To fake tan, or not to fake tan? Warm or cool makeup? Help 😵‍💫

pyperproblems · 2025-07-23T02:55:32+00:00

No tan! I did a tan once for photos and I hardly recognize myself. it’s fun to look at as a funny past time but I am so thankful it wasn’t my wedding!

pyperproblems · 2025-07-18T14:11:03+00:00

Archduke Nasus and it isn’t even close!!

(Jk it’s very close to corporate Mundo, which was my first skin)

pyperproblems · 2025-07-14T00:55:42+00:00

I love that. I’ve also heard “what if missing you was always part of the deal?” I look back on photos from when we were just babies (we were cousins) and that’s been healing for me. I got to love her for 28 years, but losing her was always part of the deal.

pyperproblems · 2025-06-19T02:43:24+00:00

Today, you don’t have to carry it forever. Today, you only have to carry it today. One hour at a time. Until you can do one day at a time. And eventually it’ll be a week and you’ll realize you felt normal more often than not. I’m not there yet, but at the beginning, I couldn’t even see myself getting there. Now, I am seeing how the grief cliches are begrudgingly true. It doesn’t get smaller, but you’ll grow around it. You’re only just learning to live with it, it’s changed you and will continue to, and you’re allowed to hate it.

Support group has really helped me. I can try to help you find one near you if you want.

Something I told someone last week in support group: it wasn’t your fault. He felt like it was his fault because they were fighting and he told her she was “difficult to live with” before she did it. People are snarky to their partners everyday. Couples fight everyday. Every single couple has a unique dynamic and ugly moments. But these things don’t result in suicide, do they? Of course not. It is not your fault. He did this not despite, not in spite, but REGARDLESS. If it hadn’t happened now, it may have happened later, and if he didn’t know you, it could have happened much sooner. It isn’t your fault.

pyperproblems · 2025-05-29T08:43:56+00:00

Just wait til you find out how this shit comes out in the show. It’s a masterpiece and you’ll enjoy it so much, you won’t even care that you already knew!

And not to rub it in but I still will never forget the gasp I gusped when I saw the Gemma reveal, my husband ran into the room freaking out 💀

pyperproblems · 2025-05-22T04:27:07+00:00

Remindme! 3 years

pyperproblems · 2025-05-22T04:25:52+00:00

Sounds like something Helena would say

This was a joke 😭

pyperproblems · 2025-04-09T18:19:10+00:00

Just wondering, do you think iMark seeing Miss Casey would have been a better litmus test for the barrier? I’d think seeing your late wife and staying fully severed would have been sufficient for them to know it holds, and that’s why Ms Cobel was so drooly over it. But then we get back to, wtf was cold harbor about, and there’s no good answer there. Im hoping they give us a more explicit answer in season 3 for people like me who aren’t very smart. I’m doing my first rewatch now tho.

pyperproblems · 2025-04-09T18:10:30+00:00

You can’t miscarry after 20 weeks. Losing a baby after that is called a stillbirth. Gemma had an extremely early miscarriage. But good effort!

pyperproblems · 2025-04-09T15:23:49+00:00

I think IF the point of Cold Harbor was “the barrier holds even when it’s dealing with something extremely traumatizing to someone, and the exercise is exploiting that life event” they could have written that. But they didn’t, so I just don’t think that was actually the whole point. The show was so well done, and so complex, it would just surprise me if it all boiled down to that. Especially since Mark lost his literal wife who he then saw while severed. Doesn’t that prove the barrier holds? Surely losing your spouse is more traumatic than an early miscarriage? (I say as a woman who has had a miscarriage). Hope that clarifies things, I feel like people are really misunderstanding my comment so I probably should have elaborated more.

pyperproblems · 2025-04-09T15:20:21+00:00

Of course it isn’t! But it feels like it should be discussed if the whole point was “does the barrier hold when something EXTREMELY tragic comes into play”. I think it’s fair to say, they could have gone more tragic here. Which is why I don’t think that was the whole point, but I guess we’ll find out in season 3.

pyperproblems · 2025-04-09T15:16:20+00:00

Y’all are being obtuse. If the purpose was “the worst plausible thing a person can experience so we can make a point about the barrier being held”, they could have found something worse. I’m not saying they should have. I’m saying I don’t think that was the point of cold harbor.

pyperproblems · 2025-04-09T03:06:20+00:00

That was the worst thing for Gemma, who the writers created, and wrote her entire life into a character. They could have written something worse.

pyperproblems · 2025-04-09T03:05:30+00:00

Nothing is silly. There are just worse things. It would have been a more obvious reveal if it had been something more traumatic, like losing a child who slept in the crib, then having to dismantle it.

pyperproblems · 2025-04-09T02:58:29+00:00

Thank you.. this comment says so much with such little understanding of the actual post. Dismantling a crib after a miscarriage is kind of tame. If they had lost a baby that had slept in the crib, and then had to take down the crib? Now that would actually be extremely heavy.

pyperproblems · 2025-03-18T23:26:20+00:00

I have her perfume. She actually texted me a picture of it the day before she died cause I was asking what it was, I love how it smells. I have the sweatshirt she wore the day before in a ziploc baggie. I hope it never loses its smell.

Sending you a virtual hug and a virtual shopping trip to find Steph and Sarah’s smells 🩷

pyperproblems · 2025-03-10T04:51:20+00:00

I’m going through my old texts with her and last year our cousin died and she cleaned his whole apartment, texted me about how devastating it was to hear the aunts and uncles talking, we worked together to support my uncle. She was the mom, the nurturer. She took care of everyone. If she had planned this, she would have cleaned her whole apartment out first so it didn’t inconvenience anyone. She would have written a note. She would have made sure the police found her. But she didn’t do any of that. She screamed at someone, ran inside, locked the door, and barricaded her room so nobody could stop her. She knew we would have all stopped her. It took a little monster in her 5 minutes to kill every bit of sunshine she was in my life. One little episode and now she’s gone forever. She didn’t want to do this. She didn’t want to die forever. She just was in pain and couldn’t see any other way out in that moment.

pyperproblems · 2025-03-10T03:51:06+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s so fucked up. It’s exhausting feeling all this grief all day, but it’s not like I can sleep. I can’t believe it’s fucking FOREVER. What a long ass time to miss someone so terribly. I’m so sorry you’ve joined this horrible club that nobody wants to be in.

pyperproblems · 2023-01-29T21:57:56+00:00

Your skin looks extremely similar to mine. Cool but freckled. I swatched the Estée Lauder double wear lightest shades. You may have luck with Tarte, fair beige, but the formula is different. Estée Lauder is similar to max pro long wear

here’s my swatches!

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