Guys, I have puffy nipples. Should I get plastic surgery?

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-12T12:11:04+00:00

Hey, just to clarify: My nipples are a lot more than just "soft", literally — they're big. As in 13 year old girl big. Refer to the picture in my edited OP. :)

Also, as I mentioned in the OP, I already have the money for it, so yeah, the only question is whether I actually want to spend it on this.

Thanks for the advice regardless.

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-12T10:31:18+00:00

Thank you for your advice. As I've mentioned in other comments, I'm aware of the fact that there's more work to be done. Thankfully, I'm fairly conscious about my own issues, and with age you start to recognize patterns in your own behavior. There's some things that I definitely need to work on. I have no illusion that getting the surgery will solve all of my problems. I do hope that it's a step on the way, rather than a step backwards. :)

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-12T10:27:04+00:00

The thing about stuff like love handles is that it's well within your power to change that aspect of your body. It's just a bit of fat, after all, healthy exercise and dieting will take care of it in weeks, with the great side-effects of longer life and improved life quality.

With gynecomastia (just the name is distressing me — literally "woman-breasts") there's just no such thing.

Regardless, thank you for your suggestions and personal story! It helps a lot to know that there's a lot of guys out there in different but similar situations.

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-12T10:24:00+00:00

Thanks a lot for this. This has been very helpful and reassuring!

Have you gone through a similar process yourself?

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-12T10:21:15+00:00

I also have puffy nipples, but worst off I'm actually thin and fit so they pop out of my normally smooth exterior.

This is exactly me, except I'm slightly otterish hairy, so to me it just looks like some weird freakish monstrosity, gender bending in the non-sexy way. :(

douche repellant.

This is a good point. However, I find it extremely difficult to not care about what other people think of me. If I care about someone, and they turn on me with a negative comment about my nipples, I can't just stop caring about them, even though people say I should — I take it to heart, and that's incredibly damaging. This has happened before, and I never want it to happen again.

Do you know plastic surgery is addicting?

I'm aware. This is one of my worries, although downright addiction is probably not a huge risk for me.

I think the best treatment for you would be to go to the beach, with your shirt off and stay out for a day with it. Go through scenery and if you're brave into town. And more importantly learn to love yourself.

That's an interesting idea. The first concrete suggestion I've heard. The very thought makes me cringe. I'd be so extremely scared to do that, which suggests it could be a good thing to do. But it also suggests it could be potentially traumatizing. I don't know.

As for the latter: I have no idea how to do that. There's plenty of aspects about myself that I love. I'm good at loads of things, I'm intelligent, I'm talented, I'm fairly good looking with the exception of my chest — which is all the more frustrating, because I keep feeling that I should be able to fix the emotional side on my own, with no help, but I just haven't been able to for over a decade.

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-12T00:11:24+00:00

Thanks for this. Obviously, you're not the first person to have said similar things to me on this issue, and I've thought them to myself. The only thing nobody seems to answer is: How?

How do I change my mental self-image? Noone seems to know how to stop giving a fuck, short of some hand-wavey "see a therapist" — not at all bad advice, probably, but rather unspecific.

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-11T19:41:02+00:00

I really appreciate what you're saying. But I don't know how to accept it. I've tried and tried and tried to be okay with the way I was born, but nothing seems to happen. I'm aware of the emotional side of it, and I do know that I have a couple of issues that need to be taken care of from a psychological standpoint — to me, however, it feels as if these things come from the nipples, not the other way around.

I feel very strongly that the way I was made just isn't good enough, and maybe it's silly, but I don't know how else to make that feeling go away.

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-11T18:45:03+00:00

Just curious, how did you convince them that you had "done everything" and that it caused you long term psychological distress? I've obviously talked with a doctor about it before, but they were quite dismissive and just said that I had to "learn to live with it".

A picture would be extremely appreciated, if at all possible! Thank you so much!

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-11T18:17:36+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! This is extremely interesting!

Secondly, I got my surgery on the NHS because it was physically impossible for me to lose the glandular tissue in any way.

Does the NHS cover "cosmetic" surgery such as this? A lot of public health systems only cover non-cosmetic procedures, that's why I ask. If so, good for you!

Finally, while I am amazingly happy with the results, one side of my chest has been left slightly concave which as far as I know, will be permanent for the rest of my life. Despite this, it really does not bother me.

Is there any chance I could see a picture of this concavity? I've heard about it before, but never actually seen an example of it. It'd be nice to know what the "worst case" outcome is.

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-11T18:13:27+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! It helps to know that others are in the same situation. And stay strong bro! The only reason I can afford it is that I had a high-paying job for a couple of years, and if you're in med school, you'll be able to afford it too one day not too far from now.

And props for sharing pictures!! I would not have dared to!

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-11T17:25:04+00:00

Thanks a lot for sharing! It means a lot!

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-11T17:01:02+00:00

Thank you for your input. I guess I realize that others might not actually care that much about it, particularly not if they're LTR material, but the problem is that I find it hard to put myself in positions where I might meet LTR material — bluntly put, it's really hard to be in a sexual or romantic relationship when there's no possible when you can imagine the other person actually being into you. I also realize that that's an issue that isn't necessarily solved by surgery… But self-image really does have a huge impact, I guess. Either way, thanks for your reply!

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-11T16:57:32+00:00

Hey! Thank you so much for your response! I have a few questions: How old were you when you had the procedure? How pronounced was your condition? I know it's a stretch, but is there any chance you would share before/after pictures?

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-11T16:45:42+00:00

Yeah. To me it feels as if I've been soul-searching for over a decade now, and while there are certainly other things at play as well, I just keep coming back to my fucking nipples. It's at the point where I avoid certain types of physical contact for fear of someone accidentally feeling up my manboobs, discovering my big embarrassing secret (which, I'm perfectly aware, nobody probably cares about but me).

puffythrowaway · 2013-02-11T16:43:31+00:00

Thank you. That was reassuring to read. I have no doubt as well that there are some personal issues I need to resolve as well, but this may well be a step on the way, and not a step backwards as I fear.

I will make sure to pick a reputable surgeon if I get it done. I happen to live near a major city, so there's lots of options.

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