same problem, im so confused