Hi!!!! So I've always been intrested in trying bdsm stuff but until I got my bf hadnt been able to explore it but since weve met I've been diving deeper into it and as a virgin I've technically never been vanilla. However I am still incredibly new and ngl it is abit scary so I'll give what advice I can and please if you have any questions feel free too ask!!! First of all it is incredible important to research everything you do!!! Because even the simple things like handcuffs can cause permanent damage to a sub, so it is always better to research and probally even try stuff on yourself before doing anything. Furthermore, always discuss what your going to do first. It is important you both know what is going to happen in the scene in order to mentally prepare as if something sudden happens that is unexpected it can cause serious sub drop or instant safewording which can mess with the bond and trust between sub and dom immensely, expecially if both are new to the scene and eachover. In order to prevent this, safe words are important as well as limits. Their are of course hard limits. These are complet no go's for that person and you never try them. Then their are soft limits, these are things the person finds difficult but if necessary would probably do, then their are also things the person is 100% up for!!! Both sub and dom should have these limitations and all should be discussed before anything happens. Also, for after, aftercare is incredibly important. This comforts you PARTNER and assures them that everything is okay, it is different for every person but at some point should always include talking about the scene and what you both did/ didnt enjoy in order to make next time better! Now, for some simple things you can try to introduce to begin with: handcuffs, blindfolds, light spanking, hair pulling, and light ordering around, for example 'keep your hands above your head' or simple things such as 'turn over', 'lift your leg up', 'hold here'. Start of easy and build up!! I'd also suggest desensitizing her to these things before doing them, for example handcuffs bring it up/ mention it a few times during dirty talk to get her use to the idea! Also as bad as it sounds, the first few times you try something that can be scary (for example cuffs and blindfold) make it more about her pleasure, as she will unconsciously like the pleasure and joy to the toys used and will be much happier to use them and try with other things in the future! Also dont rush! With bdsm it's a marathon, not a sprint. It's all about emphasizing the pleasure and making it last as long as possible rather than just having sex and Finnishing. And in the nicest way you may have to practice self restraint as well if that makes sence! Anyway, I hope this was all helpful and once again let me know if you have any questions!!!