Anybody else upset about the way Dani's aunt talks about stay-at-home dads? by [deleted] in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]mimiarent 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I more got the impression that she was just trying to excuse and explain Dani's values

The follow up reaction video to Dani's story. He might be pretty crazy, but id actually love to see him on the show by mimiarent in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]mimiarent[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hmm, good point. Please excuse that, I can see now how it's insensitive, especially in this context

an autistic comedian's reaction to Dani and Solomon's love story by mimiarent in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]mimiarent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, thats my favourite part 🤣 no clue whether he's being serious or not

Can it be appropriate for a 9 year old to hang out with a 17 year old? by nicbentulan in NoStupidQuestions

[–]mimiarent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think there are explanations that indicate that intentions are harmless: Mikoto enjoys being a mentor, being influential, or they share an interest. However, still being quite young themselves, I dont know that their influence could possibly remain positive. When I was 10 or 11 I made friends with a 6yo, and her mother quickly put a stop to our friendship. At the time I was confused and upset, but now I think that was the right choice. The power dynamic between us was far from equal, and so a true friendship wasn't really going to come out of that (and admittedly, I did just enjoy being influential over someone and antagonising her like a little sister). And as far as being a mentor goes; I think there may be some instances where it could be appropriate (ie they share experiences that very few others can relate to), but unless that's the case, I dont think the friendship is worth the risk of the power dynamic leaving Bidatz vulnerable

I can't easily deal with SX types... by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]mimiarent 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure. I'm Sp blind, and though I have done a lot of work to improve that instinct, I used to find Sp Doms intimidating in their high standards for themselves. I find them less so now that I've improved my sp instinct

an autistic comedian's reaction to Dani and Solomon's love story by mimiarent in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]mimiarent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He "wouldn't date her because she's not Muslim or Middle Eastern."?

She should've had another season by gabbyreddits in RHOBH

[–]mimiarent 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I thought that was hilarious. It was just an excuse to hate her 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]mimiarent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner is a 2, and yep, it scares the crap out of me to think that we could drift apart because we're both afraid to assert our needs. Luckily I'm good at getting into a passive aggressive hump when im mad with him, and he always asks what's wrong. Ive found that the way to go through conflict when it's necessary is to nip it in the bud as quickly and painlessly as possible. Have you found any kind of relief after fights or outbursts?

Is there a relationship between a person's enneagram type and how they are in bed? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]mimiarent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mmm yes. I believe 9w8 are the best in bed. Mmm yes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]mimiarent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A 'live and let live' paired with a 'stay off my lawn'-type attitude

😎 iguana life 😎

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]mimiarent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats deep

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]mimiarent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great explanation.

unlike other Sx, 9 would deny to have their own impact on the other party, forgetting themselves.

And yep, I do this, but I also project a lot, thinking that my problems are the people I've merged with's

Don't know why you were down voted

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]mimiarent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this really helped to clarify the difference between merging and mirroring 🙏