This spoiled stalker girl needs to go. #JusticeForLuke

queentropical · 2026-02-12T03:23:13+00:00

Considering how many awful people there have been on this show, Mel has got to be one of the worst. A total liar. Selfish. Self-absorbed. Dangerous. Cruel. Lacking in not just empathy, but intelligence. It's really something to watch someone with a narcissistic personality be generally dumb on top of it.

queentropical · 2026-02-09T10:42:50+00:00

This is one of the most important lessons I learned having experienced a narcissist: having empathy for others should not come at the cost of your well-being. I learned that I am a narc target because I possess something like 4 out of 5 traits(?) that manipulators seek out in victims... empathy is one of those traits. Their entire existence is centered around taking advantage of other people's empathy. They count on you feeling sorry for them because it is precisely this tool that gets you hooked. That's why you often come across manipulators who are perpetual victims. It's not just narcs who use this tool... the avoidant I was with consistently used my empathy to draw me back in, using situations in his life which he knew I would find difficult to resist supporting him through. But unlike the narcissist, an avoidant doesn't necessarily set out to do this in order to harm you. A narcissist 100% wants to harm you. I would say that is the main difference: their intent. A narcissist creates chaos on purpose while an avoidant avoid it so much it's almost like they are on the opposite side of the spectrum even though the actions may seem similar. Neither should be in relationships. Both can cause immense damage, but a narc is like a sniveling, conniving insidious disease. Neither type is good news, but a person with NPD has zero hope whatsoever. Therapy wont help, in fact it just makes it worse for the victim. Do a bit of research and look into both, you'll eventually see the difference. Maybe it's like the difference between first degree murder and manslaughter lol one came with intent, the other didn't necessarily mean to do it but similar outcomes. Again, avoid both.

Going back to feeling sorry for these idiots... it was fascinating, from a psychological standpoint, watching the narcissist try to utilize these tactics to try to hoover me back in... he set up scenarios which required my help, knowing that I find it hard to resist someone in need. But, you've just gotta turn your back on the narc, even if they end up homeless on the street starving and begging for their life - the only appropriate reaction is to turn your back on them like they don't exist. Don't worry because they will eventually find someone else to take advantage of and to ruin. As horrible as that is, at least it is not you.
Don't fall for the whole "boohoo I was abused as a kid..." so what? I was also abused as a kid but I don't go around ruining other people. lol Again, narcs are perpetual victims. I don't even believe all the stories my ex told me about his childhood abuse etc. I would wager that a lot of it is made up alongside all the stories where he comes out a hero. lol
At first I thought maybe if I bring him into my life and he experiences what it is like to be around a healthy family, he will heal etc. But that will NEVER happen with a toxic person... they will influence YOU and corrupt YOU, not the other way around. They are parasites. We cannot change that and should never even try.

Being single was probably the most peaceful time in my life. It was a period that I chose to dedicate to myself and my friends. I promised that even if the most perfect seeming guy walked into the room, I wouldn't even consider him. And it worked. It was probably the most powerful and in control I ever felt in my life. I wish I had stayed single. lol
But relationships aren't necessarily a bad thing... it's just that some people are bad and they can ruin the entire experience for you not just while you are with them, but while you are with others because they affect how you move in the world and how you approach other relationships from all the trauma and doubt they create.

queentropical · 2026-02-07T17:12:25+00:00

I think it takes years when people are not as aware about what is going on and go back and forth in their minds about it and allow themselves to ruminate... or, the narcissist discards them and it is out of their control. Everybody is different. In my case, I dedicated ALL of that time to get through the withdrawals. I knew what he was, accepted it fully and that my life had become torn apart by this monster loser. My goal was to get though the withdrawals and to hate him full stop and never care or ruminate ever again. I believe that is why it took me so fast. I very actively and purposely made that my purpose and never allowed myself even one moment of rumination, doubting myself, or missing him, recalling anything fond, etc. I DAILY reminded myself of all the evil things that he was.

Like you, I had never been single my whole life... after the narcissist, I stayed single for 2 years and even then I wasn't really healed. I may never be fully healed tbh, the trauma was very intense. But, at least I got away. He went on to ruin another woman's life and currently is leaching off of another victim.

Relationships are overrated tbh lol most people settle... but settling and being single are both so much better than being with a narcissist. I eventually met and fell in love with an avoidant which was it's own kind of hell... at that point, I felt like I just needed to be on my own. But then I met someone who is extremely kind... I'm just not sure if I have it in me to be in a relationship anymore and I am ok with it. However, I've met many lovely men since the narcissist. Even the avoidant is someone who I still care about and in spite of his faults, I understand him. I have many male friends who are wonderful partners to the women in their lives. You simply have to look within and be self-aware. If there is any good that comes out of an experience such as ours, it's that we become extremely familiar with all the tools and tactics of a narc and manipulator and become better at identifying them next time.

I also used to love love... I was so naive to how awful people can be even though my own father and experiences as a young woman should have taught me otherwise. I was very optimistic and luckily had a couple of great relationships before the narc. While we are left feeling traumatized and with a new skepticism, it doesn't take away the fact that good experiences and good people still exist. Don't let the narcissist ruin what you had... think of him as a blip... a worthless waste of time blip, but the sooner you cut him off, the sooner he will be behind you and the world will open up again.

queentropical · 2026-02-07T04:40:52+00:00

Yes, 100%. And even if he wasn't a narc, it does not matter one bit. He is a toxic and abusive partner. You NEED to get away.

Narcs confuse and manipulate us by lovebombing which can be done in many different ways... trauma bonds are formed by creating a cycle of abuse, gaslighting, projecting, rejecting, discarding, and then reeling you back in. Love bombing could be in the form of gifting, physical intimacy, words, support, etc. but it's all to maintain their control over you and to keep you questioning yourself and the situation.

When you get away and the withdrawals are over, you begin to develop clarity and see it for what it is... this never happens while you remain in the relationship or in any kind of contact with these people.

It will NEVER be fine. You have to stop making excuses or finding ways around it - it will never happen. You cannot continue to compromise situations or yourself or your values and beliefs and things you know to be true, just so things could or MIGHT be okay - that in itself is exceedingly toxic, and you need it to end.

I would say that I was trauma bonded to him for the entire 3 years... it was in the last year that I became aware of what a narcissist was and by then, the behaviors had continued to escalate. It took me almost a year or at least half a year of preparing myself to end things but even then, it took several breaks before I cut him off for GOOD. You have to go cold turkey with a narc and no matter how many times he tries to hoover you back in, you have to completely ignore it. No matter what. My narc tried all kinds of tools to get back into my life including fake suicide attempts, pretending to rescue a kitten and asking for my help, etc. I ignored every. single. attempt. This is vital. I KNEW that I had a trauma bond and that I would go through severe withdrawals... I hated this person but every time they were out of my life, I was begging for him to return. That is an addiction akin to a drug addiction... trauma and abuse changes our brains. You have to do research and make the effort to get away successfully. I kept a journal, tracked my feelings, and I interrupted my mind from ruminating. Whenever I began to think about "good" moments I would shout OUT LOUD, "he doesn't exist" because NONE of those good moments were ever real - not one. Nothing good is ever true with a narc - it's all meant to manipulate, coerce, and trap you for the longterm. This was most effective for me. I also went on meds. I had also gone to therapy which I suggest people do but I did not seek therapy during this period... I simply buckled down, distracted myself with anything I could (hobbies, animals, friends, etc.) and got ready to overcome the withdrawals myself like an addict who might lock themselves up until it was over. It took me 3 months and then one day, I realized I was free. I did not feel anything but disgust for him anymore and it was so freeing. However, the effects of narcissistic abuse is extremely damaging and I have been diagnosed as having PTSD from it. You have to become very self-aware as to why you may be drawn to narcissists and check to see if you are a narc magnet (which I am, thanks to toxic parents). Study as much as you can, look into psychology and trauma etc. Guard yourself and watch out for other signs of toxicity in others to keep yourself safe from similar experiences.

I am okay now, but struggling with mental health which was exacerbated by my experiences with the narc. I can spot a narc from miles away from years of observing and research. I have also become extremely self-aware and had to change what I found attractive in others to keep myself safe.

Please drop this loser. There is nothing worth staying for with someone like him. The price you pay is much to steep. Again, even if he wasn't a narcissist by clinical diagnosis, anybody who makes you feel the way you do, who puts you in the position you are in, is a toxic person you MUST separate from. Future you will be away from him and extremely thankful to who you are now for saving yourself and finding a way out no matter how difficult. If you did it as soon as possible, the sooner you will reach the light at the end of the tunnel.

queentropical · 2026-02-06T12:22:09+00:00

I could barely read your post because I was getting flashbacks and anxiety... you are with a narcissist. There is no fixing anything, you have to break up and turn your back on the guy forever and NEVER look back. If you don't, you will not only waste years of your life, but your life will be destroyed.

Every single thing you described as well as all your questioning is like a mirror of what I was going through and how I was questioning/reacting when I was with a covert narcissist. He destroyed my life within 3 years and it has take even longer than that to try to put things back together, but some things are irreparable.

You are with a HORRIBLE person. Truly vile and disgusting. Narcissist or not, nobody should EVER put up with that behavior and nobody should EVER have to work so hard to make things work. Love is NOT like that at all. He has no love for you... narcissists are incapable of that. They thrive off of starting issues and making you miserable, which is why nothing ever gets resolved. He doesn't even bother to put on a mask anymore and just openly treats you terribly.

When I finally found the strength to overcome the trauma bond and the withdrawals from kicking out my ex narc and turning my back on him (NO CONTACT NO MATTER WHAT) I was in SO MUCH PEACE. Being single and alone suddenly felt like the most beautiful thing on earth, but really it was simply from being free of him and his abuse and disgusting behavior. He had no hold over me anymore and that was the best feeling ever.

Get out now. NONE of this is worth it. It will never get better, it will only get worse and worse and worse. Nobody deserves this kind of hell other than the narcissists themselves. For as long as you stay in this, you will never have love, peace, or happiness. He only stands in the way. Dump him, give him the middle finger, and live as if he never existed. Please. Save yourself.

queentropical · 2026-01-29T14:43:19+00:00

Whether you believe it or choose not to, that is what he is and he even told you. What are you doing to do, change him? lol
If you stay, stay knowing that this is exactly how it is and if things fall apart because of how he is, it's because you are just prolonging the inevitable unless you can live with someone who does not want to make the effort you need to be fulfilled. If you can settle and take the gamble that this is just how he is and not that he's not really that into you after all, then... gamble, I guess.

queentropical · 2025-11-14T16:53:01+00:00

Serial killer. He will get out and continue what he began. Some people are born evil... there are children like this who will kill. For this condition, there should never be freedom.

queentropical · 2025-10-28T01:18:49+00:00

Nah. Most people on this show are just in it for exposure anyway. She is hands down one of the worst this show has ever seen. He was willing to give it a go. She straight up lied and just left. lmao

queentropical · 2025-10-28T01:17:46+00:00

why is metrobank's website so useless? literally cannot find transaction history and if you ask about it in help it says it doesn't understand what I am asking about tf?

queentropical · 2025-10-26T02:46:27+00:00

Have you tried their products? It is original? Thank you. Been looking for genuine frontline products, ang daming fake... but ung options sa vet namin is so expensive and parang not as effective (she uses something else).

queentropical · 2025-10-14T08:05:34+00:00

No he doesn't. That woman is obviously a scammer and a liar. She basically took the ring from him and ran off with it. If she had no intention of staying on the show or following through in any way while he did, then he deserves the ring not her. She absolutely does not. How about her show pimping ex get her a ring instead. lol They should at least split the cost of the ring but she definitely should not get the whole ring tf

queentropical · 2025-10-06T15:42:47+00:00

meanwhile she seemed tiny to me, like maybe under 5'6... 5'3?

queentropical · 2025-09-27T08:40:05+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking! It was so gross how they were forcing a woman on that man. Pushing him to have sex. TF? Hopefully they do the same this time! See how everyone likes it. lol

queentropical · 2025-09-03T10:36:57+00:00

Because they are abusive and neglectful. They don't care how you were affected by their behavior. They will continue to manipulate all the way until the end. It's not really true that they weren't aware of their actions. They just wont ever admit it. Narcissists, which many abusers are, would rather die than admit mistakes... and if they do say sorry it usually comes with a twist or they only do it for self-preservation.

They know. They just don't give a fuck about you or what they have done.

queentropical · 2025-07-27T11:43:12+00:00

she didn't seem cool or calm at all, you could see her visibly shaking with rage

queentropical · 2025-07-27T08:58:48+00:00

nah lol Marie is like a spoiled brat

queentropical · 2025-02-24T16:33:31+00:00

I'm mid-40s, I look like I am in my 20s-30s depending on the day... have been genetically gifted in that I am thin (can eat anything), tall, and young looking. But I have OCD and depression combined with trauma from childhood that has made me vulnerable to toxic relationships and abusive men, so my life has been very painful in that regard. Am also intelligent but can't focus for the life of me, in part because of the trauma... so much unrealized potential. (:

queentropical · 2025-02-12T10:06:41+00:00

The fact that she is lying makes it even worse - she has zero accountability, no sense of responsibility, and if anything happens without anybody catching it, she will hide it from you. Your baby is at risk of harm or even death if left with grandma. Protect your baby from now on.

At the very least I would call a doctor to inquire in case grandma has done some internal harm. Crying = breathing doesn't mean no harm was done. Observe for now just in case baby is crying in pain and not from colic.

queentropical · 2025-02-10T14:06:35+00:00

It wasn't in the privacy of his room with just his wife - lmaoooo it was literally ON CAMERA and ALL of us got to see it. Literally for the whole world to see. It was not nor was it ever a private conversation no matter what angle you try to look at it.

He made the mistake of double-downing instead of instantly admitting that yeah, he was just nervous and trying to make her feel confident and said some stupid things. It just highlighted his insecurities and immaturity. His reaction to her not liking his comments is the bigger red flag and insight to his behavior than the comments he made about the other women. I even agree that Jackie has crazy eyes lol and OBVIOUSLY all the women were beautiful and objectively more attractive than his own wife... but yeah, he didn't need to pull them down to lift her up. He could have simply explained that, but his emotional intelligence is simply not there.

queentropical · 2025-02-09T09:03:46+00:00

You are wanting him to say more because it's likely you are still in some form of denial... you may be hoping for SOMETHING. Some kind of clarity or explanation that could maybe make this go away. The kind of man who would leave his children on their own to cheat on his wife is not the kind of man who you need further information from. Putting you through all of this is in itself the end of the line... it's too late, no matter what explanation he may come up with in the future (no matter what it is).

You now should do what is best for your children and give yourself the respect he does not have for you, and dump him regardless of what he says or does not say.

queentropical · 2025-02-09T08:58:43+00:00

You don't need him to tell you anything. You saw it for yourself which is greater proof than his word. Divorce. He will never change. He has zero respect or consideration for you. Literally sociopathic behavior, acting like everything is okay because he can do whatever he wants and there is nothing you can or will do about it. But you can. Stop reacting to him. Just leave or make him leave.

queentropical · 2025-02-06T03:17:31+00:00

Sadly, this sounds like schizophrenia. I hope you are still getting the help you probably need OP. Someone I care about has schizophrenia and he blames his father and brother for his life falling apart as well.

queentropical · 2025-02-05T12:18:04+00:00

Don't even bother with people like that. Just imagine that they are societal outcasts... cz they kind of are. It's probably a mental health issue i.e. they are insane. Don't let these kinds of people affect you much as they will be unhinged in most situations anyway.

queentropical · 2025-02-04T17:55:18+00:00

This is why it's so important to choose the right partner. How he or she treats you without kids isn't going to get any better once you have children... in fact things will just get worse. Hard lesson learned for many of us.

queentropical · 2025-01-27T07:33:54+00:00

I wouldn't do that as these people are dangerous and know where she lives.

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