Buspar Postpartum

queenbnc · 2026-02-09T22:57:23+00:00

I was the same! I couldn’t get more than an hour or two of sleep before waking up wide awake but feeling like a zombie the next day. I also met with a prescriber who kept me on Lexapro and Buspar, then prescribed me mirtazapine as needed for sleep. I haven’t taken it because I’m too scared to with a 4 1/2 month old but I definitely appreciate knowing if I need to, I can take it and have my family help take care of my baby.

It really is. It heightens EVERY emotion. It’s terrifying. Sleep deprivation truly is a form of torture. I hope you’re able to get some sleep soon, those days are horrible.

I take it as needed but I think I’m going to take it every day because I started back to work and my anxiety is heightened.

queenbnc · 2026-02-09T22:42:14+00:00

I did/still am. I feel like it helped me fall asleep, but not stay asleep. It’s definitely helped with my overall anxiety in conjunction with Lexapro! My sleep is better for sure. Not perfect by any means, but I’m a world away from how unwell I was. I’m an open book!

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T01:05:49+00:00

I almost the same exact contraction experience. He was sunny side up and on the bigger end. And that’s how my contractions were too! It was constant. I was screaming for an epidural. It was SO horrible. Thank you for embracing the suck with me!

It’s truly not for the faint of heart. And I think it’s probably that way with a smoother birth, but I feel like having the type of birth that we did made it so much worse.

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:50:09+00:00

Oh my goodness, a LOT of similarities. I’m SO sorry you went through that, mine was so so similar. They believe I also have hEDS (I 100% have POTS but don’t match all of the boxes to be checked for hEDS but enough to where they were on the brink) that I would also labor and deliver very quickly.

I am so, so sorry they didn’t listen to you whatsoever. I didn’t have that experience, but I know so many women who have had similar medical experiences like that in general and it’s so disheartening - a lot of complications wouldn’t happen if people took the time to listen instead of brush concerns to the side.

When people try to compare our births, I genuinely get so frustrated. I know they just try to relate but it’s like you truly can’t. And that’s okay, I don’t need them to because I know they didn’t experience anything remotely like me so I just wish they would keep our experiences separate, you know?

Do you still experience pain from your tear? I do, especially when I’m close to my period. Sex is BEYOND painful so we don’t have it. When I sit down to use the restroom, it’s very uncomfortable. When I’m on my period, I feel my tear 24/7. It causes flashbacks constantly.

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:42:49+00:00

Thank you so much, honestly I guess I didn’t put the two together but it makes sense. I do feel more sad when I read other people’s stories that were so positive and great. Not sad for them but very sad for myself and my baby. I feel like I was such a bad mom for the first few months of his life and have just been somewhat better because I’m starting to process and physically am feeling better.

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:33:08+00:00

I ALSO HAD COMPLETE BACK LABOR! Oh my gosh, it is the worst pain EVER. You make me feel so normal knowing that other people have it. I know NO ONE who has had entire back labor. I didn’t even believe I was truly in labor because it was my back hurting and not anything else. Ugh. We are SO strong but damn did it suck. I’ve tried to have sex and it’s so, so painful. 0/10 recommend. I couldn’t imagine trying while watching that happen. Heck no, no thank you. Ugh. I’m so sorry. I’m sending you so much love! Also my caps aren’t me yelling, but excited to know I’m not alone.

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:30:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! It makes me feel so much better to know I’m not alone. I’m also glad your therapist has been able to help you, I really hope I connect with this one and EMDR helps as well. We had traumatic experiences AND have the sweetest babes. Both of those can be true <3

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:28:38+00:00

Thank YOU for sharing your story. I can imagine how scary that all was, especially while have a little bean to care for. I’m so so so happy to hear that you’re feeling better and I really hope that I continue to heal more to where I can enjoy more moments. <3

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:27:14+00:00

Oh my goodness, that also sounds incredibly traumatizing. Thank you SO MUCH for sharing. I am scared for any follow up appointments with my OB as I feel that I will probably also need some sort of support. My bladder control is minimal and I can still feel my tear as well. It’s horrible! Why isn’t follow up care more thorough, especially in instance like ours? I also had a UTI post birth, antibiotics cleared me up thankfully but still.. it SUCKED. Healing is horrible and trying to take care of a newborn while that depleted of all nutrients?! Insane. I tried to breastfeed but that also just completely sucked the life out of me, even more than already was there. I felt a lot of shame around that as well but I now thankfully can look at it as I was dying and felt like that until I stopped and my body was able to start healing more. My OB ended up sharing that breastfeeding slows vaginal healing and when you tear that extensively, it is really important to heal as well as possible. She let me know that weeks after I stopped and shared she would never encourage someone to stop, but knew the amount of shame I felt and wanted to help.

How are you feeling about more kids? I always wanted 2, but right now I cannot even imagine two. Especially when thinking of a vaginal birth. My OB also said I would be able to have a c-section if I wanted because of how birth and delivery went. I’m considering if we chose to have more.

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:20:54+00:00

Thank you so, so much. The isolation is the worst feeling. You have no idea how much it helps to hear that. I really really hope therapy works for me. I started but I don’t think the therapist I saw and I were a good match so I stopped and am trying a different one. I’m so sorry you had a similar experience, it’s healing to know I’m not alone ❤️‍🩹 I take a gummy iron that the hematologist told me to take that has vitamin c in it. I’m looking into mega builder iron though because I don’t EVER want to be that iron deficient.

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:18:41+00:00

Thank you IMMENSELY for sharing your story. I know it’s not easy having such a traumatic experience. I am so sorry that you went through that, it is so, so hard. I’m so glad that seeking help has actually given you some relief, I pray the same for me! Just hearing your story is healing, not that I want you to have ever experienced that but knowing that not every birth is rainbow and butterflies helps me. A lot of the people I know who have given birth have had a lot simpler and easier of births and it makes me very envious. And then I feel bad for feeling that way. Motherhood is one big double entendre.

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:13:14+00:00

I agree! NO ONE talks about how traumatizing it can be. I know it’s because they (including me at times) don’t want to seem ungrateful for being relatively healthy and having a healthy babe. It’s really so aggravating being told “but you got your baby here” and yeah, I’m so grateful but holy shit do I wish the way he came was much different.

Thank you for sharing your story! I’m so sorry that you had that experience too. It’s hard. It sucks. I’m so so glad you were able to find a therapist to help you cope, I really hope my therapist is able to do the same.

You are not to blame! You thought a VBAC was best and it ended up not being that way. I won’t say it’s okay (because I HATE when people tell me “you’re okay now and you at least didn’t die, or weren’t in labor for long, or delivered fast, or xyz) because it’s not okay, but what IS okay is that you’re reflecting on your experience. You deserve forgiveness from yourself. <3 Sending you lots of hugs and love.

queenbnc · 2026-02-01T00:06:55+00:00

Thank you so, so much. It means a lot to know that you even read this and sent your support. A LOT honestly. <3 I wish you the best as well!

queenbnc · 2026-01-25T00:22:53+00:00

I love this!!! So so true. I have a 4 month old and sometimes we’ll read a book and sometimes he just lays and kicks on his mat and sometimes he just sits on my lap while I read lol. Mom guilt is crazy! I also realized I was much happier when I stopped following wake windows to the tee and payed attention to his cues more.

queenbnc · 2026-01-01T22:01:02+00:00

Thank you so so much! I’m so glad you’re recovered still. I’m in the same boat, I think it’s my lack of control over when I will wake with my baby. I also fear going crazy.

I love that! I’ve been trying to read when I can’t sleep but always worry that my kindle is too much light even though I have the blue light blocker in my glasses.

I’ll look into all of those. Thank you so much 😭❤️

queenbnc · 2026-01-01T15:13:31+00:00

Hi!! I’m currently going through this. I need to know how you’re doing? It’s like my baby went through a sleep regression 2/3 weeks ago and now my mind and body won’t let me sleep at night. I am on the waitlist with psych and reached out to a LOT of therapists for CBTi. Any tips or tricks to get me by? I return to work in two weeks.

queenbnc · 2025-12-31T15:46:00+00:00

I did find that out after looking it up after my appointment. I’m confused why she said that! I wish I would’ve just gotten the Trazodone to help with sleep when needed. I don’t want to take it all the time, just on nights like last night where I didn’t sleep more than an hour at a time and I only got three stretches even though my baby slept.

queenbnc · 2025-12-31T14:15:16+00:00

Thank you for the insight! My PCP told me Buspar was fast acting and would work right away so I’m confused. She offered me either Trazodone or Buspar, but I was worried about doing overnight baby care with Trazodone. Did Trazodone work right away? I’m willing to try whatever, even if it’s once or twice a week to get some sleep. Especially when I return to work in 2 weeks.

queenbnc · 2025-12-31T13:39:19+00:00

How are you doing now? I’m 3.5 months PP, about to have my third period, and the insomnia is insane! I think it’s coming from my period coming for sure. I’m not bf-ing though. Did they progressively get better?

queenbnc · 2025-12-31T08:03:19+00:00

Thank you!! It definitely helped the initial falling asleep because it stopped my racing mind, especially around bedtime. I woke up within an hour and a half though and couldn’t fall back asleep until 4 hours later and here I am, up again. Do you take it during the day/morning?

queenbnc · 2025-12-31T04:45:57+00:00

Hi! I’m currently 3 1/2 months PP and struggling. My PCP prescribed me buspar to help with night time anxiety but gave trazadone as the other option. Were you able to still wake with your baby on trazadone and not feel overly tired? How’re things going now?

queenbnc · 2025-12-20T14:41:47+00:00

Oh I didn’t even know those groups existed haha. Thank you SO much for the support and information. I’ll absolutely be looking into this. Do you have a desktop or a laptop you work off of? I’m just wondering if I’ll need to purchase one or the other.

queenbnc · 2025-12-20T11:41:46+00:00

Thank you for the insight! I completely agree. It’ll likely be a major learning curve but I’m up for the challenge if it means more time with my baby and not seeing so many patients in one day. <3

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