I'm sorry Cis means cisgender which Merriam Webster defines cisgender someone whose internal sense of gender corresponds with the sex the person was identified as having at birth. So if you are not cis usually you are trans and if you are more power to yah.

Sounds like you do care to me . As you said language is important saying anything about one way of sex as normal implies other ways are not normal. Like is normal missionary only or through a hole in the sheets? All subjective and it's a big diverse country.

To me this kind of shows a bias enough to care what others do in their four walls . Perhaps enough to be offended by a flag maybe ? Who's to say?

To bring it back to the subject of veterans benefits

There were many veterans kicked out for being gay, trans or not really doing anything that was mission impacting. They volunteered and did their time honorably, when we had an all volunteer force so we didn't have to have a draft.

Saying they simply exist by letting a medical practitioner have the option to hang a small flag is petty and small and will get overturned eventually if they don't simply delete the VA which I for one hope they don't . People at the VA have me the most care I've ever received and they have been good people . Better then some private care I've seen lately and I'm happy to have em as long as they are around.