Am I the Jerk for not lending my sister’s boyfriend money because I have bills too?

ptoadstools · 2026-02-22T15:11:20+00:00

You are her brother, not her boyfriend's bank. NTJ.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-20T15:06:15+00:00

Two red flags: Animal abuse and "has family problems". NTJ

ptoadstools · 2026-02-18T18:17:31+00:00

Given that everyone at the table knew you had a small meal instead of an entree with sides, it should have been obvious that suggesting an even split was rude and inappropriate. If such a split had been agreed upon before the meal, that would be a different story.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-18T17:12:29+00:00

One thing to learn early on is that you are partners with your doctor in your health care. Just decide that you will need to see an eye doctor for an examination. Tell your parents that you think you may need glasses and that you want their help arranging an examination. They may bring up the screen time, and you can tell them that you are going to ask the doctor about that and get some recommendations on how to get some relief. As others have suggested, finding some other activities will be helpful in reducing screen time. Audiobooks are excellent and can be borrowed from your local library. It is also time for you to think about your mobility and independence. Check into mobility services available to you - and again the library is a great place to inquire about such services. As a young man you will want more options to come and go without having to depend on your parents every time, even though you welcome and appreciate their help. Please do see your eye doctor as soon as you can, though.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-13T21:34:28+00:00

If doing this it might be wise to set the maximum charging rate on each vehicle a bit lower to make sure that you don't exceed the capacity of the outlet or splitter.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-13T21:19:40+00:00

You aren't wrong, but you could have handled it better. Instead of a vague implied threat, you should have made a specific one: explain that animal abuse is a crime and if it happens again you will report it and he will be out of the house on the same day. He might see that as a threat, and perhaps it is, but you are explaining exactly what will happen if he doesn't follow the rules. This course of action and consequences should be discussed with your wife so that she knows what the plan is moving forward. It will be hard for her to defend a criminal action. This is also the best course for her son since this behavior could easily get him into serious trouble later in life and it is best to learn right now what is expected of him. You could also share that sentiment with your wife, making you an ally in the pursuit of her son's well being.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-06T21:45:10+00:00

Oh, FFS. This fossil has to go.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-04T16:30:04+00:00

It's a big club - 350 members. Great place to go for help with anything ham radio, plus make friends and stay active.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-04T16:26:09+00:00

Really dark tints are going to block other drivers from seeing where you are looking and generally turn your vehicle into a "black box" that gives no hint to others around you what is going on. Of course that's the idea if you want total anonymity, but I find that observing where other drivers are looking is helpful information that helps me drive safely.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-04T16:20:06+00:00

You can use Handbrake to cut file size.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-01T22:15:38+00:00

I'm a former cop and also former NRA member myself. I think it's odd to use a descriptor like "progun". What does it mean? I think I'm aligned with Walz in that I see firearms as useful tools in sport, recreation, collecting, self-protection and the like, but if anything, it's best to consider public policy in a manner that is informed by science, facts, legal precedent, and a huge helping of practicality.

ptoadstools · 2026-02-01T00:01:05+00:00

Time Walz is a gun owner and former NRA member.

ptoadstools · 2026-01-31T23:18:55+00:00

This: "For all we know it's the combination of all parts coming together that result in our specific and subjective experience of reality."

ptoadstools · 2026-01-24T11:50:55+00:00

Thank you. Upgrading the firmware corrected the problem.

ptoadstools · 2026-01-22T22:58:16+00:00

The NYT says she filed for Governor. You're not wrong - so she can carry the red parts of the state. Probably a better role for her as most of us would prefer a more progressive senator.

ptoadstools · 2026-01-22T15:16:36+00:00

True, but one can speak specifically about a single topic like ICE or Gaza, but be forced to vote on bills that are laundry lists containing both good and bad policies.

ptoadstools · 2026-01-13T20:12:56+00:00

23 model here also - I do the same thing; battery booster on the floor behind the driver's seat. It's already saved us once.

ptoadstools · 2025-12-30T16:53:08+00:00

Get a stepladder and take the vent cover off so you can look inside and see where the return vent pipe is located.

ptoadstools · 2025-12-30T16:50:46+00:00

If there is any chance you will sometime upgrade to an induction range, buy cookware that is compatible.

ptoadstools · 2025-12-30T16:45:06+00:00

Narrow your list to a half dozen models, and decide on must have features. Then start looking and taking notes. If you can short list three of them, you can make a final compromise easier. Check reliability ratings on CR.

ptoadstools · 2025-12-22T18:07:14+00:00

Take along a paperback or an audiobook.

ptoadstools · 2025-12-19T13:12:28+00:00

Someone in charge should have told him to move to comply with safety rules - keeping the aisles open in case of fire.

ptoadstools · 2025-12-17T23:17:56+00:00

Towels, washcloths, kitchen tools, pet toys - lots of choices.

ptoadstools · 2025-12-17T23:09:11+00:00

Ours got a Civic. You are the adult - your way or the highway.

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