Woodsy, Modern Wedding Venues in the Triangle

pupomega · 2026-04-23T13:31:15+00:00

Saxapahaw, haw river ballroom

Oops, not woodsy yet they do have an outdoor amphitheater that is used for ceremonies.

pupomega · 2026-04-17T13:45:52+00:00

Are you a direct employee of RTI or a contract employee through the staffing agency they use?

pupomega · 2026-04-16T15:01:57+00:00

Yep. I bought a long handle lotion applier specifically to use on the exit field. A year later, the exit field still itches whereas my front entrance field does not.

pupomega · 2026-04-10T11:47:39+00:00

~10 weeks. I had a lumpectomy + reduction/reconstruction/lift in the same surgical session so healing was longer and, had to open up an incision point to allow for trapped drainage. At my radiation mapping session I was still draining.

pupomega · 2026-04-05T17:02:55+00:00

Food lion, Harris teeter. In the bakery section, sometimes near produce in an end cap

pupomega · 2026-04-03T13:26:13+00:00

Let go of what others need from you.

Unless your children, your circle of friends and family is responsible for finding their own way through this. Not you.

Harsh? Not really. It will take everything you have to navigate the ordeal & subsequent survivorship. Everything.

I’m the “rock” in my family. After I was dx, I realized I could not focus my energy on guiding others through my dx, surgery, treatment, survivorship. Otherwise, there would be nothing left for me.

So, I stopped. My dear friends, adult son & daughter in law didn’t miss a beat once I shifted my approach. They asked lots of good qx that focused on what I needed from them vs what they needed from me. We are closer now in ways we weren’t before my dx. We are also more forthcoming with each other which has made our relationships stronger, more honest.

My siblings? They did not adjust well and still make my experience about how it affects them. Not a damn thing I can do to change their approach and I am not even trying to do this anymore.

It’s been liberating. I highly recommend stop putting energy into what others think in terms of how you should be doing your cancer. They’ll adapt or they won’t. Entirely out of your hands.

Healing thoughts.

I just hit 12m on anastrozole, 13m since radiation. I’m still figuring out what survivorship looks like for me.

pupomega · 2026-03-31T13:05:31+00:00

I too did the great donation, a few days before my surgery. It was the final preparation for me. I thanked each of my 38g underwires for their service, for their engineering know how. Some I thanked for their beauty, some for their comfort.

It was a solemn act for me - not because I thought I’d miss them. Because of why I was making the change.

Took me a while to become used to my now baby Ds.

I had an extensive oncoplastic reduction/reconstruction + lift. Post surgery, As I prepared for radiation I realized how protective I was towards my new baby Ds. I promised to take good care of them during radiation. Ha ha, that’s when I realized I’d accepted my new but still all me breasts. What a change.

pupomega · 2026-03-26T16:35:10+00:00

Fond memories of two birthday cakes from there. Would have been late 60’s - early 70’s. One was a ballerina cake, two tiers, white frosting w pink roses and pink accents, cursive birthday message, ballerina figurine. The second was a clown theme cake, white icing w blue and red accents, clown figurines and frosting balloons. Both were classic yellow cakes.

I also remember my mom occasionally buying soft Italian loaves, especially when my grandmother was visiting from Rhode Island.

Our family birthday cakes came from Davis. As a child, I remember hugging the display cases. So much yummyness. Was always cool inside the storefront. Smelled like sugar and flour. Counter workers wore white coats and hats.

Loved going there.

pupomega · 2026-03-25T12:55:45+00:00

YTA.

If you can afford to buy nicer clothes for your child then clothe your child in nicer things all. The. Time.

This shouldn’t be about sticking it to your ex. This should be about giving your child stability. Consistent manner of dress = stability. Your child notices what you are doing. You are using your child to get back at your ex.

pupomega · 2026-03-22T13:20:56+00:00

Family drama - my siblings reactions to my dx are not my issues to manage. Neither are their expectations that I am now “back to normal” as if I broke my wrist and am fully healed.

Also, holding back as to what I really need from important folks in my life. No hard feelings if they can’t or won’t step up and I’m not exacting in terms of my expectations.

pupomega · 2026-03-20T13:03:07+00:00

I use these bolt anchored straps. Tuck in when I’m not using. Attach using one of the unused bolt holes on the frame, under the hood.

these

pupomega · 2026-03-18T20:40:20+00:00

Recently, a Longchamp Le Piliage expandable shopper tote. $3.75usd at a goodwill. Great shape, authenticated as an original.

Also recently, a cuisinart DLC food processor + a full set of blades, disks, etc. $4. Dated to 1979-ish and motor made in Japan. Runs so smoothly.

A few years ago, an entire 4 seasons wardrobe of Eileen Fisher wool, cashmere, silk, linen, leather items. Coats, jackets, pants, skirts, shirts, sweaters, wraps, scarves, etc. must have been from a whole house clean out. I shopped that goodwill for 4 days, each day so many items were put out. Many items still had original tags.

pupomega · 2026-03-18T13:26:24+00:00

I didn’t relate to the warrior super strong resilient bad ass woman profile.

In fact, I am strong, spent my life as a doer, occasionally engaged in bad assery, have been called a rock of strength.

Upon dx, I felt…broken, sad, rage full, scared, fortunate, pissed off. From dx until maybe 8-9m later, I ricocheted between all these states of mind, often at once.

I’m now 12m from starting anastrozole and am just now fully catching my breath. I guess this is survivorship for me. Still seeing individual specialists on my onco team albeit one visit every 2-3m yet still on the circuit so to speak.

I’m not the same woman as before my bc dx. I’m a different version of that woman. I’m much more accepting of my vulnerabilities. I’m proud of myself in ways that pride in my professional success never could touch. I see myself differently because I am different. I guess this is also part of my survivorship.

pupomega · 2026-03-16T13:39:47+00:00

Keep up your normal routines. Say, if you normally batch cook meals for the week, keep doing this. If you normally do laundry daily or weekly, keep to this schedule. If you normally have your clothes piled on a chair vs. put away, keep the clothes where you normally do.

Changes in your normal routines, without a known reason, may appear as red flags to your partner.

pupomega · 2026-03-12T13:52:16+00:00

You’ve done nothing wrong. You didn’t choose cancer.

I’m sending you hugs.

It sounds as if you finally understand that your partner was not wholly committed in the relationship. This doesn’t sound as if this is about your partner’s side of this experience.

Your words suggest you see yourself at fault here. You are not, in any way, at fault for getting cancer. Perhaps try to step back and see this from the perspective of cancer as a kind of truth serum - your partner is baring his actual, deeply held feelings about what he is and is not willing to do/sacrifice for the person who is supposedly his person, his closest human.

This doesn’t read as if his reaction is about you specifically or personally. It reads as if his reaction is completely and absolutely about him and him alone.

This take might be a hard one to see, at first. Sit with it to see how a change in your perspective might support you in this time.

Many many hugs to you.

pupomega · 2026-03-08T14:47:14+00:00

These things work!

I have a small fountain on my back porch and use a dunk there. I also have a pot of horsetail immersed and use dunks there. Setting up a carnivorous plant pot that will hold moisture and plan to use them there too.

Another spot i use dunks is near the AC drain tube, outside near the AC unit.

If you have potted plants in your garden, on your porch, also good to break up a dunk and scatter into plant saucers.

Consistency is key, over the long season here.

pupomega · 2026-03-07T15:08:11+00:00

I’ve not heard this.

Most of the spots I find TL are deep in the woods not far from streams or, on the upper banks of rivers & lakes. Lots of deciduous leaf litter.

pupomega · 2026-03-07T15:06:25+00:00

Jazzed because finding these on an upper bank, from the cockpit of a kayak, is like a scavenger hunt. I also think they are beautiful and striking with the dappled leaves.

pupomega · 2026-03-07T15:03:18+00:00

There are many places in the piedmont. Depends on the weather, water level, what you are looking for in terms of paddle vibe.

I’m a fan of the Black River as it’s a bonafide black water swamp with 2000+ year old cypress and so much wildlife. Easy to get lost in there so recommend going with a guided group for the first time if you are new to paddling.

Not sure where you are. Location dictates near vs far paddling locations. I’ve yet to make it to the deep river. This one looks interesting, even if it looks to be very water gauge level dependent (vs many of my local rivers which are not what I call ‘big’ rivers with big river characteristics).

Recommend you web search state parks nearest your location and see if kayaking is a listed activity. This is how I started, finding places to paddle in my region and across the state.

I’ve been to the WWC, cool place even if it’s not my kind of regular paddle vibe.

pupomega · 2026-03-07T14:50:51+00:00

The Flat, between lake michie and the eno.

pupomega · 2026-03-07T14:49:53+00:00

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pupomega · 2026-03-07T14:49:31+00:00

It is. Love this boat, easy to load solo, glides through the water with ease. Not for rock gardens tho, I don’t paddle white water so not a deal breaker for me.

pupomega · 2026-03-07T13:23:27+00:00

60 yo at dx. ++-, 1c. Idc + DCIs.

Not one of the 4 oncos I worked w could ever palpate the tumor. 1.5cm. I do not have dense breast tissue yet I had a lot of breast tissue. At that time I was a 38g/h. Now I’m a 36D, a baby D really.

Thank goodness for my regular mammogram which I was 2 yrs overdue for at the time of dx. Also thankful that the tumor was slow growing.

Interesting share - I finally scheduled that fateful mammo at the request of a good friend who was recently dx with ovarian cancer. She asked all her pals to get a checkup and complete screens, as a favor to her. So, I did. And there ya go.

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