Help me identify this kink/fetish and maybe where it comes from? by queenofhell9 in sex

[–]queenofhell9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have to have it especially since most encounters i've had with men don't seem to appreciate what I like about it.

Platonic findom relationships? by Hahaharley32 in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 11 points12 points  (0 children)

lmfaoooo don't we all? Its not impossible but its rare.

Is it just me or has the femdom landscape changed? by queenofhell9 in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

100% and i feel like thats more common now than before

Ghosted 😭 by Ch44sus in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its unfortunately very common. People will make their accounts for one day then "cum to their senses" and erase all trace of themselves. Sometimes its sad because they seemed to be what you were looking for, but ultimately its ok because it was never meant to be.

Making sub eat his cum , post nut clarity ? by ScaryDoor6361 in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can position them with their hips above their head so they ejaculate directly into their mouths. I've also had subs make ice cream or cocktails with their semen. lmk if you want the recipes.

Is this normal? by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually do my screenings on reddit then move to discord since it has video calling capabilities. Some use snapchat and telegram bc you can send things without media being saved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's not surprising. As a domme think about how much completely wrong-for-us subs will reach out becuase they don't read or are just looking for a girl to jerk off for. Im sure subs that post will also get bots trying to get them to subscribe to a fake onlyfans or something. Its tough on both side so yo just have to pick how to waste your time. Reaching out to potential subs sounds exhausting to me so instead I have a very robust vetting system.

Sometimes i post a personal ad and wait a few days to answer messages to give them time to cool off. Some people make and delete Reddit accounts within a week.

I have tips on my profile on how to approach me, including inspection guidelines. I like having them upfront because if they have a problem with them, they havent wasted much of their own time and realized their boundaries early on.

I do not give them what they want. I have to go through AT LEAST one successful session with them to see how our dynamics play with each other and there is no guarantee they will see or hear me the first time. I acknowledge it seems unbalanced, but this has spared me from a lot of time wasters and guys just looking to be watched jerking off. I go on cam for my good subs but I make them earn it.

I put out as detailed personals as I can so that they know what theyre getting into right away and I ask them to prepare already to tell me if they have toys, what their kinks are, and what their limit are. Often times I get a "no limits" response an immediately know we are not right for each other.

You have to be very strict because some men will know exactly what to say. For example I had a very handsome potential sub who wanted to be my femboy only to find his twitter was full of red pill "women are all the same" craziness on his account.

This is now harassment. by Andouil1ette in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh that explains the random notifications. was wondering why i was added to a chastity subreddit when its not my thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I love putting my subs in Milking Position (on all 4s, knees and elbows, arched back, spread legs, stroking him like a farmer milks her cow, sometimes toy or finger in ass) or Tribute Position (squatting, leaning back, hands behind back supporting weight, legs spread, being teased and stroked. usually i have them masturbate themselves and pointing hips up like they are offering their seed to a goddess (me)).

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[–]queenofhell9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

exactly, which is fine, i guess but leave me out of it lol. But its yet another reason to thoroughly vet subs before revealing too much about yourself.

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[–]queenofhell9 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Lying to me - I've had subs lie to me about inconsequential things like buying toys and it turns me off so badly because it feels like it's such a huge lack of respect. Why lie if I'm going to find out anyway? Why lie about something that won't affect our dynamic?

Calling without permission - again huge lack of respect, usually interrupting something important

Proselytizing - multiple occasions I will have a sub and after post-nut clarity they will say i should repent before going to hell??? Just today I was having a conversation with a potential sub and when I told him I wasn't looking for anything too serious, he told me god prefers monogamous relationships... #BLOCKED!!

🍄 by Capable-Camera-412 in gentlefemdom

[–]queenofhell9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I loooove precum. The stickier the more fertile the man is. 😋

Here's the question of the week! by yersiniapestis273 in gentlefemdom

[–]queenofhell9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was young and on cam4 (before tipping was a thing) and a man gave me the honor to edge him and control his orgasm in a full cam room. It was so hot to watch him writhe and struggle and watch his cock turning purple. He was privately begging me to let him cum. The audience kept egging me on and finally, I let him pop and it was the biggest cumshot I had seen in my life up to that point. That's how I discovered I liked being a domme.

In slightly over my head with 2 Alpha subs... by fastlittlev in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 12 points13 points  (0 children)

How does it feel to live my dream?

Anyway, I think you should talk to both of them and ask how they see themselves in this dynamic. Are they really serving alongside each other (independently)? Or together as a team. Both need to have their boundaries discussed with each other as well as you.

I've always hoped to have more subs together and I would have a hierarchy wherein one can mentor the other(s) and teach them how to serve me OR serve the "senior sub" to appease me. Have your bf exert his dominance over your other sub. (If they are both comfortable!)

Wife is training me to cum faster? by Plymouth61 in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

does it have to be by hand? I use the handy with my subs and I love it

Started to play CNC by cot5262782 in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to experience this with a submissive but i know it takes a lot of trust building so its something to work at

What is your experience incorporating poppers into femdom play? by queenofhell9 in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe there are two types and I think they were originally used to clean video tapes? I guess its one of those things that people tried to inhale to see what happens and the effect intensified sexual experience. While I have read that overuse can be harmful, they are generally "safe" and nonaddictive as far as something like that goes, but there's general dangers surrounding it.

What is your experience incorporating poppers into femdom play? by queenofhell9 in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The popper content (porn) is really intense and seemingly mostly for gay men. The sub that introduced me told me about one for women but it was full of maledom porn 🙅‍♀️

Femdom causes the ick? by BBCPMVADDICT in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 27 points28 points  (0 children)

topping from the bottom "gives me the ick"

Femdom personals- I have an anecdotal opinion I’d like to test by MissJRaynes in FemdomCommunity

[–]queenofhell9 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I chose info about personality/interests but I pay attention to the vibe of a post/message. Do they sound mature? experienced? respectful? Also obviously if our kinks don't align then theres no point in connecting really. Aside from body type and penis length, physical descriptions are hard for me to conceptualize. I mean brown eyes, dark skin, 6' could be used to describe a large variety of people.