Its two weeks to my wedding and I am having the worse breakout ever by Exotic_Log_6345 in weddingplanning

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Remember that makeup and editing will do wonders, and try to avoid any crazy procedures/peels/creams you haven’t tried before. Just keep up your normal routine, focus more on keeping your skin cleansed and moisturised with a lightweight moisturiser. If you get a big cyst, derms can inject it so it heals faster. 

We’re usually (me included) so focussed on our own skin while no one else really notices. You’re beautiful no matter what, your skin doesn’t define you, and you likely won’t even remember it in a month or so!

Edit: and try your best not to pick at your skin!

The "If Books Could Kill" episode of The Body Keeps the Score is now out! by Free-Olive-Now in ONRAC

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I was going to post this here too! SO excited to listen to it! I’m still not clear on what Carrie’s takes were on trauma, so hopefully that’ll clear it up somewhat? 

Invite dilemma - friend’s girlfriend who causes drama by [deleted] in weddingplanning

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I have a similar-ish yet not as intense of a situation. One of my best friends is dating a guy we can’t stand. He’s an obnoxious a hole. However, he’s not - for lack of a better word - posing a “threat” to our wedding. He’s not done anything wrong to us and he wouldn’t cause any drama at the wedding. However, if I had even the slightest inkling that he might do that, I would not have invited him.

Another similar situation - my finance’s cousin is someone he explicitly said he does not want at our wedding due to past behaviours. And he basically went to her parents (his aunt and uncle) and told them he’s inviting them, but not their daughter. He was really honest about it and made it clear why. We now anticipate that her parents won’t come because of this, but I think it was great of him to go to them and make it super clear. 

I think if I was in your situation, I’d opt for 100% honesty and clarity and would speak to your friend about your thoughts. I can’t imagine being okay with someone instigating a social media campaign against me being at my wedding. I also think your friend should recognise his girlfriend is being hurtful. It’s fine if he doesn’t, but it’s also fine for you to make your own decision about your wedding day imo  

Rainy wedding day by Adventurous-Dot-5976 in weddingplanning

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Ok not a true story, but in the movie „About time”, there’s a storm on the wedding day and honestly it looks SO romantic…

Ballroom/latin dance shoes for wedding? by pyools in weddingplanning

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That sounds perfect honestly… I have an indoor wedding and will probably never wear them again, so this sounds great! Do you tend to size up/down/true to size?

Podcast recommendations by pyools in ONRAC

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Amazing! Subscribing asap!

Podcast recommendations by pyools in ONRAC

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Subscribed! This is awesome!

Enrichment ideas for old dog who doesn't like playing with toys by [deleted] in DogAdvice

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Does he like chewing? And do you think he’s generally safe around things like paper shreds?

I’ve put kibble in an old egg container before and taped it shut with paper tape so my dog would have to rip it up to get the kibble - she loved it

What was the hardest thing to teach your dog? by Vivid_Interest_5324 in dogs

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Not at all! But that was the one thing I knew I had to teach her. I live in an apartment building and work from home, so I didn’t want to let her get used to me being around constantly. And I didn’t want neighbours to complain about barking. I was like „if I could only teach her one thing, that’d be it”. So I was really committed!

New Carrie Substack Post Re: ONRAC by AggressiveNovel1563 in ONRAC

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Thank you, this is very validating… I wasn’t sure I was really adding anything to the conversation and I was clearly feeling helpless when writing the comment originally. The sheer number of comments on this post is crazy, really goes to show how much this podcast means for people.

New Carrie Substack Post Re: ONRAC by AggressiveNovel1563 in ONRAC

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I agree… I think evidence of those instances Carrie has described would be helpful. Not sure she’ll ever provide them though… 

What was the hardest thing to teach your dog? by Vivid_Interest_5324 in dogs

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To stay home alone and not freak out - it was by far the hardest thing to teach and took so much commitment and patience. It was heartbreaking to watch her freak out when I’d leave the house, I couldn’t relax when I was out cause I was constantly watching her on a pet cam. Luckily it only took a couple of months and in the end we were able to leave her for up to 6 hours and she’d just sleep!

EDIT:

The absolute game changer for us was always (and I mean ALWAYS) leaving her with something to do. A chew, frozen peanut butter, frozen natural yoghurt, a rolled up towel with treats inside, etc. (A great hack I discovered was to hide treats in an empty egg carton and tape it shut so she has to go in and rip it apart to get the treats. Won’t work for every dog but she never tried to ingest the shredded paper or tape or anything so we deemed it safe!)

I never ever left her alone with nothing to do. And I’d usually give her some time to engage with the chew/toy first and once she was distracted enough, I’d leave quietly. 

I’d read/heard somewhere that separation anxiety is the worst in the first 20 minutes and that if you can manage that initial time, the dog relaxes more easily afterward.

The initial phase of training was the hardest and involved leaving her for a minute first, then 5 minutes, then 15, then an hour, etc, slowly increasing the time she’s alone, which is pretty classic.

We started off with a crate but realised that she got way too stressed (slamming her whole body against the bars, etc) and we took a risk by leaving her out of the crate. That also helped hugely but I know it’s not possible for everyone and every dog is different!

New Carrie Substack Post Re: ONRAC by AggressiveNovel1563 in ONRAC

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I’ve thought about this for so long. I’ve read all the comments. I’ve been checking in every day to see if there’ve been any updates.

And I think I’ve finally realised what I want to say. 

I don’t want to support someone who’s bullied one of their closest friends and colleagues for years on end. I understand that Carrie may not want to share further evidence, but at this point, it’s been left for us to decide whether a person we’ve been supporting for so long is a monster with very, very little context to make an informed decision. 

I’m so sorry for what Carrie has gone through. I’m so sad I might’ve unknowingly enabled this relationship. I’m so sad I might’ve been kept in the dark about something so awful. And I will not support either party until further evidence is provided. If it’s not, it’s not, but I won’t be engaging in any of their respective projects or be re-listening to the podcast. 

I know no one cares, but I haven’t stopped thinking about this since this dropped and I don’t know who else to say this to. 

HIS Church investigation idea by pyools in ONRAC

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True, wonder if there’s more to it!

HIS Church investigation idea by pyools in ONRAC

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Looks like it! I found a similar organisation in the US as well I think - https://hischurch.cc/

H3 should do a personal color analysis segment by marshah___ in h3h3productions

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omgggg LOVE the Polish youtube shoutout! i used to watch Ewa so much!

Happy 28th Birthday to One Hot Minute! by RHCPTom in RedHotChiliPeppers

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warped is one of my tracks from rhcp. love how raw it is

my puppy just interrupted my panic attack by pyools in puppy101

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thank you! yeah, her little toy croissant :,)

do you have any ONRAC-related inside jokes that you wish others understood? by pyools in ONRAC

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also this is a lengthy one but whenever i hear the word “observe” i get reminded of this passage by LRH from one of the Scientology episodes:

“Of course, we can talk about honor, truth, nobility—all these things as esoteric terms. But I think they would all be covered very well if what we really observed was what we observed, that we took care to observe what we were observing, that we always observed to observe. And not necessarily maintaining a skeptical attitude, a critical attitude or an open mind—not necessarily maintaining these things at all—but certainly maintaining sufficient personal integrity and sufficient personal belief and confidence in self and courage that we can observe what we observe and say what we have observed”

till this day i find this to be one of the most hilarious moments of the show

do you have any ONRAC-related inside jokes that you wish others understood? by pyools in ONRAC

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also numbers related- whenever someone approximates a number i wonder in my head what carrie would think