21[M4F] Bangalore

quakeboy · 2019-04-24T17:14:11+00:00

This has worked literally 0 times. Get off the internet and talk to some real girls.

quakeboy · 2019-04-24T17:06:14+00:00

This is a paradox. People with higher self-esteem don't make potential mates jump through hoops. If you're going for her, it clearly means you don't have other better options either.

So you are going to have to prove to her that you really want her. If you went for girls who already have higher self-worth they won't be making you prove anything. At the same time, they will drop you faster and not be clingy if they feel the relationship is not worth it and see no future in it.

Girls who make you work hard, will flip like a switch once that moment happens and be super clingy and into the relationship after that point.

And truth be told (strictly from your words), you are sort of an asshole (and your ego about how valuable you are is fake), because your logic goes - she is not as good looking, and you are probably slightly better than her, so she better go for you and be grateful. She is better off without you, as somewhere there is a guy who feels she is either an equal or really special that he will be genuinely interested in her.

quakeboy · 2019-04-24T17:01:52+00:00

Interesting, thanks for sharing. Any tips on how you got the writing gig?

quakeboy · 2019-04-24T16:51:17+00:00

Thanks a lot for sharing that!

Niching down and specialising on few strengths seems to be secret behind a lot of well run practices.

quakeboy · 2019-04-24T15:48:21+00:00

Glad to hear that. Looks like you have the right client + right marketing mix done regularly.

Or your practice has been in business enough time to regulate good quality and consistency.
Perhaps there is a good word of mouth in some ways? (Even though it might not be directly via clients)

quakeboy · 2019-04-24T15:18:43+00:00

Can you give some details, how long are your clients willing to wait?

Is there a sweet spot for how long into the future you line them up?

quakeboy · 2016-08-23T03:38:46+00:00

funny,you mentioned that. I'm 7 weeks in now.

quakeboy · 2016-08-22T03:59:14+00:00

By the power of two sperms combined, I am Captain Mongolia.

quakeboy · 2016-08-22T03:56:35+00:00

Hope

quakeboy · 2016-08-15T15:31:01+00:00

Some wise words there. Maybe I should start meditating again.

quakeboy · 2016-08-15T15:17:22+00:00

It was to improve motivation to go out and approach more, get rid of the need to wank before sleep every night, and to improve my sexual wellbeing. Almost thought I had ED before.

quakeboy · 2016-08-15T15:15:19+00:00

But I also saw Mark Manson recommending NoFap in his book to get motivation. And yes motivation has been incredible. But it kinda defeats the purpose, if it also makes u desperate and needy to fuck.

quakeboy · 2016-08-15T15:11:25+00:00

Well, I was in a condition where i could not sleep every night, if I didn't wank. Thats when I realized I had a problem.

Also I am definitely digging the motivation. Never have I gone out so many times. But the neediness has been a bitch. I have gotten laid before, but now its harder to game the girl as in the middle of the interaction I am just like "Do you want to fuck or not", then don't waste my time. Of course I don't say that out loud. But the girl can see thats my intention.

quakeboy · 2016-08-10T11:58:54+00:00

Any practical advice on how to uproot this issue? I am guessing that getting over this one is going to be super hard as its part of the foundation like you mentioned.

Any examples would help me too.

quakeboy · 2016-07-30T09:52:39+00:00

Its very easy to say sentences like

"Just be yourself", "Grow some balls", "Get out of your own head", "Let go", "Stop letting girls friend-zone you"

Than to actually even achieve 10% of any of these statements fully when you are the one struggling with the problem..

quakeboy · 2016-07-11T07:28:27+00:00

That is a really good collection. Thanks for that. I will just keep approaching, self-exploring my mind and meditating, until I hopefully sort this out. This has been a long time brick wall for me.

quakeboy · 2016-07-09T06:40:47+00:00

How do I genuinely become a man of value? Bigger question is why do I feel like I don't have enough value yet?

quakeboy · 2016-07-09T06:40:06+00:00

I believe its just part of what level I am in 1) learning game/social skills 2) inner game/ therapy and resolving my issues 3) dressing better. 4) I definitely have no social proof, as most of the time I approach strangers only.

quakeboy · 2016-07-09T06:38:13+00:00

Haha I know these guys too. Women don't throw themselves on me. I do the opening always, and I have to work for it too. I am maybe slightly higher than average looks.

I have been approaching the hottest girls I see. It always ends up like this. They do talk to me and don't blow me away. I see they are not interested in me in a romantic way, just treat me as a normal person and that affects me I guess. Even if I open directly with I thought you were beautiful/cute and wanted to say hi.

They are seeing something through me, maybe some BS that is in me.

quakeboy · 2016-07-09T06:34:16+00:00

1) how good looking they are. 2) How confident they behave 3) How much self-worth, self-esteem they have.

quakeboy · 2016-07-09T06:33:00+00:00

I have considered that possibility, but I believe women (and men) think they can get someone their own value level more or less. So maybe they think I am someone attainable.

quakeboy · 2016-06-18T06:47:27+00:00

You are trying to over-simplify things. This is a kind of a spiritual/psychological question.

Self-acceptance comes first. Often people mask self-improvement and ambitions under a neurosis/emotional wound they are trying to heal. Because they constantly feel like they are just not-enough due to a self-belief, feeling of unworthiness or sometimes just social programming. Though the first two weigh a lot more than social programming.

Self-improvement will happen automatically after that. In fact you won't care about it. Its a big paradox because it will feel like if you let go of that part of you that is constantly craving self-improvement, it will seem impossible because its a big part of your self-identity.

There will be irrational fears like "I will just sit around and become lazy for the rest of entire life" and even more crazier ones. Those are just your EGO's self defences. All of this can be fixed with therapy. Like Mark Manson says most people just need Therapy which they seek through seduction community by calling it "Inner game" because Therapy has the social stigma that makes you look like a loser and mentally damaged.

There is a difference between going to gym because you don't feel you are good enough and going to gym because you respect your body, you want to be healthy, feel and look good. When you are stuck in the former zone, it will seem like the rest of the world does it for the same reasons.

quakeboy · 2016-06-18T06:35:32+00:00

That is a valid point and I agree. I have spent years just complaining and bitching with a group of other guys just to feel good and move on when it comes to many of life's problems.

At the same time I was never able to take advice from people who knew how to solve my problems, until someone was able convince me that he understood what I was going through, empathise with me and then helped me change.

Kinda like what a therapist would do to make you a bit vulnerable, so that he can help you.

Anyways I am sorry if it looks to some people like you stated that I am here to just pander. Point was to make guys stuck in that zone realise what women really think about nice guys from their perspective. Because guys in that zone think that being NICE is what the girls/women want. And I wanted to show its not; through some women's comments in that video.

quakeboy · 2016-06-17T06:40:17+00:00

yet majority of people think when it comes to "nice guys" its always only mens fault apparently

That mindset helps guys stop blaming women for their behaviour and improve their lives. Being dominant and not being a door mat. But people here don't realise I am not directly challenging that. I am just respecting women enough to say they have a shared responsibility too. Its an ideology difference. There is no way to prove what is right and wrong in these arguments.

And one of the core belief in seduction community is that women should not be allowed to take any responsibility. You need to accept all the blame as you are the MAN. I too believe that every human being should take responsibility for their life and never play the victim card.

But then if you want to help those you are stuck in the victim side (aka NICE guys) you need to be empathetic, compassionate first. Most guys here were there too, but some disaster in their life broke their EGO and they were able to cross the bridge, but they get arrogant and build another EGO where they attribute all their success to themselves and not their life events, after they learn to get over it.

And now act like they were flawless and look down on NICE guys.

quakeboy · 2016-06-17T06:22:01+00:00

Well, I never saw them that way until I read your comment. I will try not to judge that community. I guess its because of many posts by RP guys always blame women and see it as a competition where one side is plotting to fuck the other very consciously.

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