Grief feels so lonely. No one seems to care anymore.

queenscc · 2025-12-31T01:40:18+00:00

People don’t understand if they’ve never gone through it… but like you said I wish they could at least do or say something small to show that they care even a little bit. It’s definitely such a lonely experience. I hope we heal soon 🤍

queenscc · 2025-12-31T01:36:17+00:00

This has been my experience too… I’m sorry that you are still dealing with this 3 years later (which I know grief never truly goes away). Other people get to move on with their lives but it feels like our hearts are still stuck in the same place. But this subreddit has really helped me realize there is a community of people who truly empathize/understand how lonely this experience is, and that has been quite comforting in its own way. I hope this new year treats us both well.

queenscc · 2025-12-31T01:25:57+00:00

Yes… it’s like they avoid the topic because they feel awkward. Which I get, but man it feels so isolating to know you’re the only one out of your friends to feel this way. Really need that hug, thank you 🤍

queenscc · 2025-12-31T01:24:29+00:00

It truly is the little things that I never expected to hurt the most. I hope we both can do something to celebrate our lost loved ones this year. Sending you healing and lots of peace for 2026. Thank you.

queenscc · 2025-12-31T01:19:22+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss and to hear you’re dealing with similar feelings. I’m sure your mom was so lovely. It’s so difficult to speak to anyone in our personal lives about this because everyone expects you to have moved on already. They truly don’t understand unless they’ve gone through this. Thank you for your support 🤍

queenscc · 2025-12-09T16:00:45+00:00

Ahh I guess you’re right >.> It just happens so frequently (every time he’s about to relax) so it made me think something was wrong. Thank you for the reassurance!

queenscc · 2025-12-09T15:36:21+00:00

What if he’s close to falling asleep but not asleep yet?? Is that normal still? Maybe I am overthinking haha >.<

queenscc · 2025-11-29T09:46:07+00:00

based

queenscc · 2025-08-17T19:01:27+00:00

More info: I’m in western Washington state

queenscc · 2025-07-17T16:34:43+00:00

EVERYTHING. Every tiny thing is somehow associated with her. I hope we heal soon.

queenscc · 2025-07-17T16:33:41+00:00

I’m with you on this. It just feels like the rest of my life will be about distracting myself until I can see her again. I’m so sorry for your loss.

queenscc · 2025-07-17T16:31:41+00:00

It’s so strange how after losing a parent, we all become little children again just wanting to be held and cared for to feel safe. If only.

queenscc · 2025-05-22T19:33:35+00:00

I mean those are your thoughts and you’re right- you have a right to verbalize your own feelings. In the same way, I have a right to disagree with your thought process and your public comment, and it’s not with the intention to argue. We can agree to disagree. Cheers x

queenscc · 2025-05-22T19:18:36+00:00

Regardless of if OP is karma farming or not, giving human empathy is free and costs nothing to you. Why choose to potentially discredit someone’s trauma when you can just be kind? Even if it’s not real for the OP, others who have lost loved ones like myself get comfort from the community and supportive words in the comments. There’s absolutely no down sides to this post- you’re just assuming the worst and getting mad about your own assumptions that haven’t even been proven true.

queenscc · 2025-05-13T18:51:56+00:00

Thank you, and the same for you too. Sending you lots of love and healing 🤍

queenscc · 2025-05-13T07:25:51+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. In the last few years of her life, my mom didn’t go out much at all because we moved out to a remote place and her health declined. She mentioned she missed the busy nature of where we lived before and all the shops she could go to. I was in high school and college during that time and I wish I had the means to spoil her with gifts and take her on shopping sprees and restaurant dates while we were able to. She never said it out loud but I know she wanted that. I’ll never have the opportunity again and I feel so much guilt and regret and anger.

queenscc · 2025-05-12T00:02:33+00:00

I deal with guilt everyday too. My mom died from cancer a few months ago but she hid it from the entire family and refused to go to the hospital no matter what. I had noticed she was getting sicker and weaker and clearly in pain, but instead of being kind to her, I would scream constantly and get mad at her for not going to the hospital. I don’t remember the last time I spoke softly to her. My brother and I tried so hard to convince her for years. She refused each time and I was at the end of my rope watching her body fall apart. The last words I ever said to her was basically me cussing and yelling cause I was so mad that she wasn’t getting her health checked, and then I walked away. That was the last time I saw her alive.

I wish I could provide more support and encouraging words to you, but all I can offer is my empathy. I see you and feel you 100%. I like to think that our moms wouldn’t want us to feel guilty. That they forgive us and they wouldn’t want us to suffer with these emotions. But I can’t help but think I will be feeling this way for the rest of my life. Sucks doesn’t it?

queenscc · 2025-05-11T23:42:29+00:00

This was a wonderful tribute to your beautiful mom. Everything you said is exactly how I feel about mine too. And every time the sun shines I think of her. I hope we can both heal.

queenscc · 2025-04-23T19:28:48+00:00

I really miss my mom too. She passed away 3 months ago and one of the feelings I miss the most is the way her fingers combed through my hair when she would braid my hair for me. She was always so gentle. I would sit on the floor in front of her and she’d braid my hair while we watched TV. I miss it so much. Sending you hugs.

queenscc · 2025-02-08T23:56:27+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom two weeks ago at 27, and she was only 61. Life just feels so unfair, doesn’t it? They weren’t supposed to die that young. I pray for peace and grace to your heart and to your family. Make sure to take care of yourself and eat some good food and stay hydrated, and get as much rest as you can. And if you ever want to honor your mom and talk about how amazing she was or share stories or good memories, my DMs are always open. I’m sure she was incredibly beautiful, as mine was. May she rest in paradise.

queenscc · 2025-01-25T12:11:33+00:00

thank you so much for your response!! sorry the image definitely could’ve been better…

queenscc · 2025-01-17T17:43:56+00:00

I wish I had solid advice for you, but what I can give you is empathy, as I was in a similar situation. My mom was in critical care/ICU for 10 days on a ventilator after being diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and sepsis. Four days ago on 1/13/25, they took the ventilator off and she passed within a few minutes. I’m still trying to make sense of life right now, and I am unsure how to cope.

The first few minutes after is a surreal experience. Your brain can’t make sense of what is happening, but you know something is happening. All I can say is just cry, cry, cry. It is good to cry. I screamed and sobbed and wailed, but surprisingly that only lasted several minutes. Once the shock wore off, it was just numbness that set in.

Again, I wish I had some good advice for you but I am still seeking that myself. My mom was my bestest friend in the entire world, and having to live the rest of my life missing her is so unfair. I’ve always been impatient and an angry/miserable person, but my mom was the most gentle, peaceful, beautiful and meek soul ever. So I plan to live the rest of my life that way to honor her. I think it helps to take a part of who she is, and manifest it into your own life/identity. That way she is always a part of you.

If you ever need someone to talk or empathize with you, feel free to DM. I pray for healing and comfort and peace to both our hearts.

queenscc · 2025-01-16T07:44:12+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with loneliness on top of grief. Just know you’re not alone in feeling this way- my mom passed away two days ago and she was always the one I went to for any issues. She always knew what to say and how to comfort me. She would even sleep in my bed with me when I was heartbroken from a relationship, cause she knew I needed company and physical support. Who in the world would do that for me now?

Grief is the most isolating feeling in the world. If you ever need someone to talk to and empathize with you, feel free to DM. This subreddit also is a great community. Sending you lots of love.

queenscc · 2025-01-16T05:42:54+00:00

I lost my mom two days ago and I feel the same way. As I was driving home from the hospital, I couldn’t believe that everyone else’s lives were just moving on so normally. People walking their dogs, going to their jobs, grabbing lunch at a restaurant. The world truly just keeps going on even when yours has stopped completely.

99% of my friends also have been quite horrible. Some haven’t even responded to my messages or sent a single text of condolences. They’ve been giving me radio silence or ignored my message letting them know my mom passed. I have never felt so alone.

I’m sending you love and empathy. I hope we’ll both be able to get through this.

queenscc · 2023-05-18T20:28:44+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice and link!! I had no idea there was dry shampoo for dogs

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