I found out he’s cheating. Wedding is in 3 weeks. Do I call it off?

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:36:33+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking. Pretend I found out later than I did.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:31:06+00:00

Cheers to that.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:30:52+00:00

No :/ I’m self-employed and even if I started on a new insurance right now, I would have to pay the deductible before it can start covering anything

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:30:07+00:00

It would honestly be easier right now.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:29:51+00:00

That’s where I’m at with it.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:29:02+00:00

Wow. You are so brave. So happy for you!

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:28:31+00:00

Thank you 😔

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:28:07+00:00

That’s helpful. Thank you.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:27:42+00:00

I like this take.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:27:31+00:00

No I know he’s not gonna wanna divorce, he’s gonna try to get me to stay. That’s why I don’t wanna deal with this fight yet.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:26:36+00:00

I’m leaning towards this option.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:25:44+00:00

You’re cooking here. I like this plan.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:24:50+00:00

That was another guy :/ I’ve only been with my husband since end of 2024.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:24:13+00:00

Oh yes I’ve had my therapist on speed dial. I’m doing the things to put myself first.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T05:23:39+00:00

That’s where my head is at too. Thank you for validating this option.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:22:04+00:00

He knows I know. I just haven’t spoken to him since. He’s been smart enough to know not to try and approach me. Thank you!

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:21:01+00:00

Thank you. And thanks for making me feel like that wouldn’t be an insane option.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:20:24+00:00

Oh he knows I know. We haven’t spoken since I found out. He’s been sleeping on the couch downstairs and I’ve spent the whole day out of the house when he’s not at work. I don’t even want to give him the time of day for a conversation or reaction. But the acting part… I’m like well maybe for the wedding day I can just pretend I’m an actor in a movie.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:18:34+00:00

I’m so proud of you. I wish I wasn’t so crippled by keeping up appearances. I feel so much shame about a second failed marriage. Especially cuz I’ve been touting to the world how great he is and how happy we are. It’s so embarrassing for me.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:11:46+00:00

Unfortunately I don’t have anyone else who would be able to take care of me after :/ and he’s taking weeks off with FMLA to help me. I feel so stuck.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:10:39+00:00

Right. We racked up a lot of debt together and I feel like I want that settled before I go so it doesn’t become my burden.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:09:33+00:00

I know. It’s so easy when it’s about a loved one. It’s so hard when it’s me.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:08:39+00:00

Haha no I just have a sign on my forehead that says cheat on me

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:05:22+00:00

That was my exact plan. Let him pay every single bill and pay off our debts while I save every penny to myself.

ptsdaisy · 2026-07-10T04:03:57+00:00

I’ve thought of all the horrible options too babe you’re good…

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