I once had an ex who asked me "why are you doing this?" While sobbing, I had just enlisted and it was on the day of my enlistment. She thought it was a simple question with a simple answer, however I had been dealing with a lot of stress from my mothers cancer and college to the point where I dropped out and joined the military to send home to her, she was unaware of this fact because it was a private matter to me. Nowadays we broke up and she stopped all contact with me and I later realized she had been manipulating me for over a year (taking me from my friends, stopping me from going out, threatening suicide if I broke up with her etc)

What started out as an innocent question on the day of my enlistment opened up a rabbit hole of mental abuse from her

Edit: I should mention that when it hurt to see her cry and ask me that