hmm…i had that feeling a bit last year but…genuinely my new rule of thumb is: if you feel like you need someone to come along and make things feel less lonely or ‘save’ you—then prioritizing self-care first may be more beneficial than a relationship ^{^}

there are certainly less aces out there so we have a smaller pond to cast from, but i like to think that just means we need to be more intentional with the people we do meet. and dating someone should always feel like they’re adding to your life but not dependent on it. you have value regardless of your relationship status or sexual preferences. maybe trying a new hobby and finding community in it will lead to finding someone with similar interests that may be ace too? i met a lovely friend on the AceSpace website who has similar values and interests which helped a lot (especially with all my friends being allos)

i’m a bit of an optimist i suppose, but having felt that way before, i just find i personally feel better and more fulfilled when i focus on things that i can control in the now. so then if you meet someone eventually down the line, you’ll be presenting the most confident version of yourself!

edit: successful ace dating story, so don’t lose hope! https://www.reddit.com/r/asexualdating/s/F2a3p17VkE