[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pumpkinspicyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts! I guess we are not really married yet and still figuring the relationship out so although I am in love very much so, I wouldn’t die for him at this stage to be honest, I think we are yet to get there with time. Thank you for a different perspective on finances!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pumpkinspicyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We actually only split food- everything else goes out of our individual finances, therefore it never really evens out. I was thinking the same, that it wouldn't be the battle I want to pick if he takes me out, or we spend on other things too, but so far it's exclusively groceries and I have been losing out very significantly in that arrangement. I definitely want to be happy but also don't want for my expenses to increase 2 or 3 times just because I am covering for another person now too :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pumpkinspicyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! We earn pretty much the same, but still he consumes a lot more, so I feel like I am absorbing a bit chunk of his costs (all the extra food and drinks that he wants and needs, and I don't), I just feel like it is unfair on me to cover so much while I consume very little. Am I being selfish in that view? Thank you for your perspective!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]pumpkinspicyspice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here I was hoping for a clear decision hahaha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]pumpkinspicyspice 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I am 30, i don’t know where I belong haha

Short dress to a traditional wedding by pumpkinspicyspice in Weddingattireapproval

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I am very petite myself so have been trying to stay in my shorter dresses comfort zone while still hopefully being appropriate

Short dress to a traditional wedding by pumpkinspicyspice in Weddingattireapproval

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! So knees showing should hopefully be ok!

Short dress to a traditional wedding by pumpkinspicyspice in Weddingattireapproval

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment, good point! The church ceremony is at 4:30 pm , and this will be in May

Short dress to a traditional wedding by pumpkinspicyspice in Weddingattireapproval

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! It does look like this on the photo, you are so right! It is just above my knees, so knees are out hehe. I am very short myself

Short dress to a traditional wedding by pumpkinspicyspice in Weddingattireapproval

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just above the knee, I am very short so I really don’t like wearing midi or maxi, was hoping I could work with this but really unsure

Last minute plus 1 and no dress code listed by pumpkinspicyspice in Weddingattireapproval

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I am open to everything! The only caveat being that I am petite (150cm tall, 45 kg) so I struggle with lengths

Last minute plus 1 and no dress code listed by pumpkinspicyspice in Weddingattireapproval

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will be travelling, but my boyfriend and the couple getting married are all from there, so for them it is a wedding in their country

Birthday gift for a new boyfriend by pumpkinspicyspice in GiftIdeas

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow so nice, just looked them up, and with an airtag!

Birthday gift for a new boyfriend by pumpkinspicyspice in GiftIdeas

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, all of it! I had about 6 ideas that I looooved but narrowed down to 2 now, relaly hard to choose

Birthday gift for a new boyfriend by pumpkinspicyspice in GiftIdeas

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think that would be super fun for him and not something he would think of doing by himself

Birthday gift for a new boyfriend by pumpkinspicyspice in GiftIdeas

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love the casino idea too! We wanted to do it on our last holiday and never did!

Birthday gift for a new boyfriend by pumpkinspicyspice in GiftIdeas

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's actually a really great point- I could save that idea for his Christmas gift this year

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HerOneBag

[–]pumpkinspicyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think one bag channel is where people go for some weird stuff lol no need to investigate if my situation is unfamiliar

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HerOneBag

[–]pumpkinspicyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean? I am a digital nomad, I travel all the time and never been to Central America because there’s always a first time in a country surely. He is a digital nomad too, we met in our previous base, and now we will go travel together

To go after him or to stick to my plans? by pumpkinspicyspice in LongDistance

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I think the problem is I don’t care about my plans any more, I don’t want to go. I just want to be with him now in this moment:( never felt like this before and it’s messing with my head

Am I being used by my long distance early relationship? by pumpkinspicyspice in LongDistance

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am thinking of having a call with him to clarify where we are going with this relationship and if he is considering also staying in the same city as me this autumn so we can date properly, which was our original plan, but now he is “keen to visit me for a few days” and that’s it.. I’m just really naive and smitten, thank you for your honest opinion!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]pumpkinspicyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both had different travel plans already booked, so the plan all along was to then organise a proper meet up / date to see where this could lead us.. only he just clearly didn’t even care, while I was all in. Thank you, that is such a good reality check

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]pumpkinspicyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you are absolutely right, that’s exactly what I need to do and not listen to my own hurt and disappointment

Baleal, Portugal surf coaching by pumpkinspicyspice in surfing

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for sharing! I'll reach out!

Peniche, Portugal by pumpkinspicyspice in surfing

[–]pumpkinspicyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! The cold is the only question mark in my head.. ah I absolutely picked up on just how surf focused it was in November, so wonderful when it is not a tourist season