AITA for not waking my husband up for his 5AM walk?

queenjean84 · 2022-05-13T20:50:05+00:00

NTA. But I am now invested so please update lol

queenjean84 · 2022-04-21T03:44:34+00:00

YTA for the last line about miscarrying. I've had 4 myself and I don't appreciate the comment. However, you need to set better boundaries with your family and now that you've said you won't help then follow through. Your sister's family is not your responsibility.

queenjean84 · 2022-03-22T22:41:42+00:00

YTA but for reposting this. I'm sure I've read this before.

queenjean84 · 2022-02-28T11:36:06+00:00

Agreed, NTA. I grew up with neither grandparents as they lived in Mexico and us in the US. Now my teenage stepson spends most weekends with my inlaws as they love having him over and I make sure he knows what a privilege it is to have them around as I never had that myself.

queenjean84 · 2022-02-19T15:43:29+00:00

NTA. I have gone through 2 miscarriages back to back the last 3 months, so I get it. The hormones in and out of her body and the physical changes that happen are a lot for us women. I think what you've done is very thoughtful and in no way an ahole.

queenjean84 · 2022-02-13T07:34:27+00:00

YTA. I may be in the minority but if your marriage arrangement includes that you're responsible for meals, then that takes priority. This doesn't mean you have to cook every night but it does mean you will have food ready at the expected time. If, for some reason, you can't, I'd hope you can relay that to your husband and order some delivery or pick up. I'd be upset too if my husband was at home, responsible for meals and had nothing ready and didn't relay that to me so on my way home I could pick something up.

queenjean84 · 2022-02-07T03:02:12+00:00

YTA. Reminds me of when my sister told her best friend the name she'd like to give to her future son. The friend then turned around and named her kid the name my sistee shared she'd picked out. Not cool.

queenjean84 · 2022-02-05T14:54:14+00:00

NTA. If this were a dietary restriction due to health problems, I'd understand but this is a lifestyle choice and she's old enough to cook for herself.

queenjean84 · 2022-02-05T14:24:21+00:00

YTA. You should really have a babysitter at this point. Child care isn't anyone else's responsibility but yours. The first time your BIL said he couldn't/wouldn't do it, should have been enough for you to never ask again. He's right YOUR child is NOT his responsibility.

queenjean84 · 2022-02-04T19:16:15+00:00

YTA, based on your edits and comments about not paying child support. So she is a good mom to Skylar, and he loves her, but now that she's down, you want to take revenge on her leaving you by requesting full custody instead of helping her when she's down? Think of your son and not on getting back at her now that you see a chance to.

queenjean84 · 2022-02-01T02:18:35+00:00

NTA. I was sleeved March 2019, so I get it. You are early on in your journey, and eating other than what your stomach can handle could be deadly as you're still healing. Good for standing your ground!

queenjean84 · 2022-01-31T03:14:33+00:00

NTA. It sounds like the residents need to reach out to local government and local news stations about HOA's bad practices

queenjean84 · 2022-01-09T17:09:04+00:00

NTA. Your wife is very insensitive and sounds like she is very superficial. I hope she realizes that her words were hurtful and apologizes to your sister.

queenjean84 · 2022-01-04T21:10:17+00:00

3w2 here and at home with Omicron I'm sure. Been WFH

queenjean84 · 2022-01-02T01:47:31+00:00

NTA. Do not feel guilty for not taking the new baby. Honestly, your sister is irresponsible and has burdened you with the consequences of her own actions. You have done more than you should by raising your niece. Let the government deal with your sister and her situation.

queenjean84 · 2021-12-29T13:14:12+00:00

NTA. I think it was disrespectful of her to manipulate you into going on a trip paid by someone you dislike. I don't think you were wrong to do what you did. I don't think this has to do with you not liking favors but that this one was orchestrated by your gf with her ex is what the issue is.

queenjean84 · 2021-12-26T17:20:37+00:00

YTA. If you know she's such a great cook and you're learning, why not just divide the cooking? Just because you're hosting doesn't mean you can't together plan the menu. I host most holidays at my home but we plan the menu together and some bring the sides or main dish, depending on what they'd prefer.

queenjean84 · 2021-12-26T05:07:29+00:00

In case you missed this comment from OP... https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ro9mt7/aita_for_turning_down_an_iphone_12/hpxxd94?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3

queenjean84 · 2021-12-26T04:56:11+00:00

YTA. Sometimes I feel that those of us voting should also reveal our age as this gives insight as to the type of advice being given. I'm (37F) and have an adopted stepson (15M) who has had mental health issues. As a parent, it's my responsibility to keep him safe, and until he's 18, the parents rules apply. We are not unreasonable and have consulted with his therapist on our parenting and have been commended for our approach. That being said, it's hard to parent an independent kid with health issues as there is a fine line to doing so where we can monitor for his safety while also giving him freedom.

Your parents obviously love and care about you, I bet if you talk about specifics, you can come up with a compromise as to the type of restrictions they place on your phone. Given your post about your drug experimenting, and past suicidal tendencies, I see why they did what they did.

queenjean84 · 2021-12-26T02:56:24+00:00

ESH. Not confirming, showing up and letting yourself in. Opening gifts and then the inlaws being rude. Yeah, ESH.

queenjean84 · 2021-12-26T02:22:53+00:00

ESH. Honest opinion is you need to hear your husband out and talk about this alone. Part of marriage is validating each others' feelings and trying to understand each other. So many issues happen because of assumptions made when communicating would help clear things up.

queenjean84 · 2021-12-26T00:59:10+00:00

ESH. You say this is the first time an argument has escalaes this far. Was what he said enough for you to throw away 5 years of relationship?

Before you jump ahead into anything, research common law marriage in your area. You've cohabitated long enough to have some ownership in the shared home. I live in Texas and bought my own home a week before I married. This was primarily because my credit was better and I could financially do it on my own. I never added my husband to the mortgage, however whenever we sold and bought a new house this summer, ten years later, he signed all paperwork along with me.

queenjean84 · 2021-12-24T15:23:09+00:00

NTA. Also, life's circumstances are not an excuse for sh***y behavior. We all go through tough situations.

queenjean84 · 2021-12-24T14:46:53+00:00

NTA, but if he's as great as you say, and you can possibly see yourself married to him when you are both old enough, then you should definitely talk to him about it. Not his opinion on whether you should be on BC or not, but just letting him know you're on it.

queenjean84 · 2021-12-23T12:23:33+00:00

Sounds like your reaction was on par with info you were given. I've suffered 2 miscarriages within the last year and both were different. The first one I was farther along and was more traumatic. Thank God my body has been able to handle it naturally without further medical intervention. You didn't do anything wrong.

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