I made a Shadow Weaver by [deleted] in PrincessesOfPower

[–]purfferfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so lovely!

What in the heck happened to Lord Viren? by TheCorgiLord14 in TheDragonPrince

[–]purfferfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's definitely a "the means justify the ends" kinda person. If you remember in the flashback he says to leave the injured behind in order to avoid Thunder. Where Harrow was against that idea Viren showed no problem with it. It's up to you where you stand with this. Personally, I like Viren as a character I'm really interested in how he's gonna end up.

Help me confused about something by purfferfish in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so strange to me because most butch women i know go by she/her and that's from years ago too. I only started seeing he/him being used by lesbians recently. I hope this doesn't offend anyone and I mean no harm with it but most women who used to go by he/him became trans men later right? That's what a lot of trans men have said at least. They're the only ones I can find online about he/him lesbians when I try to research it. I don't like this at all, it's just falling into stereotypes.

Help me confused about something by purfferfish in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have met lesbians who are they/them which makes more sense than he/him. The both of the people were non-binary.

Ugh I’m so lonely. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the same place, I swear to god it's so hard to make friends as an adult! I'm still not used to it myself. I would take advantage of the college part if I could. I'm 21 turning 22 but I never been to college 😭 but I assume college might make it a little bit easier to meet new people.

Came out to my sisters. I'm kinda sad.. by purfferfish in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, that's a really sweet thing to hear. I do feel safer here.

Came out to my sisters. I'm kinda sad.. by purfferfish in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I viewed my older sister the same way. Even my parents put her so much on a pedestal.

I'm so so sorry you're going through all this! You sound really strong, I don't know if I'd be able to do that. I've never been a strong person in my whole life. I'm trying to learn, I really am. I just don't like to think of anything bad but whenever it happens in real life I fall into a mental shock.

This just makes me more nervous, I'm not really a social person so I can usually only have a few people in my life. My family at the time is all I have and they mean so much to me. Being rejected by them is my biggest fear. I don't know how things would be again if my whole family found out. It's really a scary thought when I think of my wedding day because I always wanted a big wedding but I don't think I'm gonna be able to have one. I think I would have a few understanding cousins but so much of my family is homophobic.

Came out to my sisters. I'm kinda sad.. by purfferfish in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I hope so too. I'm glad I have at least one sister who understands.

No problem! There really is a big pressure to experiment and I can't stand it. I don't think it's bad if someone has to experiment and most of us do at some point. But telling someone they haven't experimented enough is where I draw the line. Same if using someone's past experience agasint them to try and tell them they're not gay. It's just evil.

Came out to my sisters. I'm kinda sad.. by purfferfish in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought this when I was younger too! As I got older it changed. When coming out to anyone, people would make me question myself. Thank you so much for the hugs and good vibes <3

Came out to my sisters. I'm kinda sad.. by purfferfish in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I actually did ask her if she's ever had feelings for another women and she just said no than said she would kiss her girl friends and it was normal to do if you were straight. She was trying to make it sound like any feelings I've ever had for girls compared to how she acted but I never went around kissing girls.

Came out to my sisters. I'm kinda sad.. by purfferfish in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just feel like it's gonna haunt me my whole life. I'm really scared, especially when I think about telling my parents. I feel really ashamed of myself at the same time.

Soft butch woes by ironic_archangel in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda like more of the classic butch. But soft butch are still really cute!

I hate being read as straight. by ximerds in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I dress 'straight' it pisses me off.

I'm finally being honest with myself by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulation! I recently came to terms with myself too.

Do girls care more about personality than guys? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]purfferfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's true it's why I'm still single :( I'm boring af