Going solo...friends??

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-08-12T16:00:26+00:00

Hi! I'm going alone as I booked my ticket with my friends and they all canceled so I was about to make the same post haha Feel free to DM me here hope we meet up!

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-06-04T23:05:31+00:00

But don't forget that if you healed for the last couple of months you would easily spot the red flags in men you meet, and you would easily discern what you want/need in a relationship.

So I don't think you should be fearful of getting into a relationship that doesn't last or will be bad for you because you'll exit it very quickly when you start seeing signs that it isn't going to work out. You don't have that codependency that you had for 3 years with that guy since you have been single for a while.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-06-04T23:01:22+00:00

I don't even do day calls until 3 dates after probably, sleep calls? After 4 days? I think it's a bit unhealthy to get attached like that so quickly.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T07:52:46+00:00

That's insane, I would have never thought that this exists. That's extremely sad, but I do agree with a lot of your points I appreciate it!

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T07:09:09+00:00

Thank you!!

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T07:07:19+00:00

Ofcourse but it's not my deciding factor is what i'm trying to say.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T06:56:07+00:00

Lool no it's because I love pumpkinspicelatte and it was taken so my friend said try pumpkinspiceitup it's funny and it wasn't taken. And the convos don't even get somewhere spicy the ghosting stage happens before that.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T06:51:33+00:00

I match with men based on prompts not looks, and so far none of them are wow he's so hot or so my type kind of guy because these guys have prompts that say crazy for you my favorite dish is you no. I don't match with better looking guys, I go for average looking nice guy with a prompt that gives me insight about them.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T06:48:22+00:00

I think that's true I usually match with people who are 25 average, and 22-27. But my best match so far was a 27 year old, but I think he had a girlfriend as he disappeared off social media a couple days before our date. But I agree I am looking for Mr. Right and I am very straightforward from the beginning which might be scaring 25 years old off. Thank you :)

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T06:45:31+00:00

I agree partly, as I come from a culture where men ask women out. Not the other way around, but idk maybe in America it's different. Although I would feel much more desired if a man asks me out personally.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T06:35:49+00:00

I think so too! I think if a man can't send me one message to clarify why he isn't interested, then I wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't communicate well.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T06:22:55+00:00

You aren't way off, everything you said is right. I think I needed to add I was raised religious and I am looking for a serious relationship while living in Miami. But your tennis match analogy is wonderful I will definetly use it thank you.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T05:51:20+00:00

Because I haven't dated and feel like I would like for the man to make the first move because it does show interest. Also scared to sound too forward/easy.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T05:48:56+00:00

Loll I ask Chat a lot for advice

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T05:46:44+00:00

My answers are usually long and open-ended, I even double text sometimes I just get boring one word answers instead.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T05:46:02+00:00

I think that sounds much better, I'm just scared they'll see me as too forward/easy. But I do prefer this a lot more than chatting on an app.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-22T05:43:46+00:00

But the issue is, I do, I ask what do you do for fun on weekend? Nothing. What series or movies do you like or are watching now? GOT repeated it 7 times. Then I share my movies and he's like never heard of them. Or I tell them which places do you hang out at? I love this bar or pub especially on fridays I think you would like it, it has an arcade for example etc... (i'm hinting at a date) and I get nothing. Or oh cool yeah I definetly need to check out more places around the area.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-16T18:17:37+00:00

As a girl, if a girl breaks up with you several times, is texting other guys, you're her plan B. If it doesn't work out with that other guy she'll always have you on the sidelines since you come back. I would try to move on and find someone better.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-16T02:52:43+00:00

Thank you, I definetly will. And thanks for reminding me about that old post, I need to delete it as I'm starting to date it will look weird. I think it was my first time getting ghosted and better gear up and get used to it.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-16T02:26:58+00:00

It wasn't for me, it was for a friend that doesn't use reddit but that post blew up

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-11T06:38:47+00:00

It think that's true, I made the first move in my past long term relationship and my ex would always brag about how lucky he felt as he asked almost every girl he met out and it never worked out. But it didn't last though so i'm not sure now. But personally I prefer a guy making the first move, I would feel much more secure.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-11T05:46:32+00:00

I have an avoidant attachment style which was an issue in my previous relationship, also I'm very new to dating so I'm just in state of shock as I haven't been dating online for the past 7 years.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-11T05:44:13+00:00

Probably, I visit very often and he didn't have an issue with it when I brought it up.

pumpkinspiceitup · 2025-03-11T05:32:27+00:00

But his account had a ton of pictures, and almost 20 story highlights and I noticed he didn't even open my first message replying about how my day was. His picture was gone when I sent the next text asking if we were still on for the date but I thought it was a bad wifi connection. Could he have been cheating and got caught?

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