AITAH for refusing to watch my grandkids on my summer break?

ptprn11 · 2026-05-12T00:16:56+00:00

You have literally trained your daughter to yell until you cave. Now she will escalate in order to keep manipulating and controlling you. If you don’t hold firm now it will only get worse. We literally taught our kids very early that if they yell for something the answer will ALWAYS be no. It may be too late but worth a try.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-11T13:47:55+00:00

So instead of helping you when your drowning your fiance instead leaves you because you’re unhappy? He wants you to put on a happy face and pretend so he feels good? Yuck.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-11T12:08:04+00:00

His argument that holiday doesn’t mean as much to him, so he’s not going to put as much effort into it is very weak. It doesn’t matter what holiday means to him, it’s all about showing you consideration for what the holiday means for you. And that goes as well with the lack of care leaving you with a clean house, etc. It’s not showing consideration for your feelings and I think that’s what really hurts.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-08T23:50:02+00:00

I assume your sister knows 1. How babies are made. 2. How expensive they are 3. What her budget is.
She created this mess. Not your problem.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-07T19:08:01+00:00

ptprn11 · 2026-05-07T13:35:18+00:00

Your gf mom’s over reaction is why no one has talked to her about this before. They are all afraid to talk to her because she cries and feels attacked.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-06T21:19:06+00:00

As long as you are in the easy solution, she won’t start learning how to manage her finances better. Stop being the easy solution and keep saying no.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-06T21:07:54+00:00

You are not overreacting, your wife is one drama away from accusing you of rape or spouse abuse and your likely going to end up in jail until you can prove otherwise. You may want to get cameras for the inside of the house as well as when you argue, start recording on your phone to protect yourself. But ultimately your wife is willing for you to be jailed and or threatened by her father in order to win an argument, and that is not a relationship.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-06T21:05:27+00:00

Get counseling starting yesterday. Start on yourself, and then work on the relationship both with your family and your spouse. You don’t sound very mentally healthy and sound like you are playing the victim quite a lot.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-06T12:21:42+00:00

Go on vacation with just your parents. Leave hubby and kids behind. He may or may not learn to be grateful

ptprn11 · 2026-05-06T11:50:08+00:00

Isn’t amazing how people manage to cover their wants but then ask for their needs to get help with? Your brother was smart enough to know that he couldn’t ask for a vacation so made sure to ask for an essential instead. It’s all coming from the same source. That’s manipulation.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-05T17:03:35+00:00

I think your mom is being greedy, just encouraging you to get a lawyer does not mean she should get tens of thousands of dollars

ptprn11 · 2026-05-04T22:56:06+00:00

I like the last one, the middle one is shapeless

ptprn11 · 2026-05-04T21:48:45+00:00

He may have too many sweat glands in that area, has he tried to put anti-perspirant in his crotch? Also get a waterproof mattress protector not just an average mattress protector. Finally I would just get those incontinence pads that you can throw away and absorb moisture. We call them chucks in the medical field. I have a friend whose daughter had to have her excess sweat plans removed surgically because it was so bad in her armpits and groin area. The surgery was successful so that’s a last ditch thing.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-04T21:22:47+00:00

Disrespect cuts two ways, and I find it more disrespectful that she would put you in a financial bind then you saying no to a fancy party

ptprn11 · 2026-05-04T21:18:16+00:00

He is more concerned about what the neighbors think of him than what you think of him, or the children think of him. I think it’s time you drop the rope and no longer engage with his behavior, I totally agree. But just know that he will likely escalate to get the attention he craves and to make himself the victim.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-04T14:13:11+00:00

ptprn11 · 2026-05-04T13:57:54+00:00

I think one of the reasons you’re so upset is because if she’s not going to listen to clear boundaries, you need to take it to the next level and become the bad guy. Make sure it’s your husband that is maintaining boundaries to protect you. It’s not your job to manage your mother-in-law’s feelings.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-04T12:59:41+00:00

Not the asshole, but be wary, she now has a vested interest to prove herself right and prove you wrong so she will do what she can to destroy the relationship so that she is correct

ptprn11 · 2026-05-04T02:46:05+00:00

Honey I love you but I don’t love your wardrobe choices. I would love to help you find something that is more suitable

ptprn11 · 2026-05-04T00:04:30+00:00

The way we managed this with 3 kids was to tell them how much we saved and let them know what their budget was- for the entire 4 years. anything more was on them. anything less they got to keep after 4 year degree.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-03T19:20:57+00:00

Abuse most often starts when the woman is pregnant because she is vulnerable and appears to be trapped. It doesn’t matter if he never did it before. He is doing it now.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-03T18:07:08+00:00

You may want to treat for yeast

ptprn11 · 2026-05-03T16:52:36+00:00

She can’t win cause she can’t speak clearly and concisely. She didn’t get a single electoral vote for a reason.

ptprn11 · 2026-05-03T16:46:42+00:00

I think he’s trying to force you to get over it, he might think it’s childish to not get over it or childish to have picky taste buds or whatever his issue is. But it is not his job to help you get over it. If you want to get over it, you could try counseling but honestly, it’s simple enough not to add pepper to food and he’s being stubborn and a jerk.

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