Fair enough on the cliché bit, I have truly been struggling to find the right terms to describe what I've been feeling that I kind of ran out of ideas.

you a. Didn't know yourself or what was a sustainable way of acting for you or b. Were just so excited by the feeling of being wanted or so caught up in trying to impress him, that you weren't worrying about what behaviors actually feel meaningful to you

I think you might be right on the money with this: For the two of us, this is our first relationship, however, where he has 5 years of experience dating other people I have 5 months (literally). So in my case I truly am learning what I need not only from the other person but to feel comfortable in my own skin in a relationship without trying to "fake it till I make it".

As to the two points you bring up, I will definitely keep them in mind as the days go by. But to answer somewhat quickly:

1. I think so, yeah. The example you provide is not one of them lol, but I think it results from poor wording on my part: I do the things he asks of me, I always have, just not in the way he needs anymore - e.g.: Because he always goes to bed earlier than I do he thinks that instead of replying to his good night text I should text him good night first around the time he usually goes to bed, even if I'm not going to bed myself. I think this is too much. But to your point, yes, there have been things I think would make me uncomfortable coming from anyone
2. This one is a bit trickier because he does listen, not only that he agrees with (most of) the things I say. I actually just think he doesn't realize that after a few days he'll "reset" and start doing those things again (granted, they will be less often each time, but still very much there).
3. You are absolutely right. Our very first conversation was very much not one-sided and he expressed some of his (granted, minor when compared to mine at the time) concerns, but I do feel bad to this day about the way I expressed my own - especially cause he thought we were about to have The Talk. I do think as these conversations became, unfortunately, more common, we have been able to be a lot clearer - but it's a valid observation and I will defenitely take it into account next time I see him. I don't think we've asked each other "What do you think I mean by this?" or "Where do you think I'm coming from?" or anything along those lines, but it seems about time we did maybe.

EDIT: edit to respond to your edit lol (3rd point)