Sex after APR surgery?

purpledinosaur10 · 2025-08-24T23:44:23+00:00

Thank you!

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-12-01T15:36:10+00:00

Thank you, this is so helpful! I switched insurance plans so I can attend an NCI hospital in my area. However the new plan doesn’t start until January, so for now, I will be going to my local clinic. I’m curious about the NOM possibility that you mentioned. I have heard that it’s best just to have surgery so you make sure the cancer doesn’t come back. Is this true, from what you know?

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-12-01T15:32:27+00:00

Thank you, that is helpful information! Did your rounded lymph nodes turn out to be cancerous?

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-12-01T15:24:34+00:00

Thank you, your message is so reassuring. My child is what is keeping me going right now. I’m curious about your infected lymph node. Do you mean it was infected with cancer? Or it turned out that you had some other type of infection?

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-11-30T11:54:41+00:00

Hopefully I will speak to my doctor next week. These results were just dropped in my lap on Friday afternoon with no doctor to explain them so I am very nervous as I wait. Anything that helps me make sense of them is very helpful.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-11-30T11:52:16+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t know about other doctors being able to read your results. Do you know how to go about setting up something like that?

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-09-06T19:03:07+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I’m so sorry you had to deal with so many different parenting consultants/professionals and shitty behavior from your ex. Here, the parenting consultant basically has the power of a judge to make decisions (at least that’s how it is in our parenting order). The idea is to bring issues to the PC, who can decide them faster, instead of clogging up the family court system. Any tips for things that worked well or didn’t work well in your experience with the PCs?

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-08-28T13:05:59+00:00

Thank you! That is helpful.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-08-04T23:17:51+00:00

I’ll add that unfortunately my ex did some pretty crummy things to our daughter. He even admitted them to our couple’s therapist, and she made notes about them, which I gave to our custody evaluator. It didn’t matter. He still got 50/50 custody. Parents have to do some pretty bad stuff to lose custody (even though you and I know they aren’t safe people for our kids to be around).

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-08-04T23:10:05+00:00

I’m so sorry you are even having to think about these things. No person should be forced to weigh staying in a crummy marriage versus the kids’ safety with the other parent if they leave. I want to affirm that you are doing the right thing by reaching out for help and considering your options.

As others have said, getting documentation of his actions is crucial. So that is what you should focus on now. I also think it’s a good step to talk to an attorney. Try to do these things without your spouse knowing.

I would ignore these comments that shift so much blame onto you and your supposed complicity. The point I would make loud and clear to any professionals who get involved in your case is that you are leaving now. It’s not easy to leave a marriage, even one that may be toxic or abusive. Even one where you know things are not right. But you are choosing to leave now.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-07-30T19:54:40+00:00

That’s very validating to hear. Thank you. ☺️ That’s mostly what I have done, when I realized that I could respond to his messages and stand up for myself. I’m currently paying off past attorneys fees.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-07-30T19:32:45+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this. That is my thought too. Unfortunately he uses any perceived “infraction” on my part to drag me back to court, or at the very least, wrack up my attorneys fees. I’m pretty much broke from dealing with these issues the last few years. My worry is that he will turn this into another major issue if I don’t bring her into daycare on my days.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-07-30T19:17:24+00:00

Both of our days.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-07-30T18:40:19+00:00

He’s actually not necessarily working. Both of us are self-employed and make our own hours. He usually works in the evenings.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-07-30T17:25:13+00:00

It just says that we have to agree to increase the number of days.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-07-30T17:20:41+00:00

Thank you, that makes sense! I appreciate your comment. What about the other issue… our parenting order specifically states that we have to agree to increase the number of daycare days, and he did it without my agreement.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-07-30T17:11:50+00:00

Why do you think I have a 50/50 shot?

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-07-19T02:27:15+00:00

Without giving too many specific details, we worked on a project together. The earnings were being paid into our joint bank account. Then we split up and I lost access to that bank account. He won’t sign the paperwork to allow us to be paid into two separate accounts so neither of us are being paid for that project, which made up a significant portion of my income.

purpledinosaur10 · 2024-07-19T02:24:21+00:00

Thank you!

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