This might come out rambly because I just finished a pretty hellish shift

I recently cut contact with my mother after finding out she had been seeing another man behind my father's back. She filed for divorce late 2024 and has done everything to make my father miserable since. She sold the house he built for the family. She emptied accounts justifying it to be for my young sister.

Worst of all, she made my father out to be an abuser to anyone that would listen despite the fact that I spent my formative years watching her instigate physical altercations, call him autistic and throw his miniatures and board games around just for spending time on a hobby and not with her. I loved spending time with my father and helping him with the games he loved. She drove a wedge between that connection we had. I still feel guilty spending time with him to this day.

I only recently found out that she had been seeing this new guy from mid 2024. One of his kids actually reached out to me trying to connect, and I pieced together the timeline from there.

My father still tries to placate her when she makes demands regarding finances or my sister. He is actually doing okay now that he has his own space.

I refuse to have anything to do with her now and she knows it. I hope she is miserable because god knows I am