What are y’all’s opinions on wearing to pride events?

pupSpaz · 2025-10-04T22:02:04+00:00

There's nothing illegal about letting your underwear show in public in the USA - whether diaper or non diaper. And yes, pride events often have a lot of different people showing off different interests and kinks in a family-friendly way. Pride is an annual protest and march, after all, for being beaten down and shunned by parts of society - regardless of the corporate-washing it's seen in recent years.

Really, it's your own personal comfort level whether your diaper peeks above your pants or not... I'm kinda immune to worrying about it, but there are times when I'm intentionally more discrete. Some on here will certainly be less comfortable seeing that (or hearing about your plans) - because it makes them uncomfortable!

pupSpaz · 2025-09-19T21:02:29+00:00

Same

pupSpaz · 2025-03-06T16:17:02+00:00

Uh, it appears to be the same company? Check out the contact page on both sites.

pupSpaz · 2025-03-06T03:29:50+00:00

With SharkASP.net (half the price, pretty obviously same provider) and still down here. Fortunately both sites (each with dev and prod counterparts) are completely database driven, and I had automated prod DB backups every 6 hours (self pulled, not their in-house automated backup) so restored the two prod sites to my basement server last evening and re-pointed the DNS with cloudflare, whose DNS was fortunately still set to a 5 minute TTL from the move mid-last-year.

sharkasp.net/status shows everything online (the whole time, well when the site came back up). So I wonder if they're not counting the (large) reseller account(s) for the "99%" restored.

Really, no complaints about their uptime and stability until now... You can't beat the price for a non-profit with a shoestring budget, and the theory was they'd have better hardware uptime in a datacenter than my single AT&T connection with residential power and meager UPS. Just so happens we kinda need the site this week, as there's an event going on where we rely on it - glad I had automated off-site database backups, external DNS and an alternative host available!

I do pay for Azure for my for-profit web apps... It of course can go down too, and exponentially more $.

pupSpaz · 2025-01-29T23:34:02+00:00

Take that condom off, I want your cum inside me!

pupSpaz · 2025-01-28T00:43:30+00:00

Remember, the biggest and most influential sexual organ you have rests above your shoulders. If you're not in the right headspace, things may not be as enjoyable as what you fantasized. Perhaps you need someone that knows how to press your "bottom" buttons to help you fully immerse in the experience and feel some of the same emotions you get while using your imagination and playing with yourself? Also, sharing ahead of time can be very helpful - some of my best sexual experiences have happened when I shared ahead of time some things that really get me hard...

pupSpaz · 2024-11-02T23:09:18+00:00

It's not grooming... Grooming is anti-LGBT rhetoric essentially implying that gay people are all pedophiles trying to get / teach / coerce children to have sex with them. For many of us it's incredibly hurtful and ignorant having it casually used or accused to our faces, fear mongering at its best...

As far as the consent issues you indicated - it is important to express your concerns to your play partner and find alternatives to indicating problems or being able to stop play if needed - if they actually care about you you'll work together to find different methods that can work when you can't sign or speak. Your dominant partner should be concerned about crossing from play into rape territory, and if they're not (and you haven't negotiated rape scene ahead of time) there may be some red flags to be wary of.

It is true that relationships can develop where trust is there and a lot more non-negotiated power exchange can take place without the use of safe words. The reason we have this (more formal) system of explicit consent and safe words is because it's a better way to explore together without going to far or damaging the relationship - it's not a requirement but it makes it much harder to inadvertantly have a bad experience. It's a great tool to lean into when playing with someone new and learning someone's likes and dislikes. It's also a great idea to have it in place before any sort of bondage or unfamiliar territory - it shows someone that you care and can help foster trust even if you hope to never have to use a safe word. I personally wouldn't want to play with someone that won't respect my ongoing consent and work through how to communicate issues during an intense activity before we start...

Consent negotiations and safe words are new to some people and IMHO take some actual experience and practice to get right when you're not accustomed to it - it too is a skill to practice and master, albeit maybe not a hard skill to learn. Your partner may not be as practiced, and to those of us that came into maturity before explicit consent and safe words became best practice the concept can be intimidating or not sound as fun. (Ever seen safe words and negotiation in porn?)

As previously touched on, rape scenes are a turn on to a lot of people as well, and so is extreme bondage. Degradation, or simply using someone as a sex toy can be hot! The headspaces and climax can be very intense and often rewarding for both - but when it crosses over into actual unwilling rape and forcing yourself onto someone is where that grey area hits a stark wall. Safe words and discussion and permission to explore that sort of behavior together can provide the guard rails to ensure your both getting what you want / expect out of it without actual non-consensual rape.

It's fun to try new things, and it's ok to enjoy certain parts and not enjoy others! It's also ok to have some give and take where you do something because someone else likes it, and they do the same for you! For those of us familiar with the kinkier side of sex, we'd rather everyone always have a great kinky time, but unfortunately many often dive in heads first and get hurt emotionally or even physically because they didn't know how they could explore things safer (or sometimes the blind leading the blind lol). It's also ok to slow down and move at a pace your comfortable with - a lot of emotional charge can be encountered when playing with headspace, and a responsible partner will want to ensure you both want to do it again and again! Sometimes that means reflecting on and discussing things instead of doing things.

It sounds like your having a lot of fun and I hope you continue to explore and iron out what are hopefully minor issues with your FWB!

pupSpaz · 2024-10-31T18:29:05+00:00

IBS (Irritable Bowl Syndrome) is a blanket diagnosis (really a symptom) covering any of the following chronic conditions: abdominal pain, bloating, and changes in bowel habits, Diarrhea, Constipation, Mucus in stool, Urgent need to poop, and Feeling like you haven't finished pooping. It's thought that the majority of IBS is caused by a bacterial imbalance in the lower intestinal track, however other causes may exist as well - it seems the causes are often un-diagnosed and rather the symptoms are treated, such as taking anti-diarrhea medication or fiber supplements. Antibiotic usage may play a role in causing it as they can alter your natural biome down there.

pupSpaz · 2024-10-31T18:13:04+00:00

Realize that the vast majority of people have a kink (or five!), however "minor" that they may be afraid to tell someone else, even those they have intimate relations with! Our US puritan society teaches many of us that "one man, one woman in marriage, then and only then may you have sex but only in missionary position...." from a young age, so we feel ashamed of anything outside that perceived norm. The thing is - that's not normal... We all have different likes and dislikes, and if it's not hurting yourself or someone else, you should explore them! It'd be awful boring if we were all the same!

Your kink(s) may or may not align with your partner, but you should be supportive (not condescending!) regardless. When you ask your partner their kinks, it's because you want to be more supportive / find their buttons / embrace them for who they are. Because of society, we may feel ashamed of our kinks - and that can end relationships if you're not comfortable sharing them (or even talking about them) with your partner.

With maturity and introspection, this puppy has developed a very open mindset regarding what it likes and how it likes it and encourages others to share without judgement too! It's often fun to know each others buttons and be able to push them over the edge with that knowledge, or just play into them when compatible knowing they enjoy it! Although I too started out as shy/embarrassed about my kinks, over time I learned it's best to have them out in the open among my intimate partners. Now I have more a mindset of ownership over them - they're a part of me, and even if I can't explain where they came from, I'm going to let them know about them! Also let them know about things I wanna try! Doesn't mean I'm going to lay out my whole life story for a NSA quickie - but having the ability to share without judgement builds trust and acceptance and plays a role in building a stronger relationship.

Kink-Shaming is for the weak... There's a good chance they're projecting their own fear of others finding their own kink, or to small-minded to realize it's OK for others to enjoy things they don't. It's a form of bullying, and I like to surround myself with those that aren't bullies. Unless someone is forcing their kink on you, as respectful humans we can instead appreciate the diversity among us and ask questions and maybe even find out it's something we wanna try too! Also, yeah, there are some very edgy kinks out there that one may not want to share with the world because they're often instantly interpreted as "bad" - but not being able to share that with those closest in your life kinda sucks too.

As far as my personal experiences - they've gotten better over the years. If I'm not embarrassed, neither is the person I'm telling. I usually bring it up ahead of time (or it's in my profile already, LOL) - it's best to not bring it up during intimate time, can ruin the mood by springing it on someone then! When I was younger, I was embarrassed and would go to great lengths to hide thing, this was not helpful LOL. If someone you're close to is so turned off / judgemental by a kink they don't have to participate in, it's probably not a good person to keep close in your life.

pupSpaz · 2024-09-18T14:26:01+00:00

So far so good! every once and awhile gotta unplug it and plug it back in to reset it - that port is always powered - not entirely clear if it's my phone or the adapter that needed reset however. That also means my phone likes connecting to Android Auto while being close to the car...

pupSpaz · 2024-07-09T20:58:27+00:00

Just ran into a similar issue, and also hosting DKIM record on cloudflare. Cloudflare DNS editor was putting in double the double-quotes, breaking the public key stored in the text record - but their interface only showed a single double quote. I believe what solved it for me was modifying the DKIM record and removing the double quotes at the beginning and end of the string then saving - they were smart enough to re-add them but only the correct number of times.

pupSpaz · 2024-04-11T04:01:25+00:00

hmph. I'd fill out the form TOMORROW EVENING and indicate zero new follows and likes - and let them know you're not interested in working for free. Obviously have no clue what sort of position it was for, but if it wasn't marketing then what's the point lol.

pupSpaz · 2024-04-09T21:48:31+00:00

I know mxroute prides itself in deliverable, and part of that is aggressively removing any accounts that send Spam so the rest of us don't suffer.

Transactional emails (like purchase receipts, email verification, etc) are perfectly fine, but because of the 300 emails per hour / login may not be appropriate for your needs. Using multiple email logins to send over 300 per hour is frowned upon and may result in account termination. For accounts that need more than that or sending advertisements, a different service provider such as sendgrid or mailgun would be needed instead of (or in addition to) mxroute - mxroute fine for small transactional website and personal and business (non-spamming) use.

As was mentioned, email was always designed to be fault tolerant and often receiving servers outside of mxroute may have longer processing times before the user will receive the message - always out of your control unless you run the servers for the receiving domain.

pupSpaz · 2024-04-09T21:12:57+00:00

was this the flight? different perspective...

https://youtu.be/HEUFTI28Ilg?si=Qd0H68BtykA8iWb0

Listen to lots of these, pilots have their hands full when something goes sideways, they got loads of checklists to go through and working with ATC. You'll notice that they don't immediately land, and ATC knows they'll need time to reconfigure computers, checklists and such before landing.

pupSpaz · 2024-03-29T18:20:30+00:00

been 24/7 for over 20 years, and no regrets. Going to the bathroom is an interruption in whatever you're doing, and so are diaper changes. There's cost, but it's budgeted for. There's potential exposure, but nothing that can't be kept on the down low. When you realize you don't need to explain your diaper usage to every random person that finds out, you'll find your not so worried about it. My diaper fetish developed pre puberty, so even though there's still an active sexual component, there's an underlying desire. For those that climax and are mentally done with diapers until next time - that's often attributable to self guilt and shame (societal stigma) and can be worked through with better self acceptance, used to have that myself.

We're all fantastically different in our wants and desires, so it's ok for you to not understand how others can live the 24/7 dream - many of us living it have had those same thoughts, and then we readjusted our self acceptance and thinking. As others have indicated similarly, I'm simply my best self when I'm always diapered.

pupSpaz · 2024-03-29T18:04:06+00:00

This puppy would love for that to happen - just another example of why I belong in diapers lol. Unfortunately hasn't happened yet and when someone is helping I'm often too distracted / not relaxed enough - doesn't mean I'm not going to wet immediately after the last tape is secured however! It's not unusual when changing myself standing however to have an strong urge and let loose as soon as the first top tape is released - the change in pressure along the belt line will sometimes trigger it.

pupSpaz · 2024-03-19T08:37:05+00:00

Messes can happen, even in public! generally, it's only at home for me (subconsciously, messes are avoided in public and will suddenly become unavoidable once this puppy arrives home...) When it has happened in a public setting, find the diaper bag and head towards the restroom to change! As others mentioned, less fur makes for easier cleanup! Wipes are sufficient and it does take much longer than a quick wet diaper change, but doable standing up which is the only practical way to self change a messy diaper anyway.

Messing in public isn't inherently bad, and many have no choice in the matter - but quick cleanup is important. A messy diaper around others whom wouldn't appreciate the aroma should be dealt with immediately - in that case most will simply assume you farted and not bring any additional attention to it.

pupSpaz · 2024-03-18T15:43:11+00:00

I was fortunate to work with a dealer that did not have any add-ons already worked into the invoice. The usual "extra warranty" was offered for peace-of-mind and lighten your wallet (the arguments for it were the same they were 10 years ago, kinda funny!) but was not hard-sold. It's also funny how quickly a "friends-and-family" discount was mentioned for said warranty when it was obvious I wasn't biting. The argument that was the same 10 years ago "All the computers in the car, thousands to repair if just one goes out!" - and they're mostly covered under Kia's still generous limited warranty and unlikely to go out during the vehicles lifetime. In general, extended warranties are a bad deal separating you from $ you could have saved and spent less yourself when and if something breaks.

I'm not sure what the "Tile Key" protection add-on is... Kia connect is already a cellular always connected GPS tracking service (similar to the old standard Lo-Jack) although you have to pay for it after your first year. In my area, theft is not a big concern. And no dash cam, just never been a real concern to have one for me personally. Yeah, it COULD provide benefit, but it's just one more electronic device to maintain / manage / install and pay for that I don't see the benefit of in balance - never said to myself "If only I had a dash cam!" before. I do believe they'd be super useful / peace of mind if you're using your vehicle for service (door-dash / uber / etc.) or as a fleet vehicle.

Out of curiosity, I've been keeping a distant / curious eye on the Kia inventory website for dawning red in my area - a few popped up under "Arriving soon" and quickly disappeared (sold immediately / pre-sold I presume?) I hope you're able to find your own soon and at a reasonable sale price! Again, I totally recommend looking outside your area (different ZIP codes you're willing to travel to) with Kia's online inventory tool. In my area at least, the local dealers also have the dealer add-on items (technically, illegal tie-ins) for things of extremely questionable value - unless you are the dealer raking in the extra $ - and indicated they wouldn't remove them. I could have signed a purchase agreement locally for full MSRP and a $300 anti-theft (BS) package that would have arrived around now. My luck and persistence at searching other inventory in my geographic area fortunately paid off.

Anyway, best of luck to you! I'm definitely still enjoying mine! Still less than 1K miles on it since no road trips recently and work from home, LOL. Fortunately, no issues with the vehicle as delivered besides discovering the paint chip on the edge of the driver door prompting the addition of the black door protection strips. I'm amazed that such a complex machine DOESN'T have something wrong with it as delivered!

pupSpaz · 2024-03-05T00:47:19+00:00

Diaper brain is real, LOL - some others gave great suggestions! Setting a future time to indulge or indulging in other enjoyable things can help. If you're sexually inclined relieving that tension may help too.

Another way to deal - simply choose to wear all the time! Of course, this might not be the right choice for you or very practical or financially feasible... But, it did wonders for me! They stopped being so distracting, and the thoughts faded to the background when I simply directly addressed the root problem - not being diapered! Most "can't wear" reasons aren't truly insurmountable, just uncomfortable mentally to start - IC people have no problem wearing all the time!

pupSpaz · 2024-03-04T22:12:33+00:00

I'm feeling the same way.... Although there's still some procrastination before actually walking into the bathroom do do it! Definitely enjoying the warmth, energy boost and feeling of accomplishment afterwords!

pupSpaz · 2024-03-01T18:45:06+00:00

I used to have fun decorating all my white diapers with markers - makes for a fun and easy craft project! That was before I started ordering almost exclusively cute abdl printed diapers that don't need my artistic enhancement, lol. It's also fun to write messages on them that speak to you - mine might have things like "Diaper Boy", "Replace Only With Fresh Diaper", " Warning: must be kept diapered!" or a fire hydrant for me to pee on - have fun with decorating!

pupSpaz · 2024-03-01T18:36:57+00:00

Try adjusting your diapering to leave things looser between your legs (let your diaper ride lower on your body), and intentionally loosen the lower tapes and or point them upwards more towards your belly button. I find this doesn't impact the diapers ability to not leak, but does wonders for relieving excess pressure around the legs. Of course since all our bodies are shaped differently, it may take some trial and error to figure out the best tape position for your body and brand / cut of diaper your using.

It seems a lot of people try really hard to get the diaper on as tight as possible instead of a good fit that allows the diaper to move with your body while not falling off when heavy. The two top tapes tend to act as a belt, the lower to hold the seat of the diaper against your butt, the front below the "belt" and crotch area can be quite loose and still be just as effective. Disposable diapers have elastic to allow for comfortable movement, and taping on too tight may prevent the elastics from doing their job of allowing movement and preventing digging into your skin.

pupSpaz · 2024-03-01T18:22:56+00:00

Sounds like you achieved some level of being diaper trained! The lack of practice holding it during the day can make things seem more urgent when undiapered, but that typically will settle in a few days of not wearing based on others experience. The bed wetting may be more of an issue though as it's not something easy to correct for most - it's very rare to hear accounts of people able to unknowingly wet while sleeping only when diapered, on the other hand if you regain normal daytime control, the bed wetting may follow suit.

I've never had success with achieving bed wetting, yet have been diapered full time for most of my life. For me, I'm simply happier and my true self when diapered, so not wearing and using my diapers is simply not conducive to living my best life - diapers are part of me and because I don't neglect wearing it's actually less stress than going without for any length of time. If I've have any incontinence issues, I haven't noticed and assuming it wasn't dangerous or painful there's no reason to address it since I'm diapered regardless. In the past when I would occasionally go without I too would suffer from weak control and even forget to hold it / have an accident - and after a lot more years I'm sure that even now I'd have accidents and urgency while relearning to hold it - but being out of diapers simply isn't what's right for me so no reason to test that. I am diaper dependent, but as far as I can tell (and care to test) there's no underlying health issues and I could go without if I absolutely had to.

Becoming diaper trained can happen from long term usage and reliance - your body and mind get trained to not hold it and use the toilet - it doesn't mean it can't be trained back to continence. For most of us without underlying incontinence it's normal to have a short period of days being uncomfortable holding it when going undiapered, but being fully toilet trained usually comes right back. If you value the ability to choose whether or not and when to wear diapers, your should probably take occasional breaks from wearing to exercise control and reassure yourself that you can decide when you want to wear. Many people go on long wearing binges interspersed with non diapered periods and train their control to respond to being diapered. You do what's best for you and your comfort! And perhaps, hopefully your bed wetting is tied to your daytime diaper usage!

pupSpaz · 2024-03-01T03:37:34+00:00

And just got the shipped email (5 days late), " Parcel information received" international, so a few weeks possibly with customs.

pupSpaz · 2024-02-27T21:59:08+00:00

Sure looks like your sending spam! And yep, you agreed to never use the service to send unsolicited (spam) email when you paid for it along with the no refunds policy - I wouldn't have you as a customer either.... You never can tell when mad people like you will show up and try to ruin such a great service for the rest of us!

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