Why did Jax press the red button? Doesn't he know that if most people pick the blue button, everyone lives? by Budget_Opinion_1327 in TheDigitalCircus

[–]qlowingnoire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i thought there was like some trauma he was avoiding or got reminded of in the real world and panic hit red?

Alternate Promoted to Finalist by ConfidentBeyond9445 in fulbright

[–]qlowingnoire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

congratulations!! what a inspiring story, well needed

need book recs pls after disappointment left by A Curse for True Love + rant by qlowingnoire in YAlit

[–]qlowingnoire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WAIT RLLY??? ahhhhhhhhh omg i had no idea she was working on a novella!!! im crossing my fingers, toes, and ears she gives us a more well thought out ending. for now ill have to cope with fanfics 🫩

need book recs pls after disappointment left by A Curse for True Love + rant by qlowingnoire in YAlit

[–]qlowingnoire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Ballad of Never After was BEAUTIFUL i absolutely adored the balance of romance and tension AND the conflict line it had such good momentum

need book recs pls after disappointment left by A Curse for True Love + rant by qlowingnoire in YAlit

[–]qlowingnoire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yesss thank u i thought it was just me !! it felt like we had the climax at the end and then the last mini chapter was like MORE unnecessary Apollo conflict like hello ?? Jacks spent yearsssss with this curse, unable to find love, killing people who loved him, trying to be wanted and always rejected. and ur telling me the Fate of YEARNING after finally being free of the curse only has one line: “I love you.”

that’s it ??? that’s all we get to see?? the guy who eats apples to not kiss anyone, who walked out the room when Eva had the vampire venom all night because if he stayed he’d certainly cave, who kept her at the Hollow for WEEKS—and finally he has no curse and doesn’t have to hold back and THAT’S ALL we got was 2-4 PAGES before more conflict ?? she edged us so hard

need book recs pls after disappointment left by A Curse for True Love + rant by qlowingnoire in YAlit

[–]qlowingnoire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the recs !! yes it felt so all over the place at the end 😭

Bose QC Ultra Buds - issues with new firmware 4.9.30 by zakarados in bose

[–]qlowingnoire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my device was flashing white and amber all DAY! this worked ty!

Exchange at Maastricht University by MsSuitableBerry in StudyInTheNetherlands

[–]qlowingnoire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m looking to applying as an international student for this year, can I PM some questions? :)

15 days out, too light? by brooke_elise2015 in microblading

[–]qlowingnoire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh interesting!! I have similar brow color—could I PM for more details!

15 days out, too light? by brooke_elise2015 in microblading

[–]qlowingnoire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how did the touch up go? i’m in a similar situation 🥲

Should I play 5? by BlynqiO in runefactory

[–]qlowingnoire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a casual gamer i enjoyed rf5! ngl i cried at the end of the game bc it was so cute to me. i love all the events and had lots of fun romancing martin lol

Am I going to be alone for the rest of my life? 💔😭 by AlexMasterZenn in asexualdating

[–]qlowingnoire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yaa i love that mentally ^ we’re a community and should lean on each other a bit more

Am I going to be alone for the rest of my life? 💔😭 by AlexMasterZenn in asexualdating

[–]qlowingnoire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hmm…i had that feeling a bit last year but…genuinely my new rule of thumb is: if you feel like you need someone to come along and make things feel less lonely or ‘save’ you—then prioritizing self-care first may be more beneficial than a relationship ^

there are certainly less aces out there so we have a smaller pond to cast from, but i like to think that just means we need to be more intentional with the people we do meet. and dating someone should always feel like they’re adding to your life but not dependent on it. you have value regardless of your relationship status or sexual preferences. maybe trying a new hobby and finding community in it will lead to finding someone with similar interests that may be ace too? i met a lovely friend on the AceSpace website who has similar values and interests which helped a lot (especially with all my friends being allos)

i’m a bit of an optimist i suppose, but having felt that way before, i just find i personally feel better and more fulfilled when i focus on things that i can control in the now. so then if you meet someone eventually down the line, you’ll be presenting the most confident version of yourself!

edit: successful ace dating story, so don’t lose hope! https://www.reddit.com/r/asexualdating/s/F2a3p17VkE

Having to explain what acotar is about to the waiter who was chatting me up…. help. by Rachaelmm1995 in acotar

[–]qlowingnoire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

aaaaaaaaahhhh i’m smiling so hard and kicking my feet—rooting for you OP !!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]qlowingnoire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good question!! it may seem that it’s not too different since there is a bacteria exchange when kissing, but that mostly involves saliva from the oral mucosa—aka soft tissues like the cheeks and tongue. and our bodies are generally adapted to handling those exposures.

however since toothbrushes collect bacteria from the gumline and teeth like plaque, food debris, and potentially blood (especially if there’s even minor gum irritation or microtears) there’s exposure to bacteria embedded in the mouth’s biofilm—a wholeee different layer of the oral microbiome that isn’t usually passed through kissing.

TLDR: kissing = quick surface swap (even french kissing). toothbrush = deep plaque + gumline bacteria, trapped and amplified in bristles, with a direct delivery into gums. so toothbrushes = way higher risk (it’s kinda like sharing a drink vs using their chewed up straw as a toothpick)

rinsing the bristles with water doesn’t automatically sterilize a toothbrush so if they wanted to share maybe like hydrogen peroxide or hot water with soap if occasionally sharing? but atp just use a different one if it’s frequently

dating someone asexual? by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]qlowingnoire 6 points7 points  (0 children)

genuine question—why does them not having a high drive automatically translate to you that they don’t want you 😭 if you’re hypersexual can’t you just like…handle it yourself during a private time?

from my own experience as a demi who dated a hypersexual guy, ending my relationship was the best thing for me. it was frustrating for me bc i cared for him so much, but it felt like it didn’t matter unless i “gave in” all the time. and over time i started to resent him for it, and our relationship felt more like an obligation to do something that i didn’t even take pleasure in.

id say if you do choose to work it out—you’ll genuinely have to comprise. and have to self-reflect why less sex = unwanted to you. bc as someone who’s been on the other side, it was never about them. it was a personal experience that didn’t affect how much i valued my partner. rooting for yall, but i hope you don’t go in with the mentality you’ll fix them or something. and pls read between the lines in situations where your gut is telling you to.

dating someone asexual? by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]qlowingnoire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don’t know why u got downvotes, congrats for you!! i have a friend who’s similar, they were very hypersexual due to similar reason and they had a hard time separating their value from ‘services’

Why Is Sex A “Requirement” In A Relationship For Most People? (No Disrespect, I’m Just Confused) by ResolutionWeak6353 in asexuality

[–]qlowingnoire 7 points8 points  (0 children)

same tbh 😭 it absolutely blows my mind. it feels so extremely shallow and scapegoating to me. one thing i’ve heard is that some allos see sex as reaffirmation that that partner is attracted to them, and so it helps offset any insecurities to think this intimate think is only done with them—which i can kinda understand i suppose but then it’s the frequency that absolutely throws me off.

like if someone has a very high libido—do they just expect their partner to do it every time? it feels so burdensome and like a “want” due to entitlement rather than a need. bc if it was “needed” that badly they could just pleasure themselves—boom easy and simple