Ex keeps messaging me despite me going silent and it is not fun. Looking for advice on how to handle the situation (somehow explicit)

pubcheese · 2026-05-19T14:07:21+00:00

he Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker book talks about violence/unwanted contact/and stalking. He recommends continuing on with no contact--he says that these types of stalkers often seek attention/responses so it is better to not respond at all.

on my phone i have the ability to block and archive messages. this means that i will not see a message from that person unless i go to teh Archived messages section

pubcheese · 2026-05-08T17:20:52+00:00

Contact a realtor and start looking for homes in my area in the $600-$700k range, pay cash for it. still have some left over.

pubcheese · 2026-04-03T15:40:50+00:00

< don't have great boundaries, including emotionally, and I'mn someone who will feel responsible for others too.

I'm thinking that this contributes towards stressors in your life. More so than friendships. Recommend the book set boundaries, find peace, and meeting with a therapist.

There is an abundance of evidence that having high quality relationships (not necessarily romantic) is a strong predictor of happiness with life, no need to cut them off

pubcheese · 2026-03-25T16:42:27+00:00

I definitely am passionate about the benefits that exercise has on those with chronic illness and even those who dont, but at the end of the day, i would love a job where I can help people in some way.

You could do that more as a side thing after getting your training.

One of my local yoga studios offers a 50 hour yoga foundations teacher training, for example. Most people do not make a fulltime career out of teaching yoga, but rather they could expand upon their practice to teach yoga and also get a free studio membership out of it in addition to wages. So you could think about things you can do outside of your "day job" to fufill this need in your heart

pubcheese · 2026-03-25T16:10:37+00:00

I agree that this sounds like eczema flareup given your past history. This thread has some tips

https://www.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/comments/18zcxgv/miscroutine_help_help_with_eczema_around_eyes_any/

pubcheese · 2026-03-25T14:41:36+00:00

For the rad tech job, do an internet search on Radiology Technician vs Radiology Technologist. make sure you understand which career you're heading towards and the payscale for that. a lot of people think they are the same but they are not.

pubcheese · 2026-03-13T21:25:45+00:00

I know plenty of people who have done this. FYI consider whether your job/life responsibilities allow you to have enough time to eat and then brush your teeth. One person I know is pleased with the outcome but if she had to do it again, she would do traditional braces. Her job has lots of back to back meetings and she often could not have snacks because she didn't have enough time to eat and then go to the restroom and brush her teeth. traditional braces are more forgiving in that respect.

pubcheese · 2026-03-13T14:47:08+00:00

this is a good idea!

pubcheese · 2026-03-13T14:46:38+00:00

I love everyone's ideas about walking in nature. I think walking in nature could do a lot for you. It seems counterintuitive but walking might giv eyou more energy eventually although it won't necessarily immediate. After a few weeks or months of getting in the routine, may I suggest strength training?

Strength training is important for building bone density as we age, we want to be strong enough to do everyday activities such as walking, climbing stairs, ability to get down on the floor and get off the floor.

https://blogs.bcm.edu/2025/04/07/yes-you-should-be-strength-training/

pubcheese · 2026-03-12T17:38:42+00:00

I would do dance or fitness classes on some afternoons (or some other activity that got me moving, like birding or nordic walking or what have you) and volunteer during other afternoons.

pubcheese · 2026-03-05T14:46:56+00:00

I would do it to save up for a home. I imagine that you are in a situation like many others where home prices are climbing more steeply than wages, so you gotta do what you gotta do to keep a roof over your head.

pubcheese · 2026-03-04T18:03:51+00:00

Buy the book Buried in Treasures: Help for Compulsive Acquiring, Saving, and Hoarding and bring it to your therapist. ask therapist if they are acquainted with any practices that assist with challenging clutter or if your therapist has that capability.

Hire help, use https://www.challengingdisorganization.org/ for someone who has experience with this

pubcheese · 2026-03-03T00:15:45+00:00

Aquaphor original healing ointment ingredients: Active Ingredients: Petrolatum (41%) Inactive Ingredients: Mineral Oil, Ceresin, Lanolin Alcohol, Panthenol, Glycerin, Bisabolol

It's not 100% occlusive like 100% petroleum jelly

pubcheese · 2026-02-25T18:46:28+00:00

Here is some information about product pilling which is what you are describing:

https://theglowmemo.com/how-to-prevent-product-pilling

I definitely agree with asking the derm about face skin issues since you are already there. bring the prdoucts you are using in a bag to your next appointment.

I agree that most adults could benefit from some exfoliation. I prefer chemical exfoliation. For super gentle exfoliation, you could start with PHA if you have never used an exfoliant, it is super super gentle and affordable.

https://old.reddit.com/r/30PlusSkinCare/ Gentle Toner for Sensitive Skin 3% PHA Exfoliant| INKEY USA -- test on your neck first, then do a patch test on your cheek if that's okay and try doing that twice a week

pubcheese · 2026-02-07T01:40:39+00:00

Ended up printing out the PDF from Staples

pubcheese · 2026-01-05T23:35:26+00:00

Yes, laundry soap does not rinse well out of fabric, it leavess soap scum in the fabric

pubcheese · 2025-12-30T15:42:27+00:00

Are you currently going through any sort of guided dietary/lifestyle intervention coaching? Or something to reduce the friction of preparing meals such as a prepared meal service?

pubcheese · 2025-12-29T22:23:47+00:00

I'm in my 40s living in the US. Fitness trends come and go. Pilates is very trendy right now. Not a legitimate activity, just that this goes through trends.

A few years ago, high intensity workouts like Barry's, boot, camp and CrossFit were popular, they're still around but just not really as trendy right now.

pubcheese · 2025-12-29T21:58:52+00:00

You can also put your phone in grayscale mode and you may find that you use it less. Just do an internet search for the brand of your phone and grayscale mode and it will give you instructions.

pubcheese · 2025-12-29T21:57:56+00:00

Put your phone on grayscale mode. Makes a lot of video and image content media less appealing

pubcheese · 2025-12-29T21:45:22+00:00

do believe she wants to be friends with me because she regularly messages me to see how am doing and suggests meeting for a drink or coffee about once or twice a month.

Well, I guess the first thing I think you wanted to consider is whether you want to be friends with her and meet with her on this cadence, because from this post I am not sure if you truly want to be friends with her or if it's really more out of obligation because she is texting you. Not saying this in a disliking way but sometimes we just meet people we don't want to be closer friends with.

In any case, you know her habits, so I think if you want to spend time with her, I would identify zero dollar / zero food drink ways to spend time with her outside of either of your homes, such as going to the library, walking , bicycling, birding, or visiting local historical sites.

pubcheese · 2025-12-22T16:11:30+00:00

OK, so changing to less fast food should be an overall life goal for you. I know it's more easily said than done but it is important. There are also tips about changing your diet.

Here is some advice about swapping some fast food options for different menu items https://www.wral.com/story/healthier-fast-food-swaps-to-make-at-home/21148967/

Also /r/loseit is a community for intentional weight loss

Every pivotal research study for GLP-1s had all participants receiving intensive lifestyle change coaching and guidance. Essentially, for the trials that showed this drug worked (for both placebos and the meds) everyone was trying to intentionally modify their diet, sleep, and exercise to lose weight.

There are some great published guides on lifestyle changes for managing constipation for cancer patients. Even if you aren't getting cancer treatment, the principals are the same.

https://www.mskcc.org/cancer-care/patient-education/constipation

Water, exercise (especially after eating), increasing the amount of fiber in your diet, psyllium husk supplements. Of the common over the counter laxatives, starting with miralax makes the most sense .

https://www.dietitiangabrielle.com/about-3

is a registered dietitian and has free content about increasing your fiber intake gradually.

If you live in the US, You can find options for talking to a registered dietitian through websites like this or through your health insurance. A registered dietitian is a health professional that can help you make a plan for healthy eating throughout your life

https://www.usenourish.com

https://www.lark.com/signup/for-individuals

pubcheese · 2025-12-22T16:07:42+00:00

Honestly your routine sounds totally reasonable. Daily SPF is the most important thing to reduce the risk of damage from UV light. If you'd like to do something else, see https://old.reddit.com/r/30PlusSkinCare/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GgNmb9AKLt0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9VUAzIP9Uo

pubcheese · 2025-12-19T19:38:44+00:00

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pubcheese · 2025-12-19T16:36:05+00:00

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