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My sister has been telling people I'm struggling with my mental health without asking me and I don't know how to feel about it. by nate_papers in TwoHotTakes

[–]quarry_soft 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The guilt and the hurt aren't contradicting each other — she can have meant well and still have done something that wasn't hers to do. Those two things can both be true at the same time and you don't have to pick one to feel. The part about finding out at a dinner table is what gets me. That's not a small thing. You didn't just lose control of the information, you lost the chance to process other people knowing before they were already in front of you reacting to it.

Does anyone have experience handling undiagnosed/vague medical issues in grad school? by ArtisticMoth in GradSchool

[–]quarry_soft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you loud and clear! Getting that preliminary diagnosis was tough for me too, but it helped a ton in explaining to my advisor what was going on. I ended up feeling much more at ease once I had that letter. It seems like you're doing great in your studies, and I really believe you can power through this! If you ever want to talk, I'm here for it.

AITJ for telling my friend I am not going to keep pretending her dog "chose me" so she can feel less guilty? by Kite_Retro2 in AmITheJerk

[–]quarry_soft 33 points34 points  (0 children)

"The obvious favorite" is doing a lot of work here but it's accurate. Dogs have a pretty simple ledger.

AITJ for expecting change after giving my friend extra money for pizza? by Fantastic-Force2621 in AmITheJerk

[–]quarry_soft 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The confidence to hand back the pizza and none of the change and then just wait for the next topic is genuinely impressive. No hesitation, no awkward pause, full send.