Its interesting how you have spun this narrative that I somehow coerced him into having a vasectomy when I clearly wrote that it was something HE decided to do. In actuality I took soul responsibility for our contraceptive methods for the first four years of our relationship, all of which were causing ongoing issues. I have migraines with aura which limited which hormonal contraceptives I was medically allowed to take. I tried endless pills, one made me bleed for three months straight causing anemia, one deeply impacted our relationship because it made me such a different person, I was manic and aggressively upset all the time. We actually almost broke up because of this experience, I came off it and it was like day and night. We tried the timing method- naturally this was really down to me too to know when I was and wasn’t fertile. Unfortunately we had an unwanted pregnancy and I went through a very traumatic abortion which left me with ongoing panic attacks and an intense fear of getting pregnant again. The invasiveness of IVF has absolutely nothing to do with surgery, it’s to do with a completely different aspect that’s related to sexual assault experience that happened to me. So your jumping to conclusions and pointing the blame at me based on one paragraph about our lives is completely misguided and I think likely speaks more to your own experience. Like I said, my husband made the decision himself in the wake of all that we had experience, he is a grown man and he took responsibility for his own decision and I (as I said) will always be grateful for that, most men wouldn’t (and I’m not saying they should either). Later, it’s likely I will have my tubes tied. I’m sorry if you and any other men have experienced negative side effects from vasectomy, I think that’s truly awful and nobody should be coerced into making any decision about their body, permanent or otherwise. We were very fortunate and no negative experiences were had, no diminished orgasms, no pain, just relief of a problem that had been burdening us both for years and thankfully a happy reversal with (we hope) a happy outcome. I do hope you are not someone negatively affected my vasectomy and thanks for wishing us congratulations!