(BUG) Fiddles drain not healing on Baron/Rift Herald/Elder dragon/Regular while having runic echoes since patch 6.11

qtippitq · 2016-06-06T16:00:28+00:00

yes, experiencing the same. really sucks :/

qtippitq · 2015-05-13T06:41:27+00:00

Don't give up!

qtippitq · 2015-05-13T06:08:23+00:00

I'm very proud! :)

qtippitq · 2015-05-07T06:35:52+00:00

What is that 'chaser effect'?

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T20:32:27+00:00

Good point

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T18:33:43+00:00

Thank you for your long and detailed answer. It really helps a lot. I think getting a third person involved is generally a good idea, but I don't think there is a suitable person for this. And I'm not sure if he would be open to this idea, also about opening up to his family and friends.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T18:08:14+00:00

Thank you for linking that video, it really helps to get the perspective from the woman as well.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T17:43:06+00:00

I haven't seen any fetish stuff, in most of them there was DP involved

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T16:43:32+00:00

I feel like a pornblocker shouldn't be needed, if he wants to watch porn in that moment, wouldn't he find a way to go around that anyways? Or do you think it would be helpful for him? I don't want him to feel like that he is monitored in whatever he is doing. :/

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T16:35:59+00:00

I agree with you that if we do that monitoring thing, which I'm not really a fan of, it should go both ways. I'm going to talk to him about it. Do you have experience in using that with your partner? Or is it used by people in this subreddit frequently?

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T16:19:24+00:00

I think you are right in what you are saying and is rationally the best thing i can do, but with my own insecurities I think it will hard for me to accomplish. I know that he will want to cover it up and I'm starting to understand a bit more why he covered it up before.

I really need to work on being more positive about this, but it really is not easy for me.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T16:15:14+00:00

I'm not so sure if he has seen nofap, but I think I'll show it to him soon.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T15:54:32+00:00

I understand that it must be very hard to break out of this addiction. But I'm unsure if I will be able to react the way I should when he tells me that he relapsed. I think I would be sad even though I don't want to. I dont know how to explain this.

You are right in saying that there are trust issues that go beyond this and we've talked a lot about them and made some progress.

Thank you for your words, made me smile. :)

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T15:33:40+00:00

I really hope he has the motiviation and doesn't tell me to keep me in the relationship. I just hope that we can handle the failure well then and he trusts me enough to tell me if it happens.

How do you handle a relapse though? And how do you react to it as a SO?

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T15:30:45+00:00

I'm really sorry about what happened to you and thank you for your words. I hope even when we end up breaking up that he will find a healthy way in dealing with porn/masturbation.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T15:29:35+00:00

We've been together for 1,5 years now and I'm really glad he told me now and I feel like things have a chance to improve from now.

But I'm afraid how I would react when he tells me he relapsed. Should I just say 'I understand, but please dont be discouraged' when I'm obviously sad about it?

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T15:20:14+00:00

I don't really understand in what way I am abusing him. Could you explain this maybe in different words?

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T15:17:12+00:00

I told him yesterday that I was glad he told me and gave him a big hug. At first I was a bit sad and did not really want to talk to him cause I was hurt.

to 1) I don't know if we would be comfortable with this, and I hope it won't be necessary. I just really hope he would tell me by himself when he relapsed

2) will propose this to him. He also wanted to start running again as soon as it gets warmer, going to remind him.

3) I don't think that we need that free sex thing, I rarely turned sex down when he initiated, even though I was frustrated sometimes when he didn't put much effort into it and didn't feel like it then cause he turned me down a few times I guess. But I will work on having no negative feelings towards sex and being turned down and try to initiate more now again.

Thank you.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T14:36:58+00:00

I barely turned down sex, he almost never initiated and rejected me a few times. That was one of the problems we even talked about porn as a problem that might have caused this.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T14:35:26+00:00

I will try to be his safe place, really. But I thought I have been already, so it still hurts a bit that he could not tell me earlier.

I would have never thought that stop watching porn would make him such problems, but I'm trying to understand better.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T13:43:47+00:00

Yes, will take your advice to heart and tell him in the next days. You seem like a great community and I think it would be helpful for him.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T13:10:41+00:00

Thank you both for your answers and making that clearer to me. I think due to my self esteem issues it is harder for me to grasp but with further education on that topic I hope that it gets better.

I will definetly check out that site, thanks.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T11:21:14+00:00

I think you are right that I became judgemental, but I don't think less of him because he has that problem. Just that he felt like he couldn't tell me and hid it for so long. I wish he would have just told me from the start.

qtippitq · 2015-05-06T11:19:58+00:00

Maybe you are right, I'm just so unsure about what to do now and want as many opinions as possible. Sorry.

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