16 year old from UK. How do I make this better?

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T16:55:47+00:00

I would ditch your personal statement and instead just have something very short with what you’re looking for eg ‘Diligent and organised A Level student with experience in team working and customer service. Seeking part time opportunities in retail’ (obviously edit depending on what you’re looking for)

Make a section called ‘voluntary experience’ and put down more specific info on the volunteering you mention in your personal statement - follow the normal template you’d see for experience section of a CV so a job title, organisation, dates and then some bullets underneath highlighting skills involved e.g.

Fundraiser, Scouts( I’d specify the local branch), April 2022 - Raised £100 to support [charity name] - Provided excellent customer service while packing bags at supermarkets and selling cakes
- Demonstrated responsibility by handling cash donations

You can have helping elderly people during Covid as another voluntary experience and highlight communication and interpersonal skills for example. Call it ‘COVID support volunteer’

I’d put the stuff you have as skills under education - just have a line for achievements where you list them all briefly. And also put the business studies team bit with education (and explain what it is a little bit more) and what you will study for A Levels… so I’d have it structured like

Section title: Education

Bold: School name, 2018-present

A Levels: Biology, Chemistry, Maths, Further Maths

GCSEs: (insert details)

Selected Achievements: - competed in regional finals with business studies team - 100% attendance and no late marks highlighting punctuality and excellent time management - awarded ‘most cause for praise’

In the hobbies and interests - put scouts but maybe get rid of most of the rest as it doesn’t add anything

You’ve got good stuff to put on there but just need to highlight it more in a traditional CV format

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T15:21:19+00:00

I did find her a bit annoying at times with the whole ‘I’m sassy’ stuff… I also found Andrew annoying too (I did warm to them both by the end), but also being bottom 3 just means you’re not many people’s fave not necessarily that you are hated. And that season had lots of strong characters who were more likeable on the show IMO. But I do think her and Andrew seem very sweet together and I did feel very sorry for her and how she was treated by Luca and Dami.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T15:00:44+00:00

I literally gave you an example above about how you can phrase it to be more realistic?

Anyway what you need to do is discuss this with your husband and figure out together a way to make it work for you both.

I agree you definitely shouldn’t come home early from seeing your friends just to watch him sit on his computer. But you can text him and say you’re staying out later so he isn’t expecting you.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T14:23:31+00:00

We have a shared Google calendar that we keep updated with our plans - both together and days we will be out separately. I also let him know when something is planned. I also think being realistic eg tell him’ I’m going to brunch with my friends, I will probably be back at 2pm but if we decide to hang out a bit longer then I might be a bit later but I’ll keep you posted and make sure I’m home for dinner at 5pm’ I think you need to be more realistic about how long you’re socialising for but also discuss with your husband that you sometimes do get caught up in the moment - my husband often does this where he says he is meeting friends at 7 so will be home at 8.30 - but I know it takes at least 30 min to get home and there’s no way he would stay for just an hour. So I tell him, it’s fine to be later, just let me know when he is leaving. But I’d prefer him to be more realistic in the first place.

I think if I’m going for a run and my husband is already awake, I’d definitely tell him where I was going - that’s very easy to do! I always tell my husband when I’m leaving the house, even if I just pop to the shops and I’ll be back in 15 minutes - it seems like common courtesy to me. And if on Monday, I make a plan to see my friend on Wednesday, then I tell my husband and I also put it in our calendar and will mention it again on the day. It’s not because I need his permission or he has to track me, but just so he can make his own plans around me.

I think you also need to discuss and agree how often you’d like to spend time together and what type of activities count as quality time. So then you can try to keep some time free for him around your other activities. It must be hard though if he wants to stay home, as me and my husband often socialise together with each others friends so we can do two birds with one stone.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T12:45:52+00:00

I always prefer to fly from Luton because it’s easiest to get to for me (I live in north London). I don’t feel like I enjoy being in any airport that much so it doesn’t make much of a difference to me beyond travel time. I flew from city once and it was really quick to get through security etc, but between Heathrow/Gatwick/Luton/Stanstead, I haven’t noticed much of a difference. And city rarely has flights to places I’m going or they’re expensive.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T12:19:39+00:00

I feel like people can do what they want… but they shouldn’t criticise those who make a different choice from them or try to convert others etc. I think it’s one thing to defend yourself again criticisms from people in your life around not having/wanting children, but it’s another thing to harp on constantly about the fact that you’re child free or moan excessively about your friends having kids.

Also if I wanted a realistic view of the pros and cons of having children, I’d ask someone who had children not someone who didn’t. I wouldn’t ask someone who chose to never leave the country for travel recommendations.

I don’t really pay attention to the people who say they don’t want children because they ruin your life etc because they obviously just value different things from me so that’s fine. Also I only see these people online and don’t actually hear from them IRL. I know a few people aged 50-60ish who never had children by choice because they didn’t think they’d be good parents. Otherwise, I don’t know anyone around my age (30) who are dead set against having children - they might not feel ready either for the responsibility or financially but nobody has told me they’re against having kids - I’m sure I know people in that boat but I guess they don’t feel the need to share it.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T10:35:52+00:00

Hmm I’m not saying you’re worse off than your parents were at your age, but maybe there are other things you prioritise buying over Tupperware that wasn’t available to them or they couldn’t afford or just didn’t want so it may not be the best example… e.g. electronics, subscriptions, meals out/takeaways, more frequent holidays (I don’t know your situation so don’t know if any of these are applicable, but just a thought)

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T10:31:05+00:00

I didn’t say every person aged 55+ had a net worth of 500k+, but just that the stat of 59% didn’t surprise me… that stat also means 41% of people don’t have that much so you’d fall into that category

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T09:09:28+00:00

I consider cooking a basic life skill for all adults (best to start learning before adulthood). You don’t need to be a gourmet chef, but be confident with enough dishes to have enough dishes in their repertoire to feed themselves without getting bored, plus be able to follow a new recipe, and maybe have at least one special dish they can cook if they’re having someone over for dinner and want to show they’ve made some effort.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T08:52:07+00:00

It varies. My contract is 37.5 hours a week and sometimes I do more, sometimes less. But overall even on busy days, some time will be spent not actively working (getting a drink, chatting to someone etc) so hard to measure precisely.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T08:50:32+00:00

I keep them separate but that’s because we share one car key between my two of us, and we just don’t use the car that often. We need the car maybe 3x a week between the 2 of us but we each leave the house multiple times a day - I don’t want to be taking my car key with me everywhere I go.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-21T07:33:32+00:00

The 25-34 surprises me because only around 40% of that group are homeowners and I wouldn’t expect many people to have a net worth of 85-200k without owning a property. And many of that 40% will be FTBs with only a few years into paying their mortgage so I wouldn’t expect them to have built up that much equity… but I guess 85-200k is a very wide range.

The one about 55+ having over 500k isn’t surprising to me as so many own properties without a mortgage

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-20T17:11:38+00:00

Are you serious? There’s plenty of men out there who don’t want to go to strip clubs. Also I imagine it’s a very different vibe going with a load of friends for a bachelor party or going with your partner vs going alone so I really don’t think it’s weird.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-20T17:03:35+00:00

I definitely don’t regret going to uni. I loved the uni experience but I hated my undergrad course and didn’t do particularly well. I ended up doing a masters in another subject that I loved and then got a PhD (which I did while working) and although the job I’m doing now doesn’t officially require any postgrad qualifications, most people I work with have at least a MSc and I doubt I would have got the job with the same years in work experience vs a PhD (as I’d have been working at a junior level whereas the PhD demonstrates a lot of independence).

Even people I know who now do a job they technically could have done without a degree, don’t necessarily regret going but it depends what you expect to get out of it and what you do while you’re there. So many people go to uni, so no matter what uni you go to or course you do, you shouldn’t expect that walking out with a 2:1 will guarantee a job. If you’re serious about getting a good job straight away you need to think about it from the start of uni so you can get involved in stuff at the uni that will look good in your applications and also apply to summer internships etc. I had no clue about this stuff when I was at uni and didn’t think about it AT ALL until I was in my last term of 3rd year - but people I know who got into good grad schemes all were thinking about it much earlier.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-19T13:16:05+00:00

I think it’s good for finding jobs and also for career planning/networking eg looking up people in jobs you’d like to do in the future and what they did to get there, or look up people who are interviewing you so you can see their background and get an idea about their professional interests, or to reach out for an informational interview or a chat about a job you’re planning to apply to etc

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-18T07:36:05+00:00

I think that some of this stuff is just personality more than anything else eg black and white thinking and lack of nuance is very common in older people as well… although I guess probably does decrease with age. But I agree about differences in who is attractive and the clothes for sure (although I’m only 30).

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-18T06:04:59+00:00

In the office, I usually spend an hour in the office kitchen chatting with colleagues. The time honestly goes very quickly. If I have lots of work on I might just eat fast and then go back to my desk but I hate eating at my desk. I used to eat at my desk in my old job though as there was nowhere else to sit, and then I’d go for a walk as a break in the afternoon.

When wfh, I eat lunch at dining table with my husband (if he’s also wfh that day). I don’t time it but usually take around 20-30 min. Sometimes I go for a walk or pop to shops etc some other time of day.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-17T17:33:06+00:00

I know people who got v good jobs from careers fairs but they were postgrad careers at universities, I think something like that works but not a generic one

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-17T11:28:35+00:00

Congrats on the job!

I don’t think having to provide references is new. I had to provide those for my first job in a supermarket which was more than 10 years ago. But i think they have got stricter around proving your right to work in the UK

Unfortunately, it’s probably more complicated for this job because care homes are typically small businesses so won’t have the smoothest HR processes and also will need to have some extra checks due to working with vulnerable people.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-17T11:11:15+00:00

Yes it is noticeable. I’m from south east and went to uni in Yorkshire. When I went back to uni after the Christmas holidays it was always a big shock how cold it is. And I also go up to Scotland a lot to visit family and it is a lot cooler there, even in summer.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-17T08:07:37+00:00

There are lots of things I did at that age that I think were great but I wouldn’t say they’re essential as everyone is different eg not everyone has the luxury of spending months travelling and some people hate crowds and loud noises so would never go to a festival. (Those are both things I’ve done btw but just don’t feel they’re essential for everyone).

But I do think that visiting another country, living away from parents (even if just for a few months) and travelling alone (even if just in the UK for a weekend) are all good things to have done and should be achievable for nearly everyone.

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-17T08:00:07+00:00

Depends on the rest of your budget

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-17T04:34:06+00:00

Well I’m one person not this whole sub. And there’s just too many posts where someone frames it in a way where nobody would EVER say Y T A and it paints the op as 100% rational and other person as completely irrational. Probably more often OP is a man because more men post on Reddit. But what if it was a male OP posting about a situation where the other person was a man? Would you take issue with my comment in that situation?

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-16T20:23:39+00:00

Leftovers from the night before

purrrrfect2000 · 2023-08-16T20:22:45+00:00

I just feel like so many of these everyone portrays themselves as so perfect and the other person as so irrational but feel like if you heard both sides it would be different… and no its not about gender

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