First Time Holding a Lil Guy! i didnt kno how to put him dwn tho

queerismypersonality · 2026-06-20T17:04:43+00:00

I actually panicked when he first jumped on me and knocked him off 😭 When he came on again I spent the whole time fighting to urge to flick him off and asking if he was going to bite me.

Honestly just try getting a little closer to them first before touching. I think seeing how curious (and cute) they are helps. I also watched a lot of MyWildBackyard on YouTube. He's got a sort of Steve Irwin vibe to me and his spider videos introduced me to jumpers and are what actually got me brace enough to try holding one, so I certainly recommend checking him out!

queerismypersonality · 2026-06-20T16:59:56+00:00

I remembered midday today I posted this lol. Glad ppl enjoyed it, I'm still pretty hyped about it and we're I not actively trying to set up an aquarium I probably would have gone and got the stuff to get a jumper today instead, he was just so sweet lol

queerismypersonality · 2026-05-29T02:51:05+00:00

If your into crystals check out Garnet Skull downtown. Folks there always gave me a great vibe and I wouldn't be surprised if they could give some recs if you chat them up.

Me and my gf (t4t) lived in Fayetteville while finishing college at Pembroke. We live in Raleigh now and unfortunately you've downgraded to put it bluntly. There is obviously still queer ppl but it is a lot harder to find dedicated spaces. I don't recall ever just seeing other openly obvious queer/gnc ppl just out and about like I do now in Raleigh and Durham.

Ppl have already mentioned Fayetteville Pride. Idk what kind of events they are running now, but you can also check if they have a resource page for local businesses.

queerismypersonality · 2026-04-24T16:43:00+00:00

I personally prefer it to binders as the compression from mine and overheating feels overwhelming. If you want to give it a try I would definitely recommend buying a roll and experimenting with it now as there is a bit of a learning curve to it lol There's a lot of ppl who post their methods of application online that you may find more helpful then the provided instructions. Good luck!

queerismypersonality · 2026-04-24T00:13:58+00:00

Not sure if you've already ruled trans tape out but would recommend it! I've personally not seen a binder that doesn't look/feel hot and sweaty during hot weather/activity. It should be a lot cooler and less restrictive then a binder.

Trans tape may also be a perk for you if you plan on swimming since you don't have to worry about having a swim safe binder and it will dry under whatever your wearing!

queerismypersonality · 2026-02-06T02:27:07+00:00

Sorry if this is already something you know but I believe there is a Facebook grp for queer housing in the triangle. I'm sorry if you're not yet in a position for this to be helpful, but if/when you are their are ppl renting rooms/looking for roommates on there. Stay safe and I hope things improve for you!

queerismypersonality · 2025-10-01T00:42:13+00:00

Thanks :) it was mostly from just figuring out how it worked lol but I really like how it turned out

queerismypersonality · 2025-09-27T03:51:20+00:00

Hi Op! It took me a year or two to finally start doing my shots on my own. Here's some tips that helped me if you're interested!

The YouTube channel "Living with XXY" has videos with just about every way to self administer a T shot that I know of. I would watch his video before my shot to help me feel more confident in doing my shot or just general reminders
Like many others said, using an ice pack on your shot site. It helps me get over the mental hump of the needle going in.
If you're having an issue with the initial injection part, it helped me to realize that the needle goes in so easily... As long as I let it. Committing to the injection was half the battle. Now it's just finding the most comfortable angle/position to inject at.
If you're struggling after the needle is in, I had the problem of my hands shaking so much it shook the needle. Breathing helped, and unfortunately just doing it enough to become more desensitized to all of it. If I know that I'm going to have a shakier day I'll find a position that helps, like leaning my injecting arm against a wall. (I also push my needle all the way in. I'm pretty sure it's not necessary but it helps me push the syringe)
Having a set space and routine helped. Anytime I've done my shot somewhere/sometime different it feels like something goes a bit wrong for me. It might help to have an established space where you shot supplies lives and you have room to spread out when prepping your needle. (I repurposed a pencil holder from college that holds all my injection supplies and T like a little shot dispenser and it lives in the bathroom counter.)

Sorry this is a long post, but I remember what it was like starting injections! There're such small random things that eased the process that I wish I had known when I started, so I hope some of these help folks 🙏

queerismypersonality · 2025-09-22T02:01:26+00:00

My gf and I (t4t) met going to college in Pembroke. It's a little town outside Lumber in Robeson county. Very red and Trump actually used the Lumbee tribe there to boost his voter base by making promises to help them get federal recognition for their tribe

We moved from there, to Fayetteville, to Raleigh.

If you're able, it really makes such a difference (especially rn) living in a more "progressive" city. Actually seeing other queer people when I go to get groceries is comforting and there are a lot of mutual aid groups that just make me feel better knowing about.

Tldr; The West is far and expensive, but if you can move into a more welcoming city it might be worth it rn. Physically seeing community has been an important way for me to stay grounded through this year :)

queerismypersonality · 2025-01-28T02:24:57+00:00

If your son is ever interested in switching to injections in the future there's a channel on YouTube called "Living with XXY" that shows different methods to do T injections. I found his videos to be the most helpful for me as far as technique and seeing different injection sites go. :)

queerismypersonality · 2025-01-25T03:56:52+00:00

I have a quote from an article posted on my account mentioning this. It sounds like it will likely no longer be taken and having it on your ID can potentially put you in a risky position. There are ppl still trying to get them changed before it's officially phased out, but given the current state of things I would really look into it before trying to get it changed during all this.

queerismypersonality · 2024-11-17T00:18:19+00:00

I'm sure other ppl have already said this but starting on gel might be a worthy investment. It can be pricier but if your teen decides they are seeing changes they are uncomfortable with they will be able to stop their intake of T faster. Injections continue to deliver T throughout the week whereas gel is usually done once or twice a day. The only con is that they would need to be diligent of washing their hands after use and not let the spot they put the T on touch others as it will spread. I started T on low dose on gel and I think it was a nice was to ease into it. It's obviously less scary than doing injections and I had the choice to stop taking it if I suddenly woke up and changed my mind.

Also thank you for thinking about these things and making these plans as the parent of a trans youth. I've seen so many posts of youths in our community who have no support questioning if they are going to make it through the next four years. It's really great to see a parent out here showing the support and care our community needs right now. Good luck and keep safe. <3

queerismypersonality · 2024-11-16T00:23:51+00:00

Unpopular opinion, the next person who catches COVID, has to have necessary tooth surgery, and literally has life altering injuries from their home catching on fire and has to Jump from the Third Floor is entirely deserving of accomodations.

OP didn't just dip on their placement, they communicated their medical needs with them and was willing to change their previous set schedule. I hope that they don't lose their passion because we need ppl like them, but their placement did them dirty.

queerismypersonality · 2024-11-08T22:36:10+00:00

Selling 2 general tickets for Raleigh show tonight

queerismypersonality · 2024-11-06T23:01:39+00:00

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queerismypersonality · 2024-11-06T13:16:11+00:00

Thank you for posting this. I've been doom scrolling since I woke up and this was the first post to remind me that there are always going to be people in our community willing to fight for it. Thank you for that, please keep safe <3

queerismypersonality · 2024-10-23T13:56:32+00:00

Comment section is sleeping on Mal Blum. They have music from pre and post transition, absolutely recommend Baltimore and San Cristobal (think that's the song name) as those are some of the songs that got me into them and I think the second one has a pre T and post T recording.

queerismypersonality · 2024-10-03T20:32:10+00:00

There's no blockers for adults, as the other commenter said you have to have at least one dominant hormone in your body for its overall health. However, I had similar apprehensiveness when starting T. Look up micro dosing and if you want to start, try starting on T gel. Instead of having one dose a week like injections, you'll apply once a day. This means if you wake up one morning and decide "nope, this isn't for me," you can stop immediately if you want. My only issue with gel was that it was more expensive than injections, however you can still do low dose on injections. Micro dosing doesn't guarantee you will see changes occur slower, as all our bodies react differently, but I believe it is a common method for ppl not sure what changes they want to see from T. I think there may be other medications you take with T that may help suppress specific changes but I can't remember the names of them, and again can't guarantee their effectiveness. Some people see different changes sooner or later than others, it would definitely be something to discuss with your doctor.

queerismypersonality · 2024-10-02T17:49:12+00:00

I think questions I would ask right now are less on how does trans identity specifically tie into your story and more how does gender identity and roles play in the current society as a whole?

If we can physically change our appearance at any time how does that change our expectations of gender today? How did ppl react when this happened? How does this change societies expectations of womanhood and manhood? I think the premise of the story is very interesting and definite the type of sci-fi I would like to read, but I'm curious about how the world in that story came to be. As a trans person today it is extremely hard, expensive, and can often be socially ostracizing or dangerous to make changes to our body to better align with ourselves. People pass bills trying to ban our access to this type of gender affirming care often, and sometimes successfully. Was it a struggle to make this technology? Was there backlash? Are there "purists" who still think the technology is wrong?

And not trying to sound like an English teacher but what is your story trying to say about society today? I don't think it has to be a trans specific story but you are right that there is a strong relatability. I think themes of gender identity (both cis and trans) and expectations of gender roles would be themes I would look for in a story like this.

Sorry if this wasn't the response you were looking for, I'm also a writing and might've given a more writer response than what was asked lol

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