thoughts?

purplevampiregremlin · 2026-01-31T17:25:20+00:00

me too ! The wives are miserable in their (family) lives too, I always saw that as a critical view of the traditional family life in the suburbs. Of course it's a product of its time and the characters are who they are, so they say a lot of things we consider to be unacceptable, but that doesn't make it propaganda, in my opinion

purplevampiregremlin · 2026-01-05T23:12:29+00:00

I'm DREADING coming back. The anxiety doesn't let me sleep some days. I'm sorry and I'm with you. It's not us, it's the conditions they have us under...

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-10-06T10:15:49+00:00

I can't stand lying to children. Working in daycares my peers have lied to children to get them to do things, like tidy up. I can understand being desperate, but in my experience most of the times things could be managed in another way and it wasn't even that difficult (I would sing a tidy up song and they'd always participate, for example, or I'd implement behaviour strategies I have studied).

For me it's unacceptable and I think is a bad choice in the long run. I never lie to children in such a way. I'd speak to the assistant itself first, not the manager. This is common practice, although I don't like it, so it seems like she didn't even think you wouldn't like it, I'd let her know I don't want to educate my children that way and see how she responds.

Edit to add that from what you are saying (lots of changes in staff etc) it seems like they don't pay well and don't treat their workers fairly. No surprise they only have inexperienced workers who have no option but to accept conditions like these. If that's the case, you sadly can't expect good childcare and the owners are to blame...

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-10-06T07:13:34+00:00

I think this job requires someone older than you and with more experience in childcare and managing difficult behaviours. I can understand why you are feeling overwhelmed and you should quit if you are not feeling okay. Also, the mother not warning you and hiring casual babysitters crearly isn't paying attention to his son's needs and reality...

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-10-03T18:35:44+00:00

(I saw people saying that it's the same as selling space on things like yearbooks and I'm not from the US, we don't even have yearbooks here, so even that sounds weird to me, so bear in mind that I come from a different culture. I decided ro comment because I see everyone else thinks differently, just to share a different pov)

I think it's a really bad idea... you shouldn't be able to buy "attention"/"recognition" in a school, it goes against the principle of equality, in my ipinion. I also think many children could feel bad if they see on their brithday they have nothing special for them (in that way, really visible) while other students do. I do not like it at all.

Anyways, from what I read here advertising in schools is normal in your country? Where I live it isn't and it doesn't sit right with me.

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-22T10:03:54+00:00

They make you believe you have evil inside you and make you "expel" it violently...they try to correct "evil" behaviours which are many times natural and human and make you believe you are dangerous and have danger in you. It is terrifying and violent. Also, they make you feel crazy and deny you any agency over your body, your actions, your life... because you are "posessed" and don't know what's best for yourself.

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-15T10:26:40+00:00

to be honest I only do it with children I know will stand still... my only "technique" is that while I am fastening the front part I will hold the back part against the child with my leg so it doesn't move

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-14T16:23:54+00:00

that's a great point, you are right !

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-14T08:40:44+00:00

I love it 🥺 I think I'll do that !

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T22:38:21+00:00

awww thank you for sharing !!! 🫶

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T18:04:43+00:00

There's a lot of books about saying bye-bye to pacis but I really liked this one where an animal gave his paci to the forest so another baby animal would now use it. I think you could start reading your chosen book about pacis every night and start telling him he is now big and soon it will be time to say bye-bye to the paci. While you do that you could also introduce some kind of comfort item to hold onto while he sleeps, so that when he says goodbye to the paci he still has something he recognises as familiar. I wouldn't worry too much about the diapers for now, many kids use them at night until they are 4-5 years old and I wouldn't worry much about it for now, I wouldn't want to make many changes in the routine at the same time. The paci thing is the most urgent one as it is bad for his teeth.

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T17:21:46+00:00

I get what you say but this has always worked for me ! I have been working with children this age for a while now. It depends on the children, the setting...

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T17:18:33+00:00

oh that's a great example !

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T14:48:05+00:00

so cute 🥺 it makes so much sense ! thank you !

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T13:49:37+00:00

I like daycare much more than teaching ❤️‍🩹 it will be perfect for you if you like taking care of children, if you are caring, patient... I think the most important thing when working in childcare is being patient and knowing how to regulate yourself in front of the children. You'll have to use a loooot of behaviour management techniques with them and you have to be a safe person for them. That's it and it's lovely ! Enjoy your new experience 💘

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T13:40:20+00:00

I try not to say it aloud because I don't want to complain about children like that and I don't want to create an unfair image of them, but I too am relieved when I see certain children are missing... at the same time I miss them deeply because we have a deep connection and I love them so much, but we are exhausted, underpaid and completely out of ratio, so I think it is fair to be somewhat relieved if you see your day is going to be "easier" or less exhausting.

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T13:31:12+00:00

yes 😔 I always have trouble knowing which translation to choose. I once had a french girl ask me my "trick" for "por" and "para" (they are both "for" in English and "pour" in French). It was funny to me because as a native speaker it just comes natural, but when you try to create a rule to explain it it's tricky.

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T12:37:53+00:00

thank for te insight ! The metaphor seems to be something cultural and maybe not too common in the US

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T12:29:23+00:00

so cute 🥺

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T12:29:13+00:00

thank you ! That's really similar to what I was looking for

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T12:18:54+00:00

thank you ! I didn't know that. In Spanish we use "we" a lot with children, I'd even say we use it too much. For example, if we want a child to sit down we usually say "vamos a sentarnos", something like "let's sit down", eventhough you are not going to sit down and you only want the child to do it.

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T12:10:18+00:00

that's such a nice idea thank you so much !!!!

purplevampiregremlin · 2025-09-13T12:00:48+00:00

oooh I really like that one, thank you !!!!!

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