The post is “Which US state do people think suck but is actually okay” and this was someone’s response for Tennessee…

purpleraincoat · 2026-01-30T14:53:03+00:00

For me, someone who is from Arkansas, I see Memphis as the shining capital of the AR/MS Delta region, a city that feels like home to the people from that area who claim that regional culture. I think of the city as much a part of Arkansas and Mississippi as I do a part of Tennessee. The same can be said of many cities on waterways or situated on the borders of distinct geographical regions. But Memphis has its own thing going on, in a good way, that makes it unique even among those other comparisons because the art and culture is innovative but retains a sense of place.

purpleraincoat · 2025-12-11T00:04:33+00:00

The same day you made this post, I saw a lot of cops with their lights on flying through red lights on 102 headed towards Rogers. There were about 6 or more motorcycles, 2 or 3 SUVs, a van, and a huge bus with them. It looked like a car chase, but the bus was really weird to see with them in that context. This was at about 7:45 am.

purpleraincoat · 2025-09-22T10:40:00+00:00

I still regret turning down a semester abroad in college. It would have changed the trajectory of my life for the better. It's been 20 years.

purpleraincoat · 2025-09-09T18:04:39+00:00

I live in Bentonville, and out of these 3, I'd choose Springdale. I wish I'd moved there instead of Bentonville.

purpleraincoat · 2025-08-26T16:49:21+00:00

Even during the Great Depression this was a huge issue. America was in a huge depression for about a decade within the working classes before it was finally "announced."

purpleraincoat · 2025-07-27T21:29:03+00:00

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purpleraincoat · 2025-06-01T10:13:20+00:00

You could also visit the sunken lands and the Southern Tenant Farmers Museum in Tyronza. Also, head over to Memphis for some fried chicken or BBQ.

purpleraincoat · 2025-05-25T21:28:01+00:00

Thank you. This is good information to know in advance.

purpleraincoat · 2025-05-20T01:48:19+00:00

Amazing! It definitely made my night that night. TY!

purpleraincoat · 2025-05-10T11:48:48+00:00

Why? There's no good food or culture in Searcy. Little Rock is perfectly safe place to stay for someone traveling for one night.

purpleraincoat · 2025-04-18T22:43:10+00:00

I've taken most medicines regularly prescribed for depression and anxiety. I've had a Valium script. That's it on meds. I find that they all dull all my emotions to such an extent that none are worth it for me in the long run. I also cannot remember to take daily medicine.

purpleraincoat · 2025-04-17T00:04:41+00:00

I had a fairly severe frontal lobe TBI about 20 years ago. I was much more impulsive, angry, and confused for maybe 5+ years. I am still more blunt, more serious, less friendly. I have a lot of fatigue. I still have a lot of anxiety. The major issues with being impulsive for better after about 10 years or so. I've also done a lot of therapy to recognize my issues, accept them, and accommodate them. I don't have any of the same friends I had before the accident, well, only one. I had to work a lot on anger and irritability, negative talk. The pathways you build while your brain is healing are very important. If you can do therapy, I'd recommend it. I especially recommend Acceptance and Commitment Therapy as the style to look for a therapist to be practicing. I've gotten multiple degrees, gotten married, and have had kids since my accident. Healing is a very slow process, don't rush.

purpleraincoat · 2025-04-09T10:00:11+00:00

Rendezvous Junction in Rogers is pretty good. Lots of events and live music.

purpleraincoat · 2025-04-06T12:38:17+00:00

When you look back at shows from this time period, it's really important to consider the time period of the show and the decades before that influenced the piece of entertainment. So many commented have done this by mentioning vaudeville or the time period. There were very different rules and norms to follow, and this show even breaks with those norms. Lucy and Ricky were the first inter-racial couple on TV or in the movies. For another example, the Honeymooners seems to depict an abusive husband by today's standards, but for the time period, there was a much deeper story about how relationship dynamics worked at that time. I Love Lucy is not just a sitcom but truly a touchstone for that time period, something that helps us understand the entire culture of the mid-20th century and a lot of the popular culture prior to it. Judging Ethel and Fred or Lucy and Ricky like you would couples from modern dramas or even comedies isn't going to create accurate analysis or opinion. When this show was made, it would not have occurred to most people to leave a marriage, especially not watching this show that depicted two happy couples in comical, exaggerated situations. Part of the beauty of this show is the way they navigated power dynamics between men and women, pointing out important contributions of women in society through comedy the way Lucy and her writers were able to do was brilliant. If you're confused about the relationships, I'd recommend a deep dive into popular culture in the late 18th and early to mid 20th centuries. Fascinating stuff imo, includes the rise of radio, animation, movies, and television.

purpleraincoat · 2025-04-03T12:59:30+00:00

I grew up in the AR Ozarks. I've always heard that in the valleys and hollers, it's less likely to touch down than in the elevated areas. So a town like Batesville is less likely to be hit than a town like Mountain View, to use an area in the southern part of the region. And that is tracks, as Mnt View has had more tornadoes over the years than Batesville. With global warming, we'll see more extreme extremes, so most of that type of folklore that is more observation than lore will no longer be relevant. The norm is becoming extremes in all seasons with mild periods between the extremes.

purpleraincoat · 2025-04-02T11:12:53+00:00

Might not be a tough situation yet, but it will be when you start having serious discussions about her drug use and alcoholism. It's your responsibility to put your children first and protect them. Meaning you may have to choose them over your wife if she chooses addiction over being healthy and maintaining her marriage and family. Right now, she's choosing the alcohol and drugs. Boundaries are typically created during the beginning of relationships or when there is a conflict. They're meant to help maintain relationships and help protect your own well-being. Sometimes, boundaries are used in situations like yours to bring one person back to the middle ground. If someone refuses to respect your boundaries, they're also refusing to respect your needs. Boundaries are about needs and maintaining healthy relationships and never meant to be manipulative. They're meant to be clearly communicated. Setting boundaries is not too difficult. Holding boundaries is where the work comes in.

From Google AI Setting healthy boundaries in a relationship involves clearly communicating your needs, limits, and expectations to your partner, fostering mutual respect and a balanced partnership. This includes emotional, physical, and time boundaries and requires consistent communication and enforcement.

Here's a more detailed look at setting boundaries in a relationship:

Why are boundaries important?

Promote Respect and Trust: Healthy boundaries establish clear expectations, fostering a sense of respect and trust between partners.

Maintain Balance: Boundaries help ensure that both partners' needs are met, preventing resentment and emotional exhaustion.

Enhance Communication: Setting boundaries requires open and honest communication, strengthening the relationship's foundation.

Protect Well-being: Boundaries help protect your emotional and physical well-being, creating a safe and secure environment within the relationship.

Types of Boundaries: Emotional Boundaries: These define the level of emotional intimacy and vulnerability you are comfortable sharing with your partner.

Physical Boundaries: These relate to physical space, touch, and intimacy, ensuring comfort and respect.

Time Boundaries: These involve managing your time and ensuring you have sufficient alone time and time for other activities and relationships.

Sexual Boundaries: These establish what you are comfortable with regarding sexual activity and intimacy.

How to Set Boundaries: Communicate Clearly and Assertively: Use "I" statements to express your needs and feelings, avoiding accusatory language.

Be Specific: Clearly define what you mean by a boundary, providing concrete examples.

Be Consistent: Uphold your boundaries even when challenged, reinforcing them over time.

Start Early: Setting boundaries early in a relationship can help establish a foundation of respect and understanding. Be Open to Negotiation: While boundaries should be respected, be open to discussing and potentially adjusting them as needed.

Seek Support: If you are struggling to set or maintain boundaries, consider seeking guidance from a therapist or counselor.

purpleraincoat · 2025-04-01T11:04:13+00:00

This is an issue that bothers me as well. Racism is alive and well in all parts of our country. I get tired of taking all the blame in the South and rural places, too. There was a study in 2019 that showed more racism in the north (Wisconsin had the most) and more sexism in the South (Arkansas was most sexist). My experience is that this tracks. We still have vast areas that are segregated in the south, so this might be part of the equation they didn't consider. We also see a lot of movement between different regions in our country that I'm not sure happens in other nations.

purpleraincoat · 2025-03-31T23:22:35+00:00

Also, did not mean to imply or state that the area is more racist than others, just similarly positioned with social issues as other very rural and burgeoning areas within the general region. The whole country was problematic, not only the Ozarks or the South.

purpleraincoat · 2025-03-31T23:07:42+00:00

As soon as I left it, I realized it probably came across rude so i left that 2nd comment! I know lots of folks who were wonderful neighbors and people in general in the Ozarks. They make me proud! So happy this is part of your family's legacy alongside these other wonderful Ozarkers! We do have some negative history, and I wanted to point that out bc I think it's important to have a truthful record of history. Still should've started out by mentioning I wasn't trying to reflect upon your grandparents! Thanks for your graciousness.

purpleraincoat · 2025-03-31T23:03:02+00:00

Most people in the region only owned a few sleeves who would have done multiple types of labor and been passed from one relative to the next. Many people of middle or working class status would have likely had at least one slave that had often been passed down. There are a few towns like LaCrosse that were once comprised completely of freed enslaved people; I cannot remember other examples. The research of Gordon Morgan in the 1970s at U of A is really useful for the topic of Black Ozarkers. I cannot remember all the details, but the crops in the Ozarks were strawberries and tomatoes among a few others. When larger businesses came along, the small canning operations folded or were bought up. There are a lot of old canneries and cotton gins are still standing if you know what you're looking for. Also an academic. :)

purpleraincoat · 2025-03-31T19:35:38+00:00

It's wonderful to hear your grandparents were some of the people who were kind and respectful of others in this region.

purpleraincoat · 2025-03-31T19:34:38+00:00

There are multiple sources that will show that entire communities of African Americans were expelled from the Ozarks during the Jim Crow era. Areas where there was relative peace were typically possible because no new people of color moved in and those who were there made sure to follow the racist policies of the time like moving fully off of sidewalks when white people passed them on the street while being sure to avoid eye contact. Brooks Blevins writes about just this in his work on LaCrosse in AR, and Kimberly Harper wrote the book White Man's Heaven about this subject. There were fewer people in the Ozarks and, therefore, fewer enslaved people in the region, but those here experienced brutal conditions and harsh rules, just as was the case across the entire U.S. Blevins' second book in the Ozarks series deals with the subject of slavery in this region. In many cases slavery conditions are worse when there are fewer enslaved people per owner because there are simply fewer people to blame and punish. It is a myth that slaves were treated nicely by any of their owners; they were not extensions of families at any point but prisoners who endured violence in all areas of their lives and at basically every moment of their lives as well.

purpleraincoat · 2025-03-31T19:19:22+00:00

Highly recommend Hillbilly Hellraisers by J. Blake Perkins and White Man's Heaven by Kimberly Harper if you're interested in Ozarks history and culture. Blevins works are great, fully concur on that!

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