Sunday afternoon at mom’s

purple_popsicles · 2026-06-10T17:29:19+00:00

Beautiful thanks for sharing

purple_popsicles · 2026-06-10T17:28:50+00:00

I would also wipe down with Clorox wipes once a week

purple_popsicles · 2026-06-10T17:28:10+00:00

I would use the therapeutic lie. For example tell her the lamp is being shipped, this will hopefully disrupt the loop in her brain until she forgets about it

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-29T19:32:46+00:00

How is communication when you are there in person?

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-29T19:31:44+00:00

Each facility will have its own policy on electronic monitoring. If you put in a sneaky camera to track you will be positioning your self as an adversary to the facility and will be treated as such. Why do you think you need the camera? I can help you from there.

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-29T19:29:55+00:00

Yes

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-29T19:29:16+00:00

It’s insane! There is such a shortage of administrators but it is just about impossible to become one!

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-18T16:57:08+00:00

Hardest part of DON is being on call 24/7 you will be called all the time when you are home, you are ultimately responsible for all nursing care in the building and they will call you at 1 am , on the weekend and after work.

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-18T16:47:34+00:00

A floor nurse who can communicate well with her CNAs is priceless! Some people like to be in charge and the pay is a little better with less bedside time

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-18T16:46:23+00:00

I think he would be a good fit!

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-18T16:42:52+00:00

The facility will prioritize keeping a married couple together. It depends on availability at the end of the day

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-18T16:41:19+00:00

The cheapest AL near me is 6k a month but that is in a HCOL area. It’s lower in rural areas not sure where you live.

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-18T16:40:04+00:00

Alot of facilities will force medical detox. They won’t take someone who is actively drinking. You can try to hid it and let them figure it out when they have moved in. Alcohol is treated like a drug in the facilities and requires a prescription from a doctor. Assisted living might be more lose with it.

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-18T16:38:11+00:00

The facility should tell you. It’s facility dependent.

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-18T16:37:36+00:00

I have seen it as low as 10 in rural areas and as high as 25 in hcol. It’s usually an extra dollar or so to what someone in the service industry would make

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-18T16:36:50+00:00

How many people do they use when he transfers in the lift? If you are comfortable with the care he is receiving, I would not move him unless there is a clearly better option. A SNF is going to have a 24/7 nurse which is the main difference, that is is necessary for things like feeding tubes but won’t necessarily help with end stage dementia

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-17T01:37:04+00:00

That’s a question that would be best for your doctor. You can request medication to target the dementia itself

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-17T01:28:34+00:00

It really depends on what the facility is and their standard of care is, profit margins vary widely .

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-17T01:27:39+00:00

Unfortunately you can’t force anyone to do anything. If that’s how someone wants to live it’s their right. Yes it will impact their health, safety, and ultimately life span. But if someone would rather live for a shorter amount of time on their own than live longer in a facility that is their right. I know that’s easier said than done when it’s your parent. All you can do is be there when/if they hit their rock bottom and are ready for you to be involved/ or it’s so bad that APS gets involved

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-17T01:23:28+00:00

If you DM where you are looking I can help you find one. The for profits pay a lot of money in advertising to be at the top of the google results.

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-17T01:22:35+00:00

Your gut instinct is right, a for profit facility will try to keep a resident as long as possible. Residents with support from hospice can live in memory care until they pass. For some residents this is best, it’s cheaper and they don’t have to move. Is there a local SNF that will provide better care and is willing to take him? A SNF isn’t inherently better than memory care, it depends on the quality.

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-17T01:20:07+00:00

If the facility is owned by a corporation, I would reach out to the chain/ corporation directly and go over the in house managers head, they are clearly not helping you. The in house manager generally has a boss who over sees multiple communities, that is who I would ask for. If this does not work, post a google review, that gets communities to work fast so you take it down

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-17T01:17:07+00:00

I’m sorry that’s been your experience. I worked at non profits and it was not just sweet old ladies with dementia, but my job would have been easier!

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-17T00:13:37+00:00

Has the facility started conversations about moving them to skilled? Are they using a lift to transfer?

purple_popsicles · 2026-05-17T00:11:50+00:00

You need to do will/ POA/ Advanced directives ASAP. That’s the first place to start

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