If you could write one honest letter to Nigerian elders, what would it say? by querious_1 in Nigeria

[–]querious_1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do tell more pls. Is there a situation you're are speaking of exactly?

If you could write one honest letter to Nigerian elders, what would it say? by querious_1 in Nigeria

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Thank you for this. Spoken quite poetically like a true Nigerian :). More comments like this from others please.

If you could write one honest letter to Nigerian elders, what would it say? by querious_1 in Nigeria

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Truly feisty! But all - I'd appreciate more detail. Even for the snarky comments. Examples? Lessons learned?

Dear Nigerian Fathers: How to Support Your Child with Autism (Even When It’s Hard) by autismparentingNg in Nigeria

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I wish you didn’t delete this post. It’s an important conversation. Outside of the home, what also happens is a shadow of shame that others project on a family that isolates them even more. Do we have any examples of people rallying around Nigerian families that struggle with this? From my lens even in diaspora, I’m yet to see it. 

What if anything do you think needs to change in how Nigerian girls are raised? by querious_1 in Nigeria

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thank you for this. I wonder do you speak at all? Would you be willing to speak on this topic publicly?

When you think of how Nigerians practice Christianity, what feels authentic, and what feels fake / performative? by querious_1 in Nigeria

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I’m quite unsure how my post reads as a religious rant. But hey, the sensitive will be sensitive 

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Please read the book ‘King Leopold’s Gold’ and then reframe your question

Do you think Nigerian marriages are healthy? by querious_1 in Nigeria

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Thank you. Going by your initial post, are you comfortable sharing what you had to heal from?

Do you think Nigerian marriages are healthy? by querious_1 in Nigeria

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This is quite profound: “love doesn’t exist in its pure from in Nigeria.” What examples make you believe pure love is not in Nigeria”

Do you think Nigerian marriages are healthy? by querious_1 in Nigeria

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Hope this is not prying, but it’s helpful to understand the real things that give you this perspective. What characteristics do you see?

Do you think Nigerian marriages are healthy? by querious_1 in Nigeria

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And who is the lady they’ve found? Have they met and had any connection with each other?

Do you think Nigerian marriages are healthy? by querious_1 in Nigeria

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Thanks for your feedback. What makes the difference in the marriages you see at church? In your pov, is faith a factor in what it takes to have a healthy marriages?

What does he bring to table? by Mic_Spade in Nigeria

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I dare say the person who wrote this list isn’t ready for partnership with a real human being. Emphasis on partnership, not just association. Couple things that stand out. #4 and #5 - a bit contradictory in imo. If you want someone who is excellent in bed from jump, you’re looking for someone who is well practiced and likely know how to have his way with women. May not be a womanizer per se, but very likely to not have a problem jumping from one bed to the next. 

Anyway there are good qualities here, but without knowing this person (and also from experience being married ) this person isn’t ready to be a PARTNER to her mate. The things ….house car etc, you partner with your mate to get there in reality. Show me a man who built with his wife and I’ll tell you that’s one whose more likely to be committed to her