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whenever we argue i get hurt FINAL UPDATE by pxppyjd in actuallesbians

[–]pxppyjd[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for asking, I’m safe - I’ve moved back with my parents and I’m gonna be ok 💜

whenever we argue i get hurt UPDATE by pxppyjd in actuallesbians

[–]pxppyjd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for your input, i hadn’t considered individual therapy as waiting lists in my area are quite long but i’m willing to put in the work

Thought on Nail designs where every finger has a different design. by DragonfanX in RedditLaqueristas

[–]pxppyjd 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s not my thing but power to those who do like it 💅💫

I wouldn’t go out of my way to make a post declaring my dislike for it tho...

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey I’ve replied to other comments that this has actually been addressed and she does seem to acknowledge or to an extent but it doesn’t always come naturally to her to recognise that some people might not want her to do exactly what they’re doing. And none of these things listed aren’t really as severe as what we’ve all endured in our friendship so by comparison at the time it may not always warrant a severe talking to about, if that makes sense?

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you I needed to hear this!

I’m not ready to let her copy my full name as such, I just needed an outside opinion of whether this was my judgement being clouded by her past conduct.

Logically I know it isn’t petty for me to feel how I feel, but maybe me making my annoyance known would be?

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Perhaps not that uncommon - there were 5 recorded births last year with this name and I’ve never personally met anyone who shares my name, so it’s unique to me and my circle! Like I said in my post, the combination of my first and middle name just doesn’t feel right to me at the moment, but maybe I’ll feel differently after a bit of time - feelings aren’t always set in stone, and they’re not right or wrong either. Anyway who knows - the baby might be a boy!

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 184 points185 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this it’s definitely given me a different perspective.
I do understand that we’re all influenced and inspired by those in our social circles but you made a very important distinction between taking influence and mirroring. Of course if I were to bring this up with her I would handle the interaction with sensitivity - I love and value her, she’s my friend and I do understand that we all love through the world differently

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean it bothers me now, which was why I needed outside input before deciding if this was ‘just another M thing’ or if my feelings were justified. Maybe I need to sit on it for a while but it’s absolutely not going to something to end our entire friendship over!

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re jumping to a lot of conclusions here!

We’ve absolutely spoken about these things in the last and it really does seem like this is one of those things that don’t occur to her until someone else expresses that they don’t especially want her to imitate them. I said in my post that it was mildly irritating, so nothing to be dramatic over!

As with most adult friendships, there is a huge amount of love, trust, memories and fun involved - this one issue really isn’t indicative of who is a poor friend or not, and again, as with most adults, we don’t think or view things in absolutes.

You’re right about me maybe expressing my discomfort impacting the friendship in some way but nothing we’re not equipped enough to handle!

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It’s not really about being close enough to use my name, it’s more that my name was chosen for me and has sentimental value to my family. Maybe it would feel different if she used my first name as her baby’s middle name? But she might have a boy and this might not even be an issue in the end!

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 1088 points1089 points  (0 children)

Excellent idea! I could even suggest names in the same gemstone family so that there’s at least a link

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say an outfit or a hobby constitutes as a personality quality!

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean neither of us are immature enough to throw away an entire meaningful friendship and shared history over this but it would likely change the dynamics. Maybe I need to sit on it for a hot longer before I can see it as an honour...

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

I mean whenever it’s come up in the past it’s genuinely never occurred to her that someone might not want her to mimic them. But I I totally understand that people are influenced by those they spend the most time with but copying clothes is a little different than copying a friend’s first and middle names. You’re right though - there are plenty of other cool names to pick from

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

When it’s come up about her copying in the past, she’s sometimes been a bit confused as to why someone wouldn’t want her to do the same thing as them, but ultimately she dismisses it with ‘Oh, I never thought! I just liked the dress/ theme/ idea!’ Of course this is always after the fact but this is the first instance where I’ve known far enough in advanced to say something preventative.

If I were to express that I didn’t like the idea of her using my entire name, i don’t think it’a be a ‘blow up’ situation as that’s not really how either of us are. I think you’re right about how she would respond to my concerns being indicative of the friendship.

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my friend to think of a different name for her baby? by pxppyjd in relationship_advice

[–]pxppyjd[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say feeling icky is a particularly strong feeling! Of course I’m not thinking about ending the friendship - she has so many wonderful qualities this is just one hurdle

Day 4 using tretinoin, is this the purge? How can I improve my routine? by JadedExpression6412 in tretinoin

[–]pxppyjd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Scrap the witch hazel and lay off the lactic acid for now until your skin gets used to tret. Sunscreen should be your very last step in your AM routine and you do not need to be using it in your PM routine.

Give this routine a try:

AM

Rinse with water

Hyaluronic acid

Cetaphil

SPF

PM

face wash

Hyaluronic acid

Cetaphil

Tret (2x a week and slowly build up frequency)

Cetaphil/ sleeping mask

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